It's Better To Forgive

Yes for certain things I do struggle ... however there are many reasons people act certain ways... sometimes it's better to move along and forgive

It depends what they have done. I know I need to do it for myself, than more for them. But it is hard sometimes.

I am a very revengeful person. I don't mean for petty things. My kids are the most important thing in the world to me. If there has been an injustice to them I will track down and take vengeance on the person. I had a good friend that I had had for twenty five years. She accused me of stealing from her when I went to stay with her back in 2009. I had stayed with her before and she had never acted this way. She and I emailed back and forth and discussed it. I needed an apology for this untrue accusal. She would not give it though we had known each other for so long and she knows I am not a thief. So, needless to say, we are no longer friends. And, no, I won't forgive her. There are just some situations and behavior that I won't forgive.

I will generally give people the benefit of the doubt. I am a very trusting and forgiving person. So far, it hasn't backfired on me in life!

I do. It's sometimes hard to do.

I, personally, forget and move on quickly.

It takes a strong person to forgive and mean it. It doesn't mean you have to be linked in any way, in fact forgiveness breaks the link that holds you prisoner.

Most small trespasses I don't really care enough to remember so no need for forgiveness. Things that requires forgiveness tend to be major offences, like betrayal, theft etc.. It takes me a very very long time, but I eventually get over it completely. By that I mean the complete package, forgive & forget. move on, as if I've never experienced it in the first place. I don't want any part of the experience to taint my future life. It's not protection, it actually is secretly damaging my future prospects. Do I repair relationships with the said offender? Mostly no, my move on is complete. I simply don't trust the offender again. What do I hope to "learn" from a negative experience like this? People do stupid things. But don't like hatred consume what you once loved about people, relationship, the world, and yourself! That's the real damage of "holding onto the hurt".

nah, i don't 've troubles fergivin' 'em. they've jest troubles comprehendin' that don't mean i've fergotten nor that their behavior/words 're acceptable.

We know as followers of Christ that we have to forgive others. But it sure isn't easy, is it? I wish after forgiving that we could also forget. Hard to do.

If you read this beautiful story as seen in Matthew 18 vs 23 - 35, you sill understand why I say this; 'When I am grievously offended by someone, I call to remembrance how much I have been forgiven by the LORD, immediately I am empowered by that knowledge, and forgiveness becomes cheap to me.' Do likewise!

I still have those memories of upsets, resentments. But I know keeping it inside will be harmful. I wish it is easy to forget but I'm trying to forgive so that I can move on from my negative experiences.

"Do not forgive people because they deserve your forgiveness Forgive them that you deserve to live in peace of mind " almost the same

not forgiving someone is not only a punishment to others, it is more of punishment to self...for something that you have not done wrong...so i tend to forgive...not cos i want to but cos i don't wish to punish myself for others' mistakes.

I have always had a problem with forgiving, though it has gotten better lately.

Forgive is for give. When you live your life just for giving and don't care about what you get, just go on and on without looking for awards or respect because you have enough respect for yourself and you don't need it from the outside. Than it is more easy to forgive.

I believe we all struggle with forgiveness in our lives. I know I don't feel right when I am harboring in unforgiveness in my heart. When I forgive it doesn't mean things go back to how they use to be, but they go on. And when I forgive others I feel peace in my heart.

Well, it took very long time for me believe in forgiveness, but then I realized that people take the advantage of others forgiveness. Then I realized that forgiveness is a spiritual way of letting things go, so i felt that i have to forgive somebody because they are wicked or innocent to the ways of the World. Why brand somebody's acts as bad and forgive them. In order to brand somebody as bad for their wicked deeds I have to develop negative feeling for them and then forgive them, now it means I have to develop positive feelings for them. Then I learn from the GURU of Isha Foundation that life consists of only two things Pleasant and Unpleasant, If people make me feel pleasant then I thank Lord , if people make me feel unpleasant then then again i thank Lord for blessing me with enough power to let things go. So its always win win situation for me, no need to forgive anybody.

It really depends on who and what. You are able to forgive someone's behavior which to someone else that is unforgivable. However, someone else's forgiving things casually could make you amazed. That is human nature, no way is easy.

I have always had a problem forgiving people who have hurt my core of my being. Although, lately I have realized that forgiveness is easier than holding on.