When will learn about relationships?

You are right, Kokil. We humans do get wiser, only it is too late and too little. Lot of water has flown down the bridge. By the time we realize our follies, our kids follow in our footsteps. If only we could have learnt all that we have learnt from the ancients at the very beginning of our innings..... If only we could pass on our hard earned wisdom to posterity by some magic.....

We seem to enjoy the drama of the love-hate relationships, and get pulled into it automatically. Even when we realize our errors, we are prone to keep going back to it out of habit. TA - Transactional Analysis talks about parental messages that we etchh into our brain wiring from childhood. The Parent Adult Child (PAC) model should be helpful in understanding our human follies better I guess.

@mysticaura As children, we are used to parent child interactions, sometimes pleasant, sometimes hurtful. In a family, it usually happens that we hurt each other unconsciously at first, and then deliberately later to compensate for our hurts. It is only when we experience the painful consequences, that we regret and feel sorry. The sorry can come after a moment, or maybe after a lifetime and maybe too late.

Yes skysnap. How true. Our sweetest songs are those that speak of saddest thoughts.

Vulnerable is a nice term to describe us human beings. When we love someone, we are opening up ourselves to being hurt at times. It is a risk we take if we are to have a meaningful relationship. However, if we keep getting hurt, or overlook our hurts, the relationship becomes stale or gets sour.

@mysticaura that is true.

@mysticaura One promised give and take - what he meant was he just takes while his partner gives! One has to be open about it without ego and pride to adjust to coexist. But that is not the way it looks like increasingly - siva

You are right @Shiva49. Most times a compromise is required. Fireworks help in exposing issues to be addressed on an urgent basis. However, unless those issues are addressed and changes made, the issues get buried, and the embers remain. The real reason for damage are not the issues themselves but the reluctance to face the unpleasant issues and tackle them directly. The problem may be with one partner, or with both.