Is it bad to be aggressive?

@Ayuriny (5144)
Denpasar, Indonesia
October 6, 2016 12:58am CST
Once I asked my friend, why did he leave his gf, and he answered , "She is aggressive to me that I dislike." I don't know why he didn't like an aggressive girl. What's your thought about this case? Is being aggressive a bad personality?
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hereandthere
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
so what did he mean by aggressive? does she hurt him physically, scratching, smacking, pinching? does she shout at him, insult him, in public and among friends and family? does she want him to always be at her beck and call? does she want to always be the decision maker on where they go, what they do?
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hereandthere
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
@Ayuriny was she behaving like that when they were just getting to know each other, during the courtship/dating stage?
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
@hereandthere Yes, during the courtship..
Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
My friend told me that his ex gf always shouted at him, be at her back, and be the decision maker. Those personalities of hers made him give up, and he left her.
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Sky
@skysnap (20153)
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6 Oct 16
Being aggressive all the time is bad for health. being passive aggressive all the time is bad.
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
So, which one is better? Being aggressive or passive? ....Lol
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Sky
@skysnap (20153)
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6 Oct 16
@Ayuriny being calm lol
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
@skysnap Excellent choice! ....
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VAL
@Vjvals (906)
• Roseville, California
6 Oct 16
It depends who they are being aggressive with and why how and where. Does the other person have the same type of personality and style, then it might be alright. If not, then it's not a level playing field and therefore cowardly.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83614)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Oct 16
@Vjvals Very well said
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
That's right. If they both have different personality, so the aggressiveness will ruin their relationship.
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Miss Nikki
@MissNikki (5237)
• Maple Ridge, British Columbia
6 Oct 16
It depends how the person is displaying their aggression. If she was being aggressive towards him physically, like pushing or hurting him, that is not okay. On the other hand, sometimes you have to be aggressive with people who are trying to get in your face or intimidate you. You have to choose when it is appropriate to do this.
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
Yeah, in other words, being aggressive is bad but it can also be good. ?
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Manisha
@ms1864 (6885)
• Bangalore, India
6 Oct 16
It could fall under the "too much" category for some people. I don't think i like it as a personality characteristic either.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83614)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Oct 16
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
Me too. The people who are aggressive seem to be rude.
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Kokil agarwal
@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
6 Oct 16
No vei g aggressive is not bad only if it is a part of your personality... But constant aggression is bad very bad
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
I think being aggressive tends to be doing something rude.
Yadah
@Yadah04 (3363)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
it actually depends upon the situation. if your at a job, it is good to be aggressive at times to get clients. and it is also helpful to be aggressive on relationships at times. but then again, anything that is too much is bad.
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
That's true. Everything that is too much must be bad.
RM
@RitzzView (3038)
• India
7 Oct 16
Aggressive nature is not easy to deal with. I, personally won't like someone being aggressive every now and then over me. The relationship doesn't go smooth.
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
7 Oct 16
That's true. An aggressive guy can ruin the relationship.
Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
7 Oct 16
@RitzzView Yeah, of course the way the male expresses his anger is different with the way a female do.
RM
@RitzzView (3038)
• India
7 Oct 16
@Ayuriny I just imagined aggressive girl till now..as you mentioned about ypur friend, i kind of placed myself into his place and tried talking. When you said "guy" a complete different imagination strick me. Both the genders have so different ways to expressing anger..female talk, scream, criticize and stuff like that. When it comes to male, their energy is more diverted with being physical.. And that's too much! (If only we're talking about pure aggression. Because even when guys are angry, they don't use their hands to express when it comes to any woman.)
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XinfulThotz
@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
6 Oct 16
i think most people like to be treated nicely.. it's not exactly a "bad" personality but not popular? can be better if less aggressive? and it depends on how often is she aggressive? sometimes i feel that if a person decides to leave another person, all reasons are just excuses of not wanting to be together anymore actually...
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
True that. I myself don't like a guy who is not aggressive at all.
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The Sunshine!!
@shaynas (5487)
• India
6 Oct 16
well it depends... it's ok to be aggressive bout certain things, we all tend to b aggressive about something at some point of time. But imagine living with a person who gets aggressive over smallest of things or issues, is it easy?
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
6 Oct 16
What certain things do you mean? Can you please explain a little bit here?
The Sunshine!!
@shaynas (5487)
• India
7 Oct 16
@Ayuriny It can b anything, depending on person to person. Like for me, i know i am agressive about my space, if some one tries to dominate me, i just can't take it. Similarly, everyone has some things like this
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
7 Oct 16
@shaynas Yes, it's reasonable to be aggressive. Who likes to be dominated? ...