To Report or Not to Report
By anniepa
@anniepa (27955)
United States
October 29, 2016 7:51pm CST
I'm struggling with whether or not I should report a member here who has been repeatedly insulting me for months now. As someone who was very active here for 7 or 8 years in the past and who recently returned after being absent from myLot for a time, I can say I've only ever reported someone maybe twice in all that time and only for very serious violations.
Is it considered "flaming" or abusive for someone to call another member stupid, immoral or delusional, just to name a few of the insults this woman has been hurling at me? I enjoy a good debate even with...no, ESPECIALLY with those who have a different opinion from my own. It's why I'm here. However, I really think we can have that debate without being personally insulting. Criticizing public figures is one thing, they've chosen to put themselves out there, but calling each other nasty names isn't acceptable to me.
Any thoughts or advice?
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18 responses
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
31 Oct 16
That's good to know. I really don't want to get anyone kicked off here and I sure don't want to be known as a "tattle-tale" type, I just want to be able to have substantive discussions where we can all freely express our views without personally insulting each other. That's something I always used to take for granted but these days things are really contentious and heated.
@thislittlepennyearns (62487)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
30 Oct 16
If they are speaking to you in a manner which you would consider rude, or disrepecful then by all means report them.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
30 Oct 16
Thank you. I'm not a trouble-maker and I can take criticism and disagreement with no problem but I feel it should be civil and respectful. I like to tell people if they ever think I've disrespected them they should tell me directly so I know what may have offended them and I'll stop it. I've let this woman know how I feel and it seems to hve only made her worse.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Oct 16
you should report this woman as she is bredfing rules here we are to get along with one other not insult of humiliate one other report her to goask alex as sthe is really doing wrongf here. the admins do not tolerate us abusing one other your user name is really]familar with me Im sorry someone is being abusive toyou do report her
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@snowy22315 (180678)
• United States
31 Oct 16
I agree with Susan..that should not be tolerated here. However, to be honest, I don't start discussions that I know might become inflammatory. I think you should report though.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
31 Oct 16
I know some people prefer to avoid discussions about topics like politics or religion. I don't get involved much in discussions about the latter since I'm far from an expert and I feel it's a very personal thing with some people. I do, however, enjoy discussing politics since I grew up with it being the topic of conversation on a regular basis and I honestly never had a problem with it becoming inflammatory until recently.
@asfarasiknow (3340)
• Bournemouth, England
30 Oct 16
I think I saw a recent discussion you mention and thought the election conspiracy theorist was quite unnecessarily rude to you. I have not seen any other discussion like that on here and really thought it let the site down.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
30 Oct 16
I can't tell you how much I appreciate the support and knowing somebody else has noticed what's been happening. I'm the first to admit I get quite passionate about some of the issues that face us in this election cycle but I always try to keep it friendly and civil even when there are disagreements. If I ever mess up and say something I shouldn't say or have something come out wrong I hope someone will just point it out to me so I can correct it and apologize if need be. I tried several times to do that with this woman but she just kept getting more abusive.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
31 Oct 16
@asfarasiknow Claim over and over that it was rigged and REALLY insult those they think voted the "wrong" way? Gee, I'll really be stupid then, won't I? Hopefully VERY relieved but stupid...lol!
@asfarasiknow (3340)
• Bournemouth, England
31 Oct 16
@anniepa What will they do with themselves after 8 November?
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@RitzzView (3038)
• India
1 Nov 16
Well.I believe its totally upto you. If you're waiting for some good and bog reasons to report, let be it.
If you're okay with these, let be it.
If there is another option other than reporting. .try that.
If you want to report..go ahead..
But, acording to my lot rules, its not proper to do so..
@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
30 Oct 16
I don't understand why some people have to insult people in process of debate. There are so many ways to communicate a point even when disagree.
I just conclude that these people who insult people are simply inferior and do not have substance.
If she disturbs you so much and is affecting you, perhaps you should report. Especially if it's obvious and continuous personal attacks.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
31 Oct 16
I've decided if it continues I'm going to report her. I enjoy a good, healthy debate, even if it gets heated at times, as long as it remains respectful and civil. I've always had many friends with whom I disagree on topics such as politics but it's never been a problem, we've always been able to discuss things and if necessary simply agree to disagree. What ever happened to that concept?
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@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
30 Oct 16
@Fleurnight only those who are not confident of expressing themselves raise their voice.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Oct 16
Yes report the person. No reason for name calling here. We should all be respectful.
@Juliaacv (51190)
• Canada
30 Oct 16
Its a shame that this is happening to you, but if you know how long its been occurring then I think that its been bothering you for some time and that you should take and report this. Hopefully that will be the end of it all, there is no need to belittle someone to feel bad or call them names like that.
