Be A Good Girl or Boy

@SIMPLYD (90721)
Philippines
September 9, 2016 3:06am CST
Last week , as I was riding home a public jeepney , I heard a group of girls in front of me asking their friend to go malling with them the next day . But the girl said , “No I won’t , because I would like to be a good girl and help at home , so mother will give me the money to buy a new pair of shoes “ . I smiled because I remembered us siblings, during our childhood, being always told by our mother that if we will be good girls and help in the chores at home , she will buy us new dresses . And so we will always have new dresses or whatever we wish for them to buy us at the end of the week , whenever we help in the household chores . Thus , that way too ,we learned at an early age how to wash the dishes , sweep the floor and tidy our bedrooms after waking up. Have you been motivated like that in your childhood too ?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
our home is our first school, must like that our teachers are our second parents
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
Correct . So , even in school we should be rewarded when we get high score in tests - A star on our arms .he he he
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Sep 16
so true.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
10 Sep 16
@cacay1 here is a thumb up sign for both if us, co-teacher.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
9 Sep 16
I always did chores and helped around the house but I didn't need a reward to do it. I wasn't one to go out much back then.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
Your parents are lucky to have you . They don't need to motivate you to help in the chores at home . Though , in a way , the motivation thing is also good because it would seem we work for our new clothes and other wants , at least .
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe And you raised them well my friend .
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
9 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD Oh yes for sure. I always had want I needed. I would always reward my children when they helped out. It did them well. They are not both successful young adults who have good morals and values.
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@allknowing (137781)
• India
9 Sep 16
My mother was excellent in motivating us. She would make a nice sweet dish to be served after we finished whatever chore was lined up for us (lol)
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
Wow, same as my mother . She also would always make us nice dishes . Oh don't we mothers always makes delicious foods for our children ?
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@allknowing (137781)
• India
9 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD That wink says it all (lol) I remember someone would make her daughter swab the floor and tell her that it is good for her to remain slim. That was mean. Don't you thin?
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
@allknowing Yes, that one is a bit mean . But i think it is true though .
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@LadyDuck (472073)
• Switzerland
9 Sep 16
I remember that I helped my mom when I was young, but there was no compensation. This was part of the learning.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
@LadyDuck PrEcisely . That 's what our father told us , but still they would reward us . ha ha ha
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@LadyDuck (472073)
• Switzerland
9 Sep 16
@cacay1 My parents thought that "bribing" to have the work done was not a good practice. We had to be nice and do what they requested, just because we were asked.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Sep 16
@LadyDuck , That is the best.
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@mavlana (1019)
• India
9 Sep 16
I am bit moody...can't be motivated by such gifts...yeah.but I help my mum whenever she's in need.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
But at least you help your mum when she needs your help .
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
No, we did not have that motivation when we were kids but helped tend our store, the girls did the dishes and washing and they also helped in the store. No motivation from our parents but we knew they would give what was essential for us.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
Wow, good for your parents because they have very obedient and helpful children . I guess , we weren't that because we have a helper . Thus , our parents have to motivate us so we will learn and help on the chores at home . But that's okay , because they like doing that too .
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Sep 16
@sunrisefan , wow good boy.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
10 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD We had no househelp. My mother did the cooking and my sisters would help too.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
No friend, we did not, we were too poor to be promised of material things, we helped in the chores because we were trained that way.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
That should really be the right thing. Even if we are not to be rewarded we should help in chores at home .
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Sep 16
@ramapo17 You were so trained when you were a child, very much appreciated.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
10 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD I agree completely. Things are different now as kids have so much to do with school and usually lots of homework and then any kind of activities after school. I think they should at least keep their rooms clean and neat. I use to wash dishes after dinner, (no dishwashers then) and my sister dried. We also had weekend chores.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
10 Sep 16
It was good grades for us. We were never made to do household chores at all but only to study. Higher grades meant we get what we want. TV was only during weekends, never on school days and it was only until 9pm If we want to go malling with friends, we need to seek parents' permission first or we won't have a single centavo in our pockets. But malling wasn't our thing then. More of sleepovers for us and we always hosted that. Friends were always welcome in our home.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Sep 16
@ramapo17 Same with us. It's safer to be just at home. Our friends would frequent our homes and then we'd visit my Uncle's private beach and enjoy our time there. I had a best friend who used to sleep a lot in our house and then when she goes home, I would go to her house and sleep there for a couple of days. It was like a pingpong ball lol!
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Sep 16
That's another way too of my parents . They reward us when at the end of the year we are in the honor roll . I was always the salutatorian in my elementary days . My thirs sister always the valedictorian . But all of us has honors , so we are all rewarded . Father or mother would take turns going to the stage .
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
10 Sep 16
I always had lots of friends at my house. There were a few of us that had an open door situation for all the friends. My parents always wanted us home with friends or at a couple of other friends where they knew the parents too.
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@skysnap (20153)
9 Sep 16
yeah i was like that .. good boy type :P
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
That's good . You are raised well too by your parents .
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
10 Sep 16
I did things in my childhood because it's my responsibility .. I also brought up my sons to think that they have responsibilities to cooperate with the house chores .. I have never bribed my sons in to doing their responsibilities ..
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Sep 16
I admire you for being responsible in your childhood . i must admit , myl siblings and i are not that responsible because our parents has to motivate us with rewards just so we will help also at home. i think , they do that so we ould still help t home despite having a maid and our mother, a housewife, to do the cooking. And i would like to congratulate you for raising your sons. responsibly .
