Would you invite your ex to your wedding?
By Hazel Vee
@epiffanie (11326)
Australia
September 2, 2016 4:58am CST
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A few years ago, I made a wedding dress for a lady who was twice married before so this was her 3rd marriage.. She was so happy with the dress that she invited me to attend her wedding..
It was only a small wedding, about 50 people attended. Where I was seated, a gentleman introduced himself and his lady companion .. I found out that the lady was the ex wife of the groom..
I could not work it out how anyone can invite ex to their wedding. I was newly divorced at that time and there is no way I could be in one room with my ex let alone inviting him to my wedding .. Even now, after all these years, there is no way ..
But isn't that nice that some couples can be civil and supportive of one another that way?.. Though I wonder why they divorced if they got along fine.. Maybe it was just me, I had a horrible marriage that I filed for divorce or one of us could end up dead or jailed...
It was an eye opener for me, that people divorce even if they got along fine..
Anyway, would you invite your ex to your wedding? Would you be comfortable if your new husband's or wife's ex is at your wedding too? Or would you attend your ex's wedding?
I won't ..
Bess..
(photo is one of my designs on display at our local mall )
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
like ogie alcasid, regine velasquez and michelle van eimeren's situation? i think it's great that they all get along.
i love the color. is it part of an event at the mall?
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@Letranknight2015 (51957)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
I think they had a good closure @hereandthere that's why.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
3 Sep 16
@hereandthere , I remember Regine Velasquez but I don't know her story.. But if she gets along with her ex, that's wonderful..
The Australian Fashion Awards organiser borrowed that gown to display in the mall for a week leading up to the Awards night.. Thanks for asking.. 
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
3 Sep 16
what do you mean by skip relatives, too @skysnap? are you going to elope and just have two witnesses?
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
3 Sep 16
ahahah! I feel the same .. If I was still single now, I will just get married to myself and celebrate all by myself ..lol..
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@Letranknight2015 (51957)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
Because they finally had the strength to move on, i think in our country, it's hard to do that. Maybe they had talks and finally chose to reconcile and forgive each other.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
3 Sep 16
Yes it's less heartaches when people get along ..
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@Letranknight2015 (51957)
• Philippines
3 Sep 16
@epiffanie I mean if your happy with each others new love, there's no harm done.
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That´s a lovely dress Bess.@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
5 Sep 16
You have been spared from heartache .. that's good!
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
2 Sep 16
I love that dress...you are very talented.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
4 Sep 16
@responsiveme thanks for taking notice of my creations
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
3 Sep 16
@epiffanie thats two of your creations I have seen:)
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@paritosh36118 (140)
• New Delhi, India
2 Sep 16
@epiffanie My ex got married when I wasn't ready for marriage in terms of career. I was not invited nor I would have attended her wedding. I would not invite my ex to my wedding. There will be some heartache for me if she were there.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
3 Sep 16
Yes I understand how awkward it would be .. I hope you have moved on though and happy now ..
@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
13 Nov 16
Hi, Bess.
I'm friends with all of my exes. I'm not friends with their wives/girlfriends but some of my exes and i talked about them freely in the past. I met one of them in fact. And one ex boyfriend got married late last year and we talked about him getting excited to have a baby soon.
All my relationships ended for a reason, of course. I can never call endings a happy ending at all. Some of them are too painful but i always see to it that no matter what -- i will still be a friend. we will still respect each other. So to answer your question, yes i will invite them.
I'm friends with all of my exes. I'm not friends with their wives/girlfriends but some of my exes and i talked about them freely in the past. I met one of them in fact. And one ex boyfriend got married late last year and we talked about him getting excited to have a baby soon.
All my relationships ended for a reason, of course. I can never call endings a happy ending at all. Some of them are too painful but i always see to it that no matter what -- i will still be a friend. we will still respect each other. So to answer your question, yes i will invite them. 
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
3 Sep 16
Yes indeed.. that was the first time I heard of that happening ..But it's good that they didn't feel anger towards the exes..
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Sep 16
I do not have any exes but I would not have invited anyone I had been involved with to m y wedding either. one should make a fresh start.
@LeaPea2417 (37353)
• Toccoa, Georgia
8 Sep 16
I would never invite an ex to my wedding and I would never attend an ex's wedding. And , you are right, I just don't get how some couples who get along, end up getting divorced. It doesn't make sense.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
9 Sep 16
It is puzzling to me why people who get along in their marriage get divorce ..
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
3 Sep 16
I can't imagine myself sending invites to my ex either ..and I don't think I would appreciate it if my new husband would invite his ex to our wedding ..
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Sep 16
@epiffanie No, if I was going to get married right now, I wouldn't want my new husband to invite his ex either.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
3 Sep 16
Maybe it depends on what kind of person is the ex .. right? ..
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
I won't, and would not attend their wedding. I would be showing a fake smile if I do.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
16 Nov 17
I am never getting married again. My marriage was not great either. If I did get married I would never ever invite my ex to my wedding.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
6 Sep 16
I never really had an ex. My husband is my first and last boyfriend and he will be my only husband forever. But I admire those who were able to have friendly relation with their ex although I understand those who could not.
