Unmarried But Happy... Married But Unhappy
By Cristy
@magallon (19279)
Philippines
September 2, 2016 2:54am CST
I know some women who are unmarried but saying that they are happy.
They said that life is more enjoyable if you are single.
No hassles.
No worries.
No arguments.
And most especially, stress free.
I also know some women who are married but unhappy.
They said, they regret the time they got married.
Being married is full of problems.
You worry a lot
More times there are arguments, there are misunderstandings.
And most especially, full of stress that may cause depression.
I don't know which is which?
Because I was once married but now single because I am widowed.
My married life was consist of both happiness and stress.
But my single life now is sometimes depressing , and most of the time , happy.
What do you think will you choose between the two?
Unmarried but happy?
Or married but unhappy?
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16 responses
@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
2 Sep 16
Yes being happy is based also on the individual.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
Happiness is only a state of mind that we ourselves make, I was happy when I was single for a long time because i had almost everything I wanted and free to live my life as I please.
I was happy when I got married to a young, loyal and pretty woman, I was happy with the new experience and I was happy how both of us raised our children to what they are now and my children make me happy as well.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
@cacay1 we make it happy as we want it to be even though it's not a perfect life, problems will always be there also.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
2 Sep 16
@louievill, very good life full of happiness with your loves.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
for me i don't know because despite of so many problems am happy with my family.we are just in the middle section category of life but we are happy
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
2 Sep 16
@ilocosboy, very good boy from Ilocos.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
22 Oct 17
I was married and have been divorced for many years now. I prefer not to remarry again. My marriage was wrong in so many ways. I had a miscarriage and no children because after awhile we did not sleep together and it was best not to be tied to him ever again. Being divorced I do not have to answer to anyone but my cat. I can stay home or not. I can go to bed early if I want and get up when I want. I can relax. There are times it is hard, but, there really is not anyone out there. It was very hard to meet the right men here before I got married and after my divorce. I decided I am better off not having anyone around telling me what to do and criticizing me.
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@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
23 Oct 17
Thanks for commenting on this.
I also have the same reason why I did not marry again. they said that I am still young and should remarry but for me it is not a good idea anymore.
It's true that it is difficult sometimes but I think there are more positives than negatives in being single.
I have children who are professionals and have their own jobs now.
I think I am already contented with my life as a widow.
@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
23 Oct 17
@magallon
Cristy, I understand completely why you do not want to remarry. How did your husband die? Just think of the things you can accomplish in your life without someone telling you you cannot do that or that it is stupid. You get to decide what is stupid or not.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
2 Sep 16
This seems to be the trend nowadays. Hard to find true love nowadays.
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@rairaianne14 (316)
• Quezon City, Philippines
7 Sep 16
I am not married, I am not single but I am happy. Yes being happy is a matter of choice. As for me it may sounds liberated for some, I choose not to be married until I feel this is the time to be married. Due to some people that I saw that are married but unhappy and they just choose to separate. So I finally decided that even if I have a child, I will still be married when I feel that it is the right time. :)
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@rairaianne14 (316)
• Quezon City, Philippines
7 Sep 16
@magallon it's nice to participate in this kind of topics. Makes us think outside the box. Thanks also!
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@radhruv (135)
• New Delhi, India
7 Sep 16
Being happy is an individual's way of looking at life. The image formed is different for different people. It's just like whether you see an half empty glass or an half full glass. Eventually the aim should be the life of the person is on a satisfactory path and leading a content life
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@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
15 Sep 16
people who are single and are happy are mostly independent and prefers freedom..most of the time they have activities in life that keep them involved/ occupied...
people who are married but unhappy have problems that they do not know how to solve, most of the time in relation to marriage..
i was married but unhappy cos my ex was not suitable for me...
i was single and happy for a period of time as i enjoyed the freedom
i was single and lonely therefore i moved on to another relationship
i am married again and am happy...
Happiness do not depend on whether one is single or married...it depends on what you want and whether you think you got what you wanted...
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@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
15 Sep 16
@magallon yup! its more from self...=)
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@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
23 Oct 17
Being happy or unhappy is within the recipe of married life.
Marriage is not at all times happy and also not at all times unhappy.
It depends on the couple on how they maintain their good relationship.
It depends on how they love and respect each other.
And it depends on how they manage their relationship.
Yes. It has something to do with economics.
You work and earn for your family's needs.
You spend some and you save some.
@PurnaSharma (2562)
• Guwahati, India
2 Sep 16
In india both type of person get depressed. ..married during day time and unmarried at night.LOL
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@ModernDayWriter (3318)
• New Delhi, India
2 Sep 16
I am unmarried sometimes happy sometimes stressed, and sure same situation after marriage to, happiness and sadness is other sides of coin
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