Just "Say No You Know T he 'word "Spelled No / myLot

Garden Grove, California

October 7, 2016 3:11pm CST

Darn I fell asleep and somehow I lost a wholke post even done to the graphic as I was ready to hit post./ So many of us cannot say "No I cannot do that " when for whatever reasom we really can fo that. We need to have the self esteem that lets us say "Sorry bit I really cannot do that." We are not being mean at all.we are being honest and we do matter. No is a two letter word easy tp pronunce so why cannot we use it? your take mylotters? One original post and graphic by P Hatley copyrighted 2016

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Jennifer

@LovingMyBabies (85288)

• Valdosta, Georgia

7 Oct 16

I have a hard time saying no at times. I tend to feel bad usually.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

I did have til I found some did not ppreciate my help and 'I learned I had a right to say no at times.

Marlina

@marlina (154131)

• Canada

7 Oct 16

My take on this Patsie, is that I have no problem saying NO. However, my sister hardly say NO and ends up in situations that I would not want to be in.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

thats why I learned to say no as I realized I was being used

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Marlina

@marlina (154131)

• Canada

8 Oct 16

@Hatley And you did a wise thing, we have to protect ourselves from people who want to take advantage of us all the time.

marguicha

@marguicha (222856)

• Chile

7 Oct 16

I agree. When I say no it is no. I don´t care if they call me a witch.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

7 Oct 16

I have learned that if I do not want to do I can say no and nothing bad will happen

Judy Story

@jstory07 (139579)

• Roseburg, Oregon

7 Oct 16

I use to tell my kids no in stores and people would give me a dirty look. No is not a bad word.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

@Marty1 one thing moms who say no usuially have well behaved kids whole the moms who never say no raise some brats.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

@Marty1 my mom said no and I knew better than to whine otherwise I would get a sharp swat on the butt not a severe spankingI never dod get a bad s[amlomg as my mom had her metjhod thje Face oh my we would stop amd behjave rathjer than see her start to really bawl I realzed years later it was all a great acting job but it sure did wor,.

James Higgins

@JamesHxstatic (29413)

• Eugene, Oregon

7 Oct 16

I rarely have trouble saying no, as I just did yeterday to that shoe store job.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

I leaned to say no also to some jobs t hat I felt I either was not qualfied or they did nmot pay pr I just plain dislilked the work

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James Higgins

@JamesHxstatic (29413)

• Eugene, Oregon

8 Oct 16

@Hatley You have to do that for yourself.

Jennifer C

@jennyjoy (1957)

• Bangalore, India

8 Oct 16

Saying no to my children is one thing but saying no to others is difficult.

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Jennifer C

@jennyjoy (1957)

• Bangalore, India

9 Oct 16

@Hatley Saying No is okay.

Jennifer C

@jennyjoy (1957)

• Bangalore, India

9 Oct 16

@Hatley It's okay to say No,it's better than saying yes and the not following through.

peavey

@peavey (16936)

• United States

7 Oct 16

I am learning that. It's a hard lesson, too

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

yes it was for me as I did not want anyone to be mad at me lol

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peavey

@peavey (16936)

• United States

9 Oct 16

@Hatley I understand that.

Heather Echola

@GardenGerty (160626)

• United States

8 Oct 16

We do need to honor our own value and say NO when it is something we really do not want to do for whatever reason.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

thats it you said it better than I cou ld we must have some self esteem

Steve West

@zebra2222 (5268)

• United States

7 Oct 16

There are times when no is the best thing to say.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

thats it there are times when people have to accept that you cannot do what they ask of you

bonnie

@bunnybon7 (50973)

• Holiday, Florida

7 Oct 16

you sure are right. I should have said it so many times and look at what we usually get for our kindness. sometimes just bad results like with my getting Marissa on here

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

I know Marissa sonds a bit like a lady dog if you catch my meaning lol

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bonnie

@bunnybon7 (50973)

• Holiday, Florida

10 Oct 16

@Hatley

i do. my daughter said something along those lines before they moved in but i defended her no knowing how she would turn on me.

judyjudy78

@judyjudy78 (139)

• India

8 Oct 16

The topic initially gave me the thought that this is some kind of tongue twister. At the end, it seems a serious thought. Saying 'No' depends upon situations and we need to adapt accordingly. We shouldn't believe in doing things all the time and therefore its safe to remain 'No'.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

you have it it all depends on the situatiion

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M.-L.

@MALUSE (69373)

• Germany

8 Oct 16

I've never had problems saying NO.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

thats great as it means you have great self esteem ML

lini b

@teenspirit (1597)

• Israel

8 Oct 16

wonderful disscusion...very smart one=)

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

thanks lini glad you enjouyved it we all need to be able to say no when we need to

kulo boyo

@kuloboyo (72)

• Yogyakarta, Indonesia

8 Oct 16

just say no, i think thats not big deal for you,, right ? :)

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

,y not always as sometimes I want to say yes to frie nds but I have other calls on my time that have to come first so y es at times its very hard to say no Im not the mean person you soundlike you think I am

rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

8 Oct 16

Indeed , sometimes it is difficult to say No . But then , thankfully , i always succesfully say no when it is what should be id .

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Bluedoll

@Bluedoll (16773)

• Canada

8 Oct 16

Yep we have to look after ourselves too. Saying no isn't a weakness just being honest. How you doing right at this second Patsie? Hope everything is fine. Molly says hi, that's my budgie bird. She says things like you're gorgeous and I love you.

amnabas

@amnabas (14044)

• Karachi, Pakistan

7 Oct 16

I just can't say it I don't have any reason for this.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

I always have a reason or I would not say no but I used to forget my reasons and just help even if I really couild not

Jekca

@Jessicalynnt (50523)

• Centralia, Missouri

17 Oct 16

saying no can be hard, not sure why

The Horse

@TheHorse (218554)

• Walnut Creek, California

7 Oct 16

Sometimes I say no to myself when I should have said yes.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

oj yes I have been there too when I told myself oh y ou cannot do that job them I realized the interviewer was telloig me I was hired for a job ihe library and I loved iot so much I worked tjere fpr 23 years lol

WinterRea

@AutumnSnow (4583)

•

7 Oct 16

Yes, no is an easy word to say but yet so difficult. I know I do have a hard time saying no when I really should.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

8 Oct 16

I d id too till I realized the y were not angry with me amd accepted my no.

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