Let There Be Peace on Earth
@BelleStarr (61102)
United States
August 25, 2016 8:56am CST
Is it just me or are things getting mean here on MyLot? This is a friendly site where you write something to get a discussion started. The idea is to interact, be friendly, make friends, be kind, get to know each other, not to be mean and critical.
If you come across a post that makes no sense to you, then move on or report it. Don't get all mean with the writer. No one should ever feel like they are being attacked here.
Has it happened to me? No, not in a long time but I am reading about it on other people's posts and I am seeing some comments on other's posts that are borderline mean. Funny, sarcastic, even inappropriate is fine but stop the critique. Most of us are adults and don't really appreciate unsolicited critical comments.
If you have a helpful comment that will improve a user's experience, by all means share it but no one should be belittled or made to feel stupid because of their grammar, spelling or ideas. It just isn't right.
It is time to nip this in the bud and get back to what makes this site unique and fun, friendly interaction.
Nuff Said!! and as my mother always said " If you can't say something nice, don't say anything".
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@akalinus (43196)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I just read a discussion where the writer blasted "you people" for an imagined infraction of how he thought things should be. He called the responders childish and ignorant among other things. Maybe he was just having a bad day, but it rubbed most of us the wrong way.
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@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
25 Aug 16
I just ran across that discussion and left my 2 cents worth there! 
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
@beaniefanatic13 II read your comment and you stated it all very well. Honestly I reported two of his comments to people, name calling is not allowed here.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I haven't seen that post but I saw another one where the poster had obviously been hurt by critical comments.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50250)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I totally agree. Mylot should be a fun place to spend time.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
It should be and no one should come on here and be made to feel bad.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr This type of harassment is unacceptable on any social site and needs to be reported.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
@Asylum I did just report two comments that had name calling in them and are way beyond what is acceptable.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
Yes, it is disturbing that people are feeling that they can criticise another member. It needs to stop.
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@Hate2Iron (15727)
• Canada
25 Aug 16
I guess that I have been one of the lucky ones. I haven't met anyone mean yet!!
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
May it stay that way forever!! But unfortunately some people have decided they are the arbitrators of what is a good post and what is not.
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@akalinus (43196)
• United States
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr They are all over the internet. You can't escape unless you give up technology.
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@CinnamonGrl (7084)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
25 Aug 16
Sadly it seems there is no social site without some people being mean to others. I'm trying to just avoid those folks.And to avoid topics that have the potential to create meanness in me as well.
I have always agreed with not chiding the writer. If they are new, I will explain why the post will likely be deleted.That kind of thing. But yeh I've seen people dressing each other down, it's a shame. I don't like the attacks either.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
It has been escalating lately and I don't know if it is because the site is growing but it is not a good trend.
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@CinnamonGrl (7084)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr No, it isn't for sure.
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@JamesHxstatic (29413)
• Eugene, Oregon
26 Aug 16
I have run across little of that on this site, but hope that it does not become common.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
I think it needs to be nipped in the bud before it spreads.
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@rebelann (112879)
• El Paso, Texas
25 Aug 16
Thankfully I haven't run across anything like that and if I should happen to I would move on, it isn't worth worrying about although we can report comments if they are offensive.
I haven't seen one that offends as yet, maybe I'm lucky I haven't.
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@rebelann (112879)
• El Paso, Texas
25 Aug 16
I rarely read other peoples comments unless it involves those limericks you guys like to make @BelleStarr too bad more people can't just keep it light and friendly.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I am seeing them on other people's posts and it is surprising which members feel like they can make them.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
Oh there was some very mean things said today, someone called ignorant for starters, not me but another member. I saw the comment myself.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
@jaboUK I think that member needs to be spoken to by admin. This can't be allowed to flourish.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I went and hunted it out after I read some of the responses here, and you are right - it was quite nasty and completely unnecessary.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
lol Your comments are always kinds and thoughful and welcome lol 
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
Yes I think many of us have felt that.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
25 Aug 16
I have not had problems here, ever. But I have this one lady that had a blog on the same site I write for that is also a friend on facebook, she will message me and tell me HOW to space things properly, or that I misspelled a word, like its her business or that she is the sites owner.
I do not want to be mean but I wished she would back off!
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
lol I didn't mean to do it!! lol I always apologize if I point out a spelling error and so it on a comment that can be deleted.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr LOL, well at least she does it privately but it still irks me, usually its a typo , like form and I intended to type from, nothing major that spell check would even detect.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
It's a good advise; to ignore it if you do not like the post; that way, no one would be hurt; to make this place a really friendly one.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
we are all equal on this site and we should be friendly.
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@Jeanniemaries (8237)
• United States
25 Aug 16
My parents always said the same thing. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
If only some members would take that advice to heart, things would be a lot more friendly around here.
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@Jeanniemaries (8237)
• United States
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I haven't seen it, just heard about it.
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@ModernDayWriter (3318)
• New Delhi, India
26 Aug 16
Somehow you are right but person like @DaddyEvil & @vandana7 can help us though in improving our grammar and spelling mistakes 
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@vandana7 (100282)
• India
26 Aug 16
@ModernDayWriter . About an year ago, DE used to be very good in English. His bad days started. I started following him. Now he tries to convey everything in my proprietary English as I can't always understand English as the native English speakers use. Effectively, he is learning my English but I have stopped learning their English. Did you understand?
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accept it or not 
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
i stay away for a while when i get disappointed at what i see here.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I am sorry that you feel you have to stay away, you should never have to do that.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr that's why i'm okay with my slow earnings here.
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@VidaVida (133)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
26 Aug 16
@hereandthere take it easy pal... Different people, different motives..
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
26 Aug 16
i dunno if'n some folks jest lack manners all 'f a sudden, 'r if'n i'm jest runnin' 'nto t'em finally :( seems i missed the discussion y'all're writin' 'f (thankfully so, coz my b.s. meter 'tis maxed this week...) 'n i hope that admin tends to 'em quickly. there's no place fer that sorta thingy here.
my momma still says such...but that'd mean i'd ne'er utter a sound lately nor dribble a single word, lol.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
lol Silence is Golden, lol This was a particularly egregious case of name calling, really bad. No one should refer to members as "you people" and ignorant.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
I hope that admin will take some action, this member needs to understand that this will not be tolerated.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
@JudyEv I did report the specific comments.
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@JudyEv (340019)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr Hopefully he will get reported if he hasn't been already.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
26 Aug 16
I hadn't noticed yet but agree- hear! hear!
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
I saw a comment which made me go look for the discussion and it was appalling frankly.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I did come across one that was rude language- not enough to report it- just disdainful and borderline foul- but not mean- but yes, I agree with you completely! Keep it friendly and upbeat here and therefore pleasant!
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
This particular case was way beyond that it was name calling. Members here help each other with their English and that is usually appreciated.
@Genipher (5405)
• United States
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr
Oh. I thought you mentioned someone getting harassed for their spelling and grammar. Even without the name-calling, it's against the rules.
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@fengqishi (50)
• Beijing, China
26 Aug 16
I feel a little bit lucky and happpy because I didn't read that post and have never seen this situation on this site, but I still hope deeply that everyone feel friendly, happy, and fuuny on MyLot. What's more, I really want to appreciate you, my friends, for never laughing my grammer or spelling mistakes. In fact, sometimes I just worry about making mistakes as I have not been good at English that is my second language. Thank you very much!
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
26 Aug 16
We are not here to laugh at or belittle each other, we have much to learn from one another.
