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I offended someone today :(

By ShannyBananny

@shaggin (72141)

United States

August 21, 2016 8:13pm CST

I feel terrible about this. My man and his son went hiking today and we were kind of lost. We were trying to find the nature preserve down all these little dead end roads. I saw a family along the side of the road an older man and woman and a woman about my age. I asked if they knew where the place was. The man said "sorry?" and I thought he couldn't understand English very well as his accent was strong. I said oh you must not be from around here. The young girl said no we just did not hear you. I repeated the question and the man told me the directions and then said the accent is from here we have been here 28 years. I realized at that point I must have badly offended him and I feel terrible about it and was pretty embarrassed. It wasn't until we were done hiking a few hours later and driving home that I realized just how much I must have offended him. I remarked about it my man and he agreed and was like dumb founded by what I had said to the man.

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@LadyDuck (471459)

• Switzerland

22 Aug 16

It was not your intention to offend, he did not heard what you said and you thought he had not understood. Do not feel too depressed for this.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

Thank you for your very smart words you are completely right. I feel a little better after reading your comment.

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@LadyDuck (471459)

• Switzerland

26 Aug 16

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@ricki_911 (21625)

• Toronto, Ontario

22 Aug 16

A lot of people with ascents should realize they are hard to understand. I know my manager at work has a thick accent, and hard to understand.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

22 Aug 16

My man said when I said what I did that I should know that a lot of people in America have accents and that it wasn't that strong and he couldn't believe I said that and just turned his head away ... in disgust most likely. I always put my foot in my mouth when I talk :(

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

22 Aug 16

I hardly think that was an insult just saying that you didn't think he was local. I wouldn't beat myself up about it.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

24 Aug 16

I wonder if I said "Oh you have an accent out loud" before that.. it was what I was thinking but I don't think it came out of my mouth. I never meant it as rude I just assumed they were vacationing or something and wouldn't know the area.

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@hostessman (11871)

• Tucson, Arizona

22 Aug 16

these things happen now and then.. you didn't do it on purpose so don't worry,be happy

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

24 Aug 16

I definitely did not mean to hurt his feelings. Oh well I will try not to let it eat me up anymore especially since I doubt I will ever see him again nor would we remember each other if we did.

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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)

• United States

22 Aug 16

I am sure it wasn't as bad as you think it was. If their accebtvwas hard to understand like you stated then I am getting it happens a lot more then you think. My college has a lot of foreign people and we have to ask them several times to repeat what they said and they have to do it for us as well. As long as you were polite about it that is what matters.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

24 Aug 16

I hope this family was not to badly offended. You are right in the situation you wrote.. Politeness is the most important thing.

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@Happy2BeMe (99380)

• Canada

22 Aug 16

It happens sometimes. It is hard to not offend people at one time or another. Don't beat yourself up about it. You know now it was a mistake so don't let it bother you. You meant no harm.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

Thank you so much you are exactly right. I need to stop letting this eat me up. The people I offended probably have already gotten over it.

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@toniganzon (72281)

• Philippines

22 Aug 16

You didn't intend to anyway.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

No I truly didn't mean to offend anyone but I did accidentally offend them so I feel terrible.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

26 Aug 16

@toniganzon I do agree if we didn't mean to do it we don't have to feel bad. That makes a lot of sense but I just beat myself up over everything!

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@toniganzon (72281)

• Philippines

25 Aug 16

@shaggin I read something about offending someone yesterday and learned that you don't have to feel sorry for it.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37355)

• Toccoa, Georgia

26 Aug 16

Don't feel too bad about it, we all have said things to people we didn't mean to.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

29 Aug 16

Hopefully I can stop feeling bad about it soon. I let things get to me too much.

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@simone10 (54187)

• Louisville, Kentucky

22 Aug 16

I wouldn't worry about it too much. It wasn't like you meant to offend him.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

I know but I feel bad :-( The more I think about it the worse I feel. It is so nice reading all these kind words it does make me feel better.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

@simone10 Same here but it takes a LOT to offend me!

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@simone10 (54187)

• Louisville, Kentucky

25 Aug 16

@shaggin I'm glad that you are feeling better about it. If I had been on the receiving end, I would not have been offended.

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@DaddyEvil (137259)

• United States

13 Sep 16

Hon, if the man's accent was not the same as your accent and you have lived in that area your whole life, then I would have ask where he came from. He must still carry his boyhood accent with him. Did the girl have the same type of accent the man had? If not, then I would have pointed out how much easier it was for you to understand her than it was for you to understand him. He should have been used to people saying that unless he never spoke to anyone new.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

13 Sep 16

The girl did not have an accent at all. My guess is she was born in America. I think I am done feeling guilty about this now finally.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

14 Sep 16

@DaddyEvil Yeah I'm always overthinking :-(

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@DaddyEvil (137259)

• United States

13 Sep 16

@shaggin Good! I was hoping you were! I know you have a tendency to over-think some things, so was hoping I could help by throwing a bit of logic at you!

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crazyhorseladycx

@crazyhorseladycx (39509)

• United States

22 Aug 16

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

I wish I could go back in time and think ahead before I spoke.

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@cacay1 (83505)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

22 Aug 16

You did not offend the man, it was he arrogant and unfriendly.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

Well he seemed very nice until the very end where he said about his accent and living here 28 years then I could tell he was offended :-(

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@Plethos (13581)

• United States

22 Aug 16

i was born here in southern california, and people think im from out of state because i dont have the "californian" accent. you know, the "spanglish" one.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

I've lived in this town in PA my whole life and have been told many times over the years that I have an accent. It never offends me.

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@DaddyEvil (137259)

• United States

13 Sep 16

@Plethos LMFAO! I can see (and hear) you talking with a Canadian accent, Plethos! I am still giggling!)

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@Plethos (13581)

• United States

25 Aug 16

@shaggin - ive been asked if im from Texas or even Canada ! CANADA, eh ! tok aboot being way oof !

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@122037 (284)

• Vancouver, British Columbia

26 Aug 16

I offended someone a few days ago . But that was not my intertion . I think that guy probobal misunstood my words

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

29 Aug 16

Aww I am sorry to hear that. I hope you do not let it get to you like it did with me. I felt so terrible!

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

29 Aug 16

@122037 Thats great news! Is your real name Porter? I have a nephew named that!

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• Vancouver, British Columbia

29 Aug 16

@shaggin no worries , we are cool now after I communicated with Him serval times .

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@sishy7 (27167)

• Australia

22 Aug 16

you're just spontaneous and didn't mean any harm... the man probably realized that too...

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

24 Aug 16

I tend to say what I am thinking and realize after it shouldn't have come out of my mouth.

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@skysnap (20153)

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22 Aug 16

I think you need to forgive yourself for that and move on :)

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

I know I wish it was easier for me to do that. I beat myself up over everything.

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@sol_cee (38219)

• Philippines

22 Aug 16

You didn't mean to offend him, right? So it's okay.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

No I definitely did not mean to offend him :-(

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@shivamani10 (11035)

• Hyderabad, India

22 Aug 16

Oh..you are silly.

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@shaggin (72141)

• United States

25 Aug 16

I'm glad no one here thinks what I said was horrible or mean. I truly did not mean to offend anyone.

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