Jealous, is it still needed?

@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

@Happy2BeMe Ok, I agree with you, it depends on what they talk. But how if they quite often talk like that?

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

@Loverabbit So what is it if it's not a kind of flirting?

SyedWasiq

@Loverabbit (3401)

• Karachi, Pakistan

9 Oct 16

Lol "flirting"....some mostly perceive it right away that its flirting if a "gurl" is there

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Manisha

@ms1864 (6885)

• Bangalore, India

9 Oct 16

I understand the feeling...but people say if we trust our spouse or bf....we won't feel that jealous. But even if we trust...sometimes there is this feeling of possessiveness that gets in the way.

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@Daljinder (23236)

• Bangalore, India

9 Oct 16

@ms1864 @Ayuriny Honestly speaking, when I can feel jealous of other people getting close to my best friend then I reckon its quite normal to get jealous in such case with your spouse or a boyfriend. Just don't take it overboard!

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

@Daljinder Sure. Everything if it's too much is bad.

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

I agree with you, Manisha. I think it's because the feeling of possessiveness.

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Michelle

@infatuatedbby (94914)

• United States

9 Oct 16

No I am not jealous! I trust my boyfriend. :)

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Michelle

@infatuatedbby (94914)

• United States

9 Oct 16

@prabir123 Thank you

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Michelle

@infatuatedbby (94914)

• United States

9 Oct 16

@Ayuriny Haha sometimes he would make a remark but when I ask him he says he's not jealous! I don't talk to anyone much anyway though :)

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

How about your bf? Does he let you talk to other guy intently?

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Cool

@CoolPeace (1566)

• Miami, Florida

9 Oct 16

It really depend on what they are talking about or they are flirting.

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

Yes, you're right. But how if the girl seems to have a feeling on our spouse/bf?

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Cool

@CoolPeace (1566)

• Miami, Florida

9 Oct 16

@Ayuriny. Do you mean the girl liking your boyfriend and that why she is having a conversation. Well in this case the boyfriend is the one that his girlfriend should be mad at because he knows he is in a relationship.

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

@CoolPeace Yes, I think so. The problem is on him.

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XinfulThotz

@XinfulThotz (4140)

• Singapore, Singapore

9 Oct 16

if the conversation is normal or general, anyone can talk to my bf. Cos at the same time I won't want to be restricted talking to guys

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

You really give freedom to your bf. How if the girl actually has a crush on him??

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

@XinfulThotz You're very kind. I know you always think positive.

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XinfulThotz

@XinfulThotz (4140)

• Singapore, Singapore

9 Oct 16

@Ayuriny It's very normal to have crush.

So long as nothing develops its fine. Opposite attracts. No one can tie someone down. The more one restricts another, somtimes it backfires...you must be confident in yourself.

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SyedWasiq

@Loverabbit (3401)

• Karachi, Pakistan

9 Oct 16

I feel your post should be reported for being so rude for the bachelors hahh sighs* ok so what I believe is both should trust not just say words but implement too. If he be ready to do that only then expect her too

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Manisha

@ms1864 (6885)

• Bangalore, India

9 Oct 16

it happens syed...sometimes we really WANT to trust but it as humans we get more vulnerable when we know someone has the power to hurt us.

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SyedWasiq

@Loverabbit (3401)

• Karachi, Pakistan

9 Oct 16

@ms1864 lol thats cause of immaturity... fear of loosing....or/ and doubts....even if you don't think there are any doubts.... sometimes there are doubts within you which are referred as intrinsic.....well this can be coped with ... Ain't sayin its always a win win situation but mostly you can be cool even if he chats with her on a cup of coffee...

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Manisha

@ms1864 (6885)

• Bangalore, India

9 Oct 16

@Loverabbit I understand...i am just saying it is .....human. It is natural to get jealous...sometimes it is the lack of assurance from the partner that leads to such feelings.

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youless

@youless (112603)

• Guangzhou, China

9 Oct 16

I think this is a normal feeling. If I love someone deeply, be sure I will feel uncomfortable if there are any possibilities for him to leave me. If there is no love, I shall not care.

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

Same with me. It is because we love our spouse so much.

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rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90721)

• Philippines

9 Oct 16

A little jealousy is okay . But too much can be suffocating for the couple and sometimes can be fatal .

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rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90721)

• Philippines

10 Oct 16

@Ayuriny The spouse !

He should avoid any girl so we won't get jealous .

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

Yeah, you're right. Ok, so in this case, who's to be blamed? Us or that girl who tries to attract our spouse?

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

10 Oct 16

@SIMPLYD You're right!

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coelenterata

@coelenterata (188)

• Indonesia

9 Oct 16

hi ayurini

.i think jealous is still needed,it showed that we loved and cared about our spouse.but it was wrong if we had over jealous to our spouse example we would angry if our spouse just talked to other woman for whatever the reason,i think that was wrong

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coelenterata

@coelenterata (188)

• Indonesia

9 Oct 16

@Ayuriny i wont if my wife talked honestly to me why she talk to that man intentli,i believed there must be reasoned behind it and if we had married i think we had to have more faith to our spouse

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

@coelenterata Yes, everything will be fine if we trust each other.

@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

Ok, so sometimes we need it. Do you sometimes feel jealous if your wife talk to another man intently?

@Daljinder (23236)

• Bangalore, India

9 Oct 16

Jealousy is normal until it starts hindering the relationships!

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@Ayuriny (5144)

• Denpasar, Indonesia

9 Oct 16

Agree on that.

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@RitzzView (3038)

• India

9 Oct 16

I see it as possessiveness. Possession is like..mine and only mine. Jealousy is more like feeling a little bad when my partner is talking and liking to be with the other. I am usually jealous by nature..:p And I believe that if any feeling could turn into being clingy or having controlling attitude, then it's bad. In the sense, purely jealous or possession isn't bad at all

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