how do i change his perception about me?

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On the completion of 4yrs of relationship, my boyfriend has a perception about me that 1. I always keep on blaming him for every little thing. 2. I dont trust him. 3. I doubt him. 4. I dont give him space. 5. He will be blasted if he spoke the truth to me that he had been getting involved in his female colleagues and also friends. 6. His night will be ruined if i have checked his phone, bcuz he might be generally chatting with other gals there, but I am taking it serious., and thinking him to be flirting. 7. He stays away thinking that that would solve the issue and then there will be no fights. 8. Past words, behaviors, statements, blames and allegations are so much stuck up in his mind that he always evaluates or assumes that I will react in that way only with him. MY reality. 1. I dont blame him, I confront him only when I have the proof that he has been lying or hiding from me. 2. I do trust him. But initially he had given me a reason to distrust him, thereafter, he on a continuous basis gave me such little reasons to distrust him, and tried to convince me that he wasnt doing anything wrong. 3. b'cuz,as above 4. I do give him space. we dont live together so he has all the space he wants. And we both are working people, so we speak on call only when we get lil time off from work plus late night calls. during all day, he meets his colleagues, go out with them, spend weekends with them, weekends with families, movies and all. i dont understand what space am i not giving him? 5. that's not true at all. this insecurity again developed due to #2. 6. again for that, #2. He had been chatting previously with gals and hide from me. And for all this behavior he is never ashamed nor guilty. Rather asks me to be more open-minded. Telling me that m over thinking that he isnt involved with any gal. He is of a flirty nature. 7. whenever we have a fight, we accuse each other but never comeback again to communicate calmly. Due to this, today the situation is that he will go away for hrs n hrs, wont communicate me. no call. no msg. i feel its better to be in communication rather than giving a cold shoulder. 8. so is the case with both of us. i want to change all this, but only i am thinking and doing all the efforts. he never makes an effort to rebuild my trust. on the contrary keeps me taunting back that. "i know no mater what, u wont trust me". how do i change all of his this perceptions?