REDEMPTION
By Bernazir Jay
@surfstar95 (35)
Philippines
December 3, 2016 11:48pm CST
To all the parents out their, please don't hesitate to comment
I am a currently studying in college at the moment. I receive financial support from my parents. During this semester, my parents trusted me to pay my tuition fees. Time came where I lost my purpose and way. Instead of studying, I became addicted to gambling and spent a lot of their money. I admitted that it was my fault and never thought how hard it was to earn money for my education. The reason why I am writing this is because they found out that I spent a lot of their money instead of paying it to my school. They are threatening to stop me for letting me finish.
My question to all the parents is, if this happens to you, will you still forgive your children even if they did wrong to you? If yes, how will the children redeem themselves?
It would mean a lot to me if you guys could help me with this situation. :(
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3 responses
@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
4 Dec 16
@surfstar95 I am answering this from a daughter's point of view ok. :) I was once like you.,and I know how it feels if your parents gave you the sole responsibility of taking care of yourself specially if you are already in college.You feel like you can do anything and you won't need your parents's help and assistance.I was once a student too at college they gave me all the full responsibility on how to manage my time at school, family and friends., they too let me take hold of my finances.I even remembered I asked for permission to be a working student because we were 3 siblings whom my mom is sending to school., my mother is a single parent who is working abroad as a nurse.I was not the perfect daughter too I had back subjects., done cutting classes to go to the mall with friends but I did not indulge in gambling.I stopped for a half a semester before I graduate because I can't enroll in one subject because it is not yet available for that school year.And during that time I saw how my mother worked hard for the money she was sending us so that we can still go to school and learn.I promised myself that for the next semester I will do my best so that I can graduate and land a good job so that I can help mom.I am sure you will realize all of what you have done when you start to earn your own money and pay bills for yourself.I cannot think of any answer on how you can redeem yourself because they are your parents., all you have to do is to admit what you have done and learn from it.I am sure they will accept the apology because parents love their kids.Let them see that you are still worth it of their trust by changing your actions.
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@surfstar95 (35)
• Philippines
4 Dec 16
Thank you for sharing your personal life with me and also for taking time to give advices to me. I appreciate it alot.
@yukimori (10145)
• United States
4 Dec 16
Forgiving a child for something can be completely separate from continuing to fund their education after such a betrayal.
Quite frankly, if I were the parent in this situation, I would cut off my financial support of you. I would suggest that you get yourself into a support group for gambling addicts and work the program, and I would let you figure out how to support yourself while continuing your education. If that meant you had to transfer to a different school to complete your undergraduate degree requirements, so be it. That's the price of biting the hand that feeds you, unfortunately.
And I say that as someone who's familiar with the tuition rates at the local aeronautical university, which is one of the top schools in the world.
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@surfstar95 (35)
• Philippines
4 Dec 16
Thank you for having time to say something about my situation. I know that I made a very grave mistake, but what's done is done and I could never get my parents' trust back.
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@yukimori (10145)
• United States
4 Dec 16
@surfstar95 Something that might have an effect would be suggesting that they pay your school costs directly to the school. Get involved with Gamblers Anonymous or a similar program, and work it. Own the mistake you made and show your parents that you want to make sure it never happens again.
@Berniezeitler might be able to suggest more steps to take on that front, since he's a recovering compulsive gambler.
I'd suggest doing what you can to earn the amount of money you spent on gambling and return it to your parents. That would show a commitment to making things right.
@surfstar95 (35)
• Philippines
4 Dec 16
@yukimori that might be something I would consider. like I would find a job and start earning even if its only part time. That way I could show them that I have accepted my mistake and I want to make things right.
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@Magicweaver1 (343)
• New Delhi, India
4 Dec 16
If you have realize your mistake and are ready to make up.... There is no way that your parents would not forgive you.... they know when you are sad and what you need to be happy.... It's no more a betrayal if you recognize your mistake and make up for it.... Parents are the biggest treasure we have got without even asking for it.... This needs to be cherished....Thank god each day....
Keep Shining and sharing.... Happiness always.... :)