Catfishing...Is Love Really Blind?
By Rach
@ThatWifeyLife (150)
United States
September 23, 2016 9:39pm CST
Okay, I'm sure most of you know what an online "Catfish" is or have seen MTV's popular show Catfish. I am hugely fascinated and intrigued by the subject of people catfishing others into an online relationship where they are not honest about who they are. I've seen every episode of the show multiple times, I have also been the victim of a catfish at one point, that's probably why I have such an interest in the reasoning behind it and the desire to understand the motivation, and those who remain "in love" with the catfish as well as those who lose all feelings instantly.
Here is my question to all of you. You've found yourself in some type of online relationship with another person. While certain things they said or did, made you question their honesty, you've grown to love this person or have deep feelings so you don't actually speak on it.
Say for instance, this person you've talked to for 6 months online online...and in instant messaging. They give you a name, and share photos, but come to find out, they are the opposite sex from what you thought. So if you were a straight person, and this person turned out to be the same sex as you, but your feelings are already established....do you think you could love them anyway? Or would your feeligns change?
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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
• United States
24 Sep 16
I can't understand how stupid some of the people of the show can be. Some of them have gotten engaged to these people or have sent them thousands of dollars but have never seen what they look like. Some of them have never even talked to the person they "love" on the phone before. How can some people be so naive?
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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
• United States
24 Sep 16
@ThatWifeyLife Desperate or not that is still a stupid thing to do for someone when overall you really don't know who they are. People are crazy and will lie about the stupidest things just to hurt someone. Some of the people on the show who were lying were actually crazy and just wanted to hurt people.
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@ThatWifeyLife (150)
• United States
24 Sep 16
@CaseyRoss9966 Oh I agree with you 100% on that. It's hard for someone like myself to watch the show sometimes even though I find it intriguing just because I know I could never do something so hurtful. I just think, what is so bad in these peoples lives that they want to lie or hurt someone? I mean of course people lie and hurt you all the same in RL situations, but it's just mindboggling to watch sometimes.
@ThatWifeyLife (150)
• United States
24 Sep 16
While I dont agree with sending money or getting engaged sight unseen or without knowing someone on a physical level, hell....a lot of them haven't even had a video chat...I can see the reasoning behind some people being naive. Naive on that level? You'd really think nobody would, but I guess it all depends on the person being catfished...their life, their story, their background. Maybe some of them are just desperate to be loved?
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@poliugh (100)
• Dayton, Ohio
24 Sep 16
It depends more on how they have lied, and how long they have lied. Nonetheless, in the end your decision should be based on their personality and such rather than their looks. As i've been told while growing up, personality is the score, looks are just a bonus.
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@JamesHxstatic (29413)
• Eugene, Oregon
25 Sep 16
That is a scary thought and my feelings would ignite and fall to ashes immediately. To lie even to the extent of gender is way beyond okay, better not to lie at all. I guess the photos would be phony as well. I can't imagine an online relationship now, but my wife and I met online nine years ago.
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@ThatWifeyLife (150)
• United States
25 Sep 16
Yes I agree, personally for me, I just don't lie. I do not feel the need to nor see the purpose. It takes far more effort to lie or keep up with a lie, then it does to tell the truth. I value Honesty above all else in life, so it's kind of a weird subject to think about for me. Yep, phony photos, phony name, which leads to phony gender. I also met my husband online almost 7 years ago and even back then that was scary, but now the world is so much scarier.
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@shivamani10 (11035)
• Hyderabad, India
24 Sep 16
Totally ridiculous. Nothing ...I will shunt he/her out.
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@teresatrotter (4073)
• Jacksonville, Florida
24 Sep 16
Hell Yeah!!! I mean... If they can't be honest with how they look, what else are they hiding. Now...I would give them a chance to explain things, and depending upon their answer, I might give them another chance. But I would have to admit, that it would be a long time, before I could whole heartedly trust them.
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@ThatWifeyLife (150)
• United States
24 Sep 16
@teresatrotter completely understandable. I have found from watching and from personal stories I've heard, that most people do get really upset about finding that out, hence why I asked. Like, for me personally I think if I had feelings for them, really strong ones, I could probably still keep the romantic feelings, as long as all the details they've told me since I knew them were the same....like their work, life, bday, etc.