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Sep 16
@epiffanie Tha's what is nice hefe in the Philippines . Even if you are not filthy rich , you can afford a maid.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
11 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD It is not easy to have a housemaid here in Australia unlike over there in the homeland .. It's only the filthy rich that can afford it here so we do everything ... The children need to cooperate ..
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@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Sep 16
I didn't have that kind of motivation when I was growing up. I'm glad you had that kind of motivation to help you learn to do those chores. I did chores because I had to, no incentive involved.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Sep 16
My parents have to motivate us because , us 5 siblings would just always rely on the maid to do the chores . So, that way we were motivated because aside from their provision of our needs and some wants , they give us these rewards ,
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
17 Sep 16
@just4him I think , if we don't have a maid we will surely be assigned chores at home too.
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@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD I can understand that. We didn't have a maid growing up. We did the chores or they didn't get done.
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@carexing25 (1822)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
at 6 i already know how to cook rice and simple dishes.. i remember my father taught me to cook escabeche by just using soy sauce, sugar and vinegar with egg.. it's so nice to think about the simple living in the old times..
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
Really ! Oh that is so nice . I only get to learn how to cook when i married my husband . It was him who taught me how to cook .
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Sep 16
@carexing25, you were so motivated when you were so young child.
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@thelme55 (77165)
• Germany
9 Sep 16
Yes, I was like that, too. Whenever I wanted something from my parents I was behaving like a good girl. Cooked food, washed the dishes, taking good care of my younger siblings and any other household chores I made to get what I wanted. My parents were not able to refused if I asked to go out with my friends or have a new dress because I was a good girl.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
So you too knows how to win their heart and gves in to what you want . ha ha ha
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@thelme55 (77165)
• Germany
9 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD yes, I learned it from my mother I think.. Be a good girl and you will be rewarded. Sort of. Of course if I had done something wrong, I was scolded. That was my upbringing and it was good.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
10 Sep 16
We helped out with the housework...everybody did during those times...ma would make nice dishes.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Sep 16
That is good because even without motivation , you all helped in the household works . Us , we have a hired maid at home , so in order for us to learn how to do the chores , my parents does the reward system, which motivated us indeed to do e chores . he he he
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Sep 16
@ramapo17 S your mom was a great cook too . Our mother is also. She even joined the Rural Improvement Club to know more recipes like cookies . But now she's also retired and don't cook anymore .
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
10 Sep 16
My mom was a great cook as she had a hard life and cooked for her whole family when she was very young. I started cooking dinners for the whole family when I was in grammar school. I was pretty good at it. Now my husband does all the cooking and he is good at it. We are both retired.
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@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
19 Oct 16
during my childhood days...it was mandatory for us to do the household chores on saturdays (wash the dishes, sweep the floor and the backyard, a little gardening, grooming the dogs, sort and sell the used bottles in the junk shop) without any reward system, but if I can recall correctly, my mom would prepare a hearty meal for lunch for our efforts. We had been taught the value of being responsible and hard work without any reward.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
That hearty lunch is the reward my friend . And you eat to your heart's delight .
@marguicha (223776)
• Chile
10 Sep 16
I don´t remember any such motivation to us at home. Chores had to be done ( not many) but we HAD to have good grades.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Sep 16
Oh yes, we also get ar reward when we ar in the honor roll . Asto motivating us to help in chores so could learn too, is because they don't want us to rely much on ur maid .
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Sep 16
@ramapo17 I think if we don't have a maid we would also have our own assignments of household chores .
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
10 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD We never had a maid. We all shared the chores that had to be done each day.
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@MattMeng (3445)
• Hangzhou, China
9 Sep 16
That is a good way to teach children.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
Yes because you motivate them to learn how to do the chores at home .
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
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@MattMeng (3445)
• Hangzhou, China
9 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD I'll have a try to teach my son and my daughter by this way.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
10 Sep 16
We were required to do chores as children but there was never any motivation involved. We all did learn to clean, wash clothes and cook...even my brother.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Sep 16
That's good because even without motivation you all did to learn the chores at home . Your parents must be so proud of allof you .
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD Both of our parents have passed away but I think they were proud of us when we were growing up.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
10 Sep 16
I always did the few chores I had to do. My reward was an allowance. My mother always bought me clothes whenever I wanted or needed them. I was a good girl!
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Sep 16
Mother also always buys us clothes too . But theese rewards were over and above those . It's to motivate us to help at home despite having a maid or a helper .
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
15 Sep 16
@DianneN Us too we have a live-in maid . That's why our parents have to reward us so we would help in the household chores . I guess , we all love money .
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
14 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD We had a live-in maid. My father gave me money for each A I received on my report card. That was all the incentive I needed. I still love money to this day. Lol!
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• Quezon City, Philippines
9 Sep 16
When I was being trained by granny when I was a kid. She'll say "Don't be to lazy to do household chores! You'll need this when you have your own family. You wouldn't want you future husband to leave you because you know nothing." I did not believe this but I did what she said. And I am very thankful for my granny.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
You are a very good girl , well raised by your grandma . She is lucky to have you as her grandchild . No need for a reward system , so you can do some chores at home .
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
@rairaianne14 Wow, your grandparents have long lives . That's the price of having good grandchildren . My grandparents by my father are strict also . They would scold us if we becomes naughty at their house so we seldom go there .
• Quezon City, Philippines
9 Sep 16
@SIMPLYD yes. I am afraid of my grandma. She'll knock me off. nah just kidding aside. I love grandparents. She's still alive now she's 87 years old and grandpa and they have seen their great grandchild.
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