Having a baby from a man's view
@Marcusuk123 (24)
December 13, 2016 12:15pm CST
OK so something real here I got problems like we all got problems but need to get it out and get some advice
My son was born on the 5th January, me and my partner did not have much I just look my job she worked full time but time he was born I found work we had a run down bedroom to live in a room to rent she decided to leave job because of our son so I got my job worked hards and with in 3 mouth I moved them both out of our room into a little 2 bed home house got myself a car two so I could take them out and made things easier my partner toke my advice.
Before my son I raised my younger brother due to the fact my mother worked full time and my step father was to sick to work so it was just me and a new born but ya I had some idea but hey this is why my partner was so happy to take my word as law
This make me sound controlling but I'm not just advice supporting her but now we moved in I've painted the wall fixed the house but in a new kitchen and designed every thing the way she like I lissioned to her and her needs but now she stopped taking my advice she shouts at me more and more she tells me I don't lission and gets angry alot because of my son growing by that I mean the day to day chance.
A baby changes each week becoming big smarter and loud and there are ways of making life easier but now partner lissions to her friend more then she does me even know her friend has never owned her own lives with mum plus never had a baby my partner new found advice it s advice of a person that will say I won't a baby it be so nice well for the people who no about having a child know better.
I feel like I'm losing her and the when she is gone I lose my soon. I feel like the dog being let out to work to bring back the bacon but when home being shouted out of it again my partner perfurs Facebook and her friend more and a conversation with me. I am a chair in the corner a do Matt to walk on and I can she my son needs me needs to he needs my good advice so that he can grow if felt all to her my son would be be raised by a young teen mum
Advice from a strange?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 16
If your girl is not feeling appreciated or wanted by you she won't listen to anything you have to say. She will go elsewhere for advice and support. That is how women are.
If your coming home and taking out your stress on her she will also lose the trust she once had in you.
It's not the baby that's changing things, not really anyway. It's that your putting your focus on other things aside from her...which will make her feel less important.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
13 Dec 16
You need to talk to her right away. In fact, maybe you should print out your post and give it to her to read if you can't quite express it verbally. This sounds very serious. Unfortunately, no one tells a new mother what child rearing is really like--the sleepless nights, the frustration, feeling like throwing the child out the window (but you don't!!) and loss of time with the man you love. Nothing is ever the same. Instead, everyone wants parents to believe that children bring joy all the time and they feel guilty when they feel frustrated or angry. Women will often turn to their friends and if those friends are not parents they can only advise the way they think things should be, not how they actually are.
You talk to her. If that doesn't do any good, go to a marriage counselor, along if you have to. You've done a remarkable job bettering yourself and bringing your family a comfortable life. I hope things work out but you have to talk to each other without blaming each other.
