~Sometimes Helping Isn't Taken Nicely~

Valdosta, Georgia
October 28, 2016 5:21pm CST
As everyone knows I absolutely love kids. I have been around little ones on a daily basis since I was a kid myself. Along the way I have learned different techniques and such that work on most kids. I'm not perfect at parenting (who is?) but some ideas work. The problem is I love helping too so sometimes I give advice that I realize later on wasn't actually wanted. I don't mean to be rude or pushy, I really am just trying to be helpful...Maybe it's not always taken that way though. Have you ever tried to help but the person got annoyed with you instead?
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@NJChicaa (119515)
• United States
28 Oct 16
I'm a teacher. Of course. Parents don't want my help. They just want me to give their perfect little angels A's.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Oct 16
@Njchicaa Anytime a parent tells me their kids are perfect angels I know I'm in trouble!!
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@NJChicaa (119515)
• United States
28 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies well it is worse when they think their teenagers are. Then you know that they are totally delusional.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Oct 16
@NJChicaa Absolutely agree! I have never heard of especially a perfect teenager! That's insane. Lol
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Oct 16
I haven't had that happen. I'm sorry it happened to you.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Oct 16
@just4him Thank you. It's not a good feeling.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies It never is.
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
29 Oct 16
It is never wise to give unsolicited advice. Often you don't know enough of the facts to be able to give proper advice.....
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Oct 16
@Morleyhunt Well when you have lived with the people for a long time you pretty much do know the facts actually.
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
29 Oct 16
Annoyed I can take. What I don't like is when I am scoffed at and not taken seriously while trying to help.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Oct 16
@Daljinder I am sure that's frustrating as well.
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@ms1864 (6885)
• Bangalore, India
29 Oct 16
Yes...but my experience has been with a sibling. He thinks he knows it all...and shuts out anything anyone else is suggesting.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Oct 16
@ms1864 I have a sibling like that as well and its very frustrating I know.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
28 Oct 16
They may seemed annoyed at first but after they think about it they will know that you meant well whether they admit that or not.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Oct 16
@Happy2beme I hope so because I don't like when anyone is annoyed with me.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
29 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies I know how you feel.
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@GardenGerty (160612)
• United States
31 Oct 16
It happens a lot. I admire you, and you do a lot of good. You are right, some people do not want help. Sometimes it is the ones who need it the most.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
30 Oct 16
Yes, there are times, when I give advice or something, and it's not always appreciated. Maybe it's just the timing that is wrong. But it happens. I think it happens to everyone at least once.
@dkh803 (66)
• United States
29 Oct 16
Just be yourself. If its important to you to help others just remember its probably worth it to that one person that really needs it and it might make a real difference in their life. If you help just one then its probably worth it and so many people just pass on opportunities because they are unsure of the response that they might receive.
@carebear29 (31962)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
28 Oct 16
I hate when you help someone then they treat you like crap
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Oct 16
@carebear29 Yeah it's not a good feeling at all.
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@jstory07 (139503)
• Roseburg, Oregon
29 Oct 16
Some people just do not want the help when they really need it.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Oct 16
@jstory07 Yeah, I just feel bad when I try to help and it upsets someone.
@Juliaacv (51045)
• Canada
28 Oct 16
Maybe you just stated the obvious and the person felt embarrassed when they realized that.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Oct 16
@Juliaacv That could be. I was thinking it's a prideful thing but I'm not sure.
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@Deepizzaguy (102523)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
29 Oct 16
I know what you mean. I sent tweets to some celebs who worked with the PBS Kids cartoon Wordgirl like actress Dannah Phirman, associate producer Liz Breen and a few members of the cast. Only Dannah replied to my tweet saying "She missed doing the voice of hero." The others are still putting tigers in the gasoline tanks. It means they are not going to tweet me and give a thumbs up. Just her fans and I will take it.
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@AutumnSnow (4583)
28 Oct 16
I've done the same I try to help and ends up being taken the wrong way.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Oct 16
@Autumnsnow I hate when it's taken that way. I guess it's a pride thing, I don't know.
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@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
29 Oct 16
It happened to me recently. The person I tried to be helpful with insisted that he didn´t need anything and that I should keep my mouth shut. I felt like if I shouldn´t had even tried to open my mouth during the time I offered him support
@RitzzView (3035)
• India
29 Oct 16
It is the thing parents always experiences. As a daughter, I've been angry with my mother many times. Seems like they are too much into me and my life. I want to experience things on my own, I want to learn things on my own. It is something very natural. This is how kids grow..they wanting to figure out things on their own. Let them. Don't be in between. They'll just learn, grow and be matured! Well, this is what I believe in!
@riti111 (57)
29 Oct 16
yes , it happened with me many times because i am youngest in my family and i used to give them advice but they think she is very young and dont know what we are talking about . They never take my advice .