My best biker buddy has 6 months to live
By Jim stewart
@saulgoodman (2643)
Dundee, Scotland
October 15, 2016 8:46pm CST
How sad is that?
He is only 50.
He told me last week.
Cancer. Bowel.
Feel really sad but he says I shouldnt be.
He says he has had a good life.
Done most of the things he wanted to do.
Seen most of the places he wanted to see.
Ridden bikes he wanted to ride.
And raised hell where ever and when ever he could.
He wont be here for 6 months.
He will die before that.
He got diagnosed 4 months ago.
He doesnt know that I know.
But I know because I saw his diagnosis letter by accident.
He wants me to arrange stuff for him.
Had a week to get my head round this.
Any advice
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@rocketscience (16)
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16 Oct 16
I would try to find a way to let him know that you know. If you are good friends, he would probably appreciate the last of his time being able to be open with you. He might just not know how to break it to you, if he doesn't know you already heard.
It depends on the person, so feel it out.
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@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
16 Oct 16
We fired up a spliff tonight and it was quite funny really.
He knew I knew.
We were roflmao haha.
Seriously.
@1creekgirl (41433)
• United States
16 Oct 16
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I know you're in shock.
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@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
16 Oct 16
I think i am in shock even with the accidental prior warning.
I knew that there was something wrong after Christmas.
Had to take him to hospital in January
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@1creekgirl (41433)
• United States
16 Oct 16
@saulgoodman It's hard when we have to face the mortality of someone we love or even our own. We know that no one lives forever, at least not on this planet.
The important thing to be sure of is, where will we go next? I belive what Jesus said in the Bible. "No man comes to the Father except through me."
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@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
16 Oct 16
@1creekgirl
This guy doesnt do Jesus.
I wouldnt go down that road with him.
And to be honest I dont really see myself as much of a where we go next sort of biker dude either but I cant discount it fully.
Another post for another day.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
16 Oct 16
i guess you're family to each other. i'm glad he lived a full life. i think it's understandable to give you time to let it sink in. but if he wants you to take charge, he has to be more open with you.
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@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
16 Oct 16
Yeah. Family is what we are.
And he has lived a very full life.
I have had time to let it sink in.
You know what. He has been open enough. Its his life that will end in a short. While. Must be really difficult for him to get things into some sort of perspective.
@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
16 Oct 16
Oh aye brave is what he is right enough.
We will sit and and reflect quite often between now and him dying.
He has bought some really good weed so reflecting will be melancholy.
I will arrange everything.
His time left will be used well.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
So sorry. I don't know what to say. I am sorry you are going through this. Keeping your friend in my prayers.
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@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
16 Oct 16
I think that very often the unspoken word say s more.
I dont think its me who is going through anything apart from being a friend.
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@CoolPeace (1566)
• Miami, Florida
16 Oct 16
I am sorry to hear this you can enjoy the rest of the time with him and make him feel comfortable. You never know he can win against this.
@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
16 Oct 16
No. Sadly he cant.
Will enjoy the rest of the time though
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