When Friends Are Out of Reach

I feel that way sometimes with some people that their showing concern is not genuine .. When I am unwell, I don't like people visiting me .. Not many people know when I am not okay ..It's better that way..

In fact, you are very luck that there are so many friends pay you a visit when you in hospital.

Oh dear..I realize how it is...but I think we all do it to an extent. In a day, we may just have an hour to spare, and we actually squeeze out that hour. Today one friend may be down, and tomorrow another, at times, family needs us, and at times, we just want to enjoy. Trust me a continuous allocation of time will bore you of that friend and make you take him or her for granted. The fact that they were there when chips were down itself means they cared as they could all have avoided calling you up, visiting you and letting others know. At least, they were not indifferent. A few good friends would always have time for you. :)

Well, at least they paid a visit while you were in the hospitals. I know many that would have never showed up.

A lot of people are guilty of being in their own little world, and living in a bubble.

There's a number of things I thought about when reading your initial post. Number one, it's pretty cool that you had a large number of people come visit you when you were in the hospital! My mom has been in and out of the hospital the past few years and the only visitors she's had have been my dad, my sister, and myself. The fact that such a large number of people came to see how you were doing is actually a pretty big deal. Now, I do understand that it's kind of disheartening that once you got out these people seem to disappear. But I feel like that's life. I'm taking an Interpersonal Communication course, and I read that we can only maintain 10 close relationships at a time. I know that there are many people in my life that I consider to be close friends, but I rarely get to see them. My very best friend and I saw each other for the last time six months ago - but it's hard to make time when we're both working, going to school (her for a master's and PhD in pharmacy), and all of life's other obligations, like weddings, parties, baby showers and family functions. It's hard enough for us to find a day that works to meet up for lunch! I don't mean to try to minimize your concern, I guess I'm just trying to showcase the other side. It's easier to find time when you say "oh sorry I have to cancel, I have a friend in the hospital" than say "oh I have to cancel, I'm going to go hang out with someone else instead"..

It is always good to have friends in life and also spend time with them. You are right and we should always try to reach out our friends when we have time.

I think it was nice they took the time to go to the hospital to see you at all. I don't think too many would come to see me except family and a few very close friends.

I think skype works for me most of the time. Apart from that I think internet is full enough to have some friends connected.

I think only my family will pay me a visit if i am ever hospitalized. I haven't had visit from former classmates or friends in mylot for a long time.

there's a difference between a friend and an acquaintance,