He Said He Was Sorry
@just4him (317040)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
December 25, 2016 10:11am CST
It took a lifetime, literally, for him to say it and it took another just like him to realize what I've gone through since he was born.
My oldest has ADHD and is bipolar, something I didn't know when he was little, but just the fact that he was hyper was more than I could handle on a good day. Most times I was ready to pull my hair out. Add to that ADD and you have a child who can't sit still, is always on the move, always into or doing something, and easily angered.
He called me last night and said he was sorry. You see, his girlfriend has a little boy who is hyper, no doubt has ADD from what I witnessed on Thanksgiving, and is everything my son was and is. He found he met his match with him and also realized how difficult I had it while he was growing up.
Right now I wouldn't trade anything I went through with him just to hear those words. It was perhaps the best Christmas gift I've ever received.
He came by last night with the kids so I could give them their presents since they will be spending time with their fathers today. So today is adults only. I have the boneless beef ribs in the crock pot and should be putting out tantalizing aromas shortly.
So for now I have a little bit of time to spend here. I hope you all are having a Merry Christmas, to those who are celebrating, a Happy Hanukkah to those celebrating that wonderful season of light, and a wonderful day for all those who aren't celebrating either holiday.
Thanks for reading.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
25 Dec 16
Merry Christmas!!
Glad everything worked out with your oldest :)
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 16
It really was. It's nice to know he appreciates what I went through with him.
@celticeagle (166782)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Dec 16
What a nice gift for you to receive. My daughter wasn't diagnosed with bi-polar disorder until she was an adult and had gone through some awful things. Then she had a daughter who was bi-polar. My daughter's dad was bi-polar but had never been diagnosed. I just know now looking back on his actions.
My daughter had ADHD and was hyper when young. Luckily her first teacher spotted this right away and I had her tested. I learned ,with her, to get kids tested as early as possible.
Am having a nice day.
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@celticeagle (166782)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 16
@just4him ......That's great! The earlier the better.
Yes, a good day for both of us.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 16
@celticeagle I'm glad you had a good Christmas.
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@allknowing (136123)
• India
26 Dec 16
That priceless word 'sorry' never comes that easily Am glad for you that you got to hear it 
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
25 Dec 16
It is really nice that you could have that conversation with your son.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 16
Thank you, it was a great day. Merry Christmas to you also.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
25 Dec 16
So his Son has the same as what he had got? Its good when a Son can get to talk to his Mother even if many years go by its always good.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
26 Dec 16
@just4him
Now I see it. He is seeing what you went through but because of his Girlfriend´s Son and now feels for all that happened.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 16
@lovinangelsinstead21 Yes. He has his hands full and cherishes those times when Gavan is in school and he has a break. 
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
26 Dec 16
It's nice to hear he appreciated your effort to take care of him when his a kid.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50213)
• United States
26 Dec 16
So glad that he talked to you and realizes what you went through.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
26 Dec 16
that's really neat that he recognized it, and knew he needed to say something
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
26 Dec 16
@just4him I hope his and your knowledge helps
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 16
@Jessicalynnt I'm sure it does.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
26 Dec 16
Now that was the perfect gift! I've taught so many students with ADD and ADHD, among other disabilities. I feel for you, your son, and his girlfriend's little boy. I hope he gets the treatment he needs to succeed in school and in life. My own nephