I Want To Strangle Him to Death!

@wiLLmaH (8802)
Singapore, Singapore
September 20, 2016 12:47am CST
My brother is on neck deep on debt. He owes me a thousands of money and he caused my sister to cut off almost all her credit cards (he get some stuffs in account of that). He also owes my sister for almost half a million in cash. Now, there is a 3-day Millionaire Mind Intensive program here in Singapore that was given away free. I bought an airline ticket for him. That I am hoping that it will change his perspective about money.. That his mindset in expenditures will shift from spender to savers/investor. After one day of attending, he told me that he already know everything in seminar! I want to strangle him to death and shout out at him that if he really knew what is in seminar, he will not hiding to his creditors. That he should have paid me and my sister. I immediately bought him a ticket back to Manila. The nerveeee!!! He have the audacity to tell me that he will just stay at our home and rest for a while as he is lack of sleep! If he is not only 14 years older than me! He already received not-so-good words from me.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
20 Sep 16
He is relying on you and your sister to live. I hate this. If he does not manage to get out of debts, just strangle him.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Sep 16
topffer
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
Ha ha, maybe you should impose some belt tightening, if he asked try to turn around off him, maybe you give all he wants that's why he is like that.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
That is double strangling using a belt
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
Yup! You are correct! I should stop helping him.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 16
He sure is lucky to have a standby mobile bankers when he needed fast cash. So how could he repay all his debts when he leads an extravagant lifestyle?
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH your dad is right, stop helping him otherwise he will never grow up.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 16
it sounds like he has no plans either way
@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
I do not know? My father talked to me that I should stopped helping him..
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
Why did he incur so much debt , my dear ? Maybe he has vices that you all don't know ?
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH Oh my God , keeping up with the Joneses indeed . What does his wife do to control him from burying himself into debts ?
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• Philippines
20 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH HOLY CRAP he's married?:! with kids, Hit him with a hammer to have his brain FIX!
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 Sep 16
He buy car, and let his wife travel places with his kids using credits. Typically, a story of keeping up with Joneses.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 16
I think you should just let go of this brother of yours, I'm glad you gave him a ticket back to the Philippines. How could a person like that owe so much money. What a waste of money and ticket to even bring him there, I don't think he will ever change if he's older than you. Unless all of you sibling could cut communication with him altogether, let's see if he will learn or not.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH wow! i would gladly take his place! where is your other brother who was with him?
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 Sep 16
@hereandthere My eldest brother finished the seminar and he is very glad that I let him attend that. He told me that he learned a lot and he is ready to face our next venture. :)
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 Sep 16
I bought a round trip ticket of 14 Sept - 20 September. When he told me that he ALREADY KNOW all the things in the seminar (that was 16 Sept). I immediately bought him another ticket on the next day! I don't want to waste more money on him.
@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
You're still a thoughtful sister, Ms. WiLLmah. Despite what your brother has done, you still managed to spend for his plane fare to Singapore just to attend the seminar. I hope your brother wakes up to his senses and act accordingly before it's too late.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
Because I want him to CHANGE! I I believe on him that he can escape this kind of problem but it seems he himself is enjoying the issues on his life. Ano ba yan! Sobbing in here! You are making me cry po!
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
@sunrisefan I will take on that! Everyboday gave up on him in his mistake of handling money. He owes my father, me, my sister, 2 of our cousins and even my godmother in our wedding. I hope...someday...
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH Never underestimate the power of prayer, so pray thay your brother will change for the better. Sometimes, the little acts that we do today would somehow touch the heart and mind of the person to whom we did something good for. Who knows? Your brother will ponder on that effrot of yours to have him attend the seminar. Even the hardest of stones will somehow have some hole with the continuous drop of water on it.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
23 Mar 17
Oh it is hard to have such brother! This proves that being older does not mean one thinks better or wiser than the younger. Your brother certainly can't match your wit. It is just sad that he has so much pride.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
23 Mar 17
@wiLLmaH So even your Dad knows him fully well. It is really sad to have such a brother.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
23 Mar 17
Now I know why are parents treats him differently. When I visited Manila last Feb, my father told me that he is complaining about me and explaining himself why I sent him home immediately. He thought our father will go for him, but it the other way happened. He was scolded by our father. I am not happy that he was admonished. I felt sad, to think that he is so immature in doing such act.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
23 Mar 17
@salonga He owes my father too! Haha!
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
Truth is he is living way beyond what he is earning and you are right telling him that he does not know anything. I'm sorry for your brother hope he gets out of debt.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
Yup!He need to be aware and accept the fact. But this problem about money is a decade old already!
