Long distance relationships and marriage

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After I finished writing, I realized it's a bit too long. Please, bear with me. My boyfriend is coming to visit me next week. It's been like six months we last met. Yes, looking forward to having a good time. He is very affectionate towards me among lots of other things and I really cherish that. We've got three days and there's so much that we want to do. So many things we gotta talk in person and not on whatsapp or call. One such thing is marriage. I'm in a bit of a dilemma. So, if you people could give some advice... The issue is sort of hanging in there because nobody wants to discuss. Beating the bush sort of thing. I want to get a proper job before getting married. But I need some time for that. A year or two. He wants to get married next year. ( I know, pretty unusual). He has a reason though. I have some psychotic issues and it'll be lot easier if I actually live with someone close instead of being all alone. And he is very caring and sincere towards this. His institution has two types of accommodations. Single scholar (family not allowed) and married scholar (allowed). So, he can't live with me without getting married. But, there's this but in my mind that keeps on shouting "stable financial independence then marraige". So, I don't know what to do. And we really need to discuss this when we meet. And I guess I should be the one initiating the conversation because the conflict is mine.... Please help.