Relationships: How long do you wait to move in with someone?
@Sexyrose40 (18)
Babylon, New York
September 22, 2016 12:15pm CST
From experience I lived with my son father for 11 years, we moved in right away, one month into our relationship. I say it was a bad idea, because we are no longer together
. Now, I am not sure if I can live or move in with someone, even if I wait a good while. What do you guys think?
![](/Content/images/emotes/rofl.gif)
1 person likes this
3 responses
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
22 Sep 16
I am with my boyfriend for over 9 years, we don't live together but we live within 5 miles from each other.
We spend time together often.
I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out.
2 people like this
@Happy2BeMe (99355)
• Canada
22 Sep 16
You were together for 11 years so I am not sure if moving in together so soon after you meet was the reason why it didn't work. I can see though why you would be hesitate if the situation were to arise again. I have been with my fiance almost six years now. We are planning to be married next summer. He moved in with me about a month after we met. I don't have any regrets about that.
My 1st husband I was with 3 years before we got married and we never lived together before were got married. It was a bad marriage right from the start. I wish that I had lived with him before we married and then maybe I would have noticed the red flags. Hard to say though.
@Sexyrose40 (18)
• Babylon, New York
22 Sep 16
I understand what you are saying totally, but it didn't work for me and my son dad all those years is because he felt he wanted to live a double life, while living together and that what makes living together also unbearable, I think if I had waited to see what he was like, I prob would of waited to move into together so sudden. They say you do not no a person til you lived with them, but honestly you just do not no at all. For some, as yourself it does work out and that I give gratitude
1 person likes this
@Happy2BeMe (99355)
• Canada
22 Sep 16
@Sexyrose40 I guess it works both ways but I think you never really know a person away. We only know what they allow us too and sometimes it takes longer for people to show their true colors. I can see where you are coming from too because had you known his ways ahead of time you may not have stayed with him as long as you did. Things are much more complicated when you are living together.
1 person likes this
@crafty01 (480)
• Jamshedpur, India
23 Sep 16
Life is full of surprises , its better to make some move , you dont want to repent in your old age that you didnt make any move in your prime, this time look for somebody with large family who is supportive towards you, fighting alone in battlefield makes you hero, in relationship even if win the battle still you are alone, its very important that your partners family take your side when your partner goes against you,
BEST OF LUCK.
![](/Content/images/loading.gif)