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH that's the problem with credit card debt, it keeps increasing because of interest, i would suppose your sister gave him a supplemental card?
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
@louievill they have their own cards. Yes with "s". And he stopped using it when he cannot pay it even. That is why he asked my sister to borrow her card.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
i can't imagine owing anyone that much money for a long time and not doing anything about it.. if he has a family, how is he supporting them?
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• Philippines
20 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH did he need a new car? is it a high-end car? i hope the lumber business is still in business.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 Sep 16
@hereandthere It is still in business. If it will close down, he will be cursed by my parents. haha! I do not know. Haha! It is hard to explain his life. hahaha!
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 Sep 16
He inherited a lumber business from our parents. On my knowledge, he started to be in debt when he bought a new car.
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@Jackalyn (7558)
• Oxford, England
20 Sep 16
I think everyone should stop bailing him out. Let him sleep then sit him down and tell him he is stressing the whole family out.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 Sep 16
Do you know that the money he owes me is 3years old already? Then last year he is telling me to let him borrow again for 500,000Php! So Absurd!
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• Philippines
20 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH don't let him!
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 Sep 16
@hereandthere A big NO is an answer! I am not that stupid like my older sister. hahaha!
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@LadyDuck (472081)
• Switzerland
20 Sep 16
He lives like a rich because he know that he can count on your sister and you. Cut the credit and let him alone.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
Sad to say, he owes my father too! I had enough of him now.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
@LadyDuck Yup! Tough empathy now should apply..
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@LadyDuck (472081)
• Switzerland
21 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH It's time not to help him anymore.
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@KnehKnah (3584)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
Money matters. This is usually the big reason why even the best of friends split ways! I hope your brother will realize how big his financial atraso to you, especially to your other sis. Or maybe he will not because he knows mahal ninyo siya, to the max?
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• Philippines
21 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH i can't believe he said that. why does he feel that way? did he help your parents in raising the rest of his siblings that's why now he feels they should help him in return when he needs money?
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
@hereandthere No he don't. His EGO is bigger than Philippines i think..
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
Actually, the real thing here is I want him to wake up on the craziness he is in right now. I want him to change. I told myself that 110,000Php is enough for me. He has even the guts to tell a story when our cousin is asking for payment and he replied "Dapat nga lumuhod kayo sa harap ko para bayaran ko kayo" (you should kneel in front of me for me to pay you). Not thinking that he owes me money too! Damn!
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@Yar_Joey (3271)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
Wow, I think your brother needs assistance from a professional. Having a debts to half a million is something. Even if you are siblings, money is money.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
He owes me 110k, my sister almost 500k + on her credit card, he owes my dad for 100k+, on my cousins which I think not less than 50k and to my godmother which she described "do not copy their doings".
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
26 Sep 16
@Yar_Joey His wife promised to pay my insurance for my husband's insurance for this year. I hope they do keep their word this time..
@Yar_Joey (3271)
• Philippines
23 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH Wow thats a lot more money my dear. Hope he pays it all and reforms too
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• Jacksonville, Florida
20 Sep 16
Your sister must be rich to be able to give him one and a half million dollars. Still you brother needs to get some help for hurting your family like that...
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
Yup! She is. At age of 20 something she is already a millionaire..
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
26 Sep 16
@teresatrotter Haha! She is very good in business and saving money :)
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• Jacksonville, Florida
23 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH - Wow... Would she like to adopt anyone? Like maybe me? LOL
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• United States
26 Oct 16
Wow he owes you all a lot of money.. You still love him to pay for his flights.
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• United States
26 Oct 16
@wiLLmaH I am sorry to hear this. It is hard to change someone who is damaged already from their bad habits.
@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
26 Oct 16
I thought he will learn something from the seminar. Well, I never thought that his roots were well planted and do not want to change his bad habits.
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@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
I understand where you are coming from. It is really more than annoying.
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
20 Sep 16
You've done all you can, time to let go.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
If you are his parent what you will do Jabo? I want to see the perspective of a parent..
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
21 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH I would stop all financial aid - he is old enough to stand on his own two feet. I would still support him in any other way possible, but he must learn to be responsible for himself.
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
20 Sep 16
Lucky him you didn't.
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
how long will his luck last?
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
@hereandthere My father told me that he will not lend him money again. Because until now he is not yet paid., tsk tsk tsk!
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@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Sep 16
You should not allow him to take advantage of you. It is terrible he owes you and your sister so much money. I agree, he needs to take responsibility for himself.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
26 Sep 16
He owes a lot of people... It is time to say no.. :)
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@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Sep 16
@wiLLmaH Yes it is.
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20 Sep 16
it's very difficult to handle relationships when money is included..
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Sep 16
True in that!