It will always be "Home"
By Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
Canada
October 16, 2016 9:35am CST
The above is a picture of where I was born and raised. It will always be Home. It was once filled with love and laughter but now it stills vacant and all alone. This little house holds so many memories. When my mom passed away in 2014 she left the house to one of my sisters with the hope that the house would always remain a place where we as a family could gather. It was my mom and dad's wish. That wish was not honored. Had it been left to anybody else that wish would have been.
Greed took over and my sister sold everything that was in the house. All our childhood memories were sold for mere cents. What she couldn't sell she burned, that included all family photos. She would not give the rest of us anything. Now the house is up for sale and falling down. Whoever buys it will probably buy it for the land and tear the house down because it has been neglected for the past almost three years.
The greed tore our family apart. My sister speaks badly about the rest of us and our parents to other relatives. She makes up lies and spreads rumors. My parents would be disgusted they never raised us that way.
Anyway this morning on Facebook I found this written by one of my others sisters and she said I could share it.....
Dear Little House
Dear Little House here you sit all alone. Do you ever wonder where everyone has gone?
Do you wonder what happened to that dear gentle man who with hammer and nails helped you remain strong as you aged?
Do you wonder where is that kind happy woman went who, with love and pride , dressed you up each Halloween and Christmas for the everyone to see?
Do you wonder why no one sits at the window anymore watching the Hummingbirds feed?
Do you wonder where all the children went?
First 6 small girls who grew up too quick. Then grandchildren and great-grand children who filled your walls with laughter.
Do you wonder where the joy, laughter, and love went?
Do you wonder why you sit empty?
Do you wonder how long you can stand,neglected and growing weaker each day?
Do you wonder when you will crumble and fall?
Dear little house someday you will be only a memory, but you will live in a special comer of my heart for ever.
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@Juliaacv (50979)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
Shame on the person who couldn't see the sentimental value attached to this residence, and who, maybe could have reached out for help to maintain it. We have a rift in our family, so I can relate to your unwritten words, how deep that hurt can cut into one's very core. My brother and his wife did this to our family's home, that my Grandpa had built and raised my Dad's generation in, and then he raised us in it. Your sister did a wonderful job on her Dear Little House, please tell her how much others' (like myself) can relate because she really did sum up so many decades of loving and living.
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@Juliaacv (50979)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe That is why there is a rift in my family. Days before my Dad passed he spoke to each of us 4 kids and had a witness, things that HAD to be done. I know that my 2 younger brothers were to buy out the (farm) corporation, but they haven't done that 7 years later. It was also written in the will, they say how much money our mother had and decided to keep working the farm, but without buying it out. Greed indeed.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
I will tell her. Sadly this seems to happen in applying many families. People become greedy.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
The only photos we have are ones that we took ourselves. Any of the ones my mom had in albums from our childhood days were burned. It is sad. It is hard to understand how somebody can be that way. She lived in Ontario for probably 30 years and just moved back to our hometown a few years before mom passed away.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
16 Oct 16
why was the family house entrusted only to her? was she the one who lived closest to your parents?
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
Yes she did and she didn't have her own place. They were renting so mom thought she was helping her out by giving her the house. She also believed that she would be the one who would continue to have our family get togethers. Of course she reassured to mom that she would.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
16 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe what an awful turn of events. totally unexpected. why did she not live in the house? she would rather continue renting?
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
@hereandthere just to be spiteful. Yes she continuesaid to rent. Makes no sense.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
Oh yes of course. I don't think she even has a conscience or even cares.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
Yes she is. I never realized how evil she could be until my mom passed.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
17 Oct 16
So sorry to hear this story.
Hopefully, you sharing it here with us has helped you ease some of the burden.
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe it really is hard. Clearly she doesn't seem to care. I don't get it.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
It is very sad. It is hard to understand behaviour like that.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
16 Oct 16
Sad,sad all the way and the poem makes it even sadder.
Greed,yes i know the word but that`s how some people are.And you know what hurts,that the money she got from the house may be gone by now .
What she did was wrong, l don't know her reasons,maybe if she could have discussed it with you guys first.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
16 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe
Makes you wonder if you knew this person you call your sister at all
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
I agree but as soon as she got the house she put up no trespassing signs and that included the rest of us.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
@miniam I don't think I really did. She lived away for about 30 years before moving back a few years before mom passed away.
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@polyxena (2628)
• Sturgis, Michigan
16 Oct 16
My mom had the same problem after my grandparents passed they left the house to my mom, but left my aunts in charge of finances and the house and they kicked my mom out took most of the stuff and sold it. They deny doing any of it and the judge even sided with my aunts (which I don't see how) it just bothers me to see that people once they die that their wishes aren't kept.
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@polyxena (2628)
• Sturgis, Michigan
17 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe And even when I got up and moved because I didn't want to deal with everything my aunts blamed me for not helping my mom keep the place. I didn't think I needed to help her, when the house was left to her. 
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
I agree their wishes should be respected. I am sorry your mom went through that too.
@thelme55 (77081)
• Germany
17 Oct 16
I am so sorry to hear this. It aches my heart knowing she burned all the photos your parents had. Could she not asked one of you who would like to keep those things she didn't care about? Greed is evil. Your sister will repent for what she had done with your parents house, sooner or later. Please tell your other sister how lovely poem she had created. God bless to both of you.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
17 Oct 16
Thank you very much. I hope some day she realizes what she has done.
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Do you ever wonder what got into your sister to be this way?@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
I am not sure but from what I gather she thought that she would not only get the house, all the contents and the car but all of mom's money as well. When she found out that the money was to be divided among all of us she felt she had been 'screwed over by the old lady.' Those were her words. So I gather she hated my mom for that. Greed..all it is greed!!! Her and her husband did the same to his family when his mom passed. They got the inheritance and left so none of his family could find them. We also learned that she spent a lot of mom's money while mom was in the hospital before mom passed but we only found that out when we got the bank records. She had mom's purse which had her bank card in it and she knew the pin number because she use to do banking for mom.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
16 Oct 16
So sad to hear. Some peoples are like that... I call such people as a witch... Even me not allowed to go to my home, because of my greedy stepmother. Life is like that. Dont worry...
Ps- btw I really like that house. Its really nice. It remind me "the little house on the prairie" the tv series which I saw in my childhood
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
lol yes it kind of does. I am sorry about your evil step mother.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
18 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe So , are you angry with what she did ?
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
18 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD No not angry. Anger is a wasted emotion. I am disappointed in her and the choice that she made but it was hers so she could do what she wanted with it even if it meant going against their wishes.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
17 Oct 16
No she would be the middle child. Not sure why she chose that root aside from maybe jealously but who really knows as she has never talked to any of us since mom's passing.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
That is what anybody else would have done too.
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
17 Oct 16
These things happen in the best family circles. It is sad that parents don't always think things out when they give property through wills.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
16 Oct 16
That's so sad but what I don't get is why it wasn't legally left to all of you and then that sister would at least be forced to share! Why was it hers alone to do with what she wished?
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
17 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe That's sad for you guys- and hopefully she comes to realize her selfishness one day!
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
16 Oct 16
She didn't have a house and everybody else who lived there did so mom left it to her. She figured they would live in it and make it their home. She never thought my sister would sell it. It was never meant to be sold. It was to be kept in the family and mom never thought for one minute she would do that or she wouldn't have willed it to her.
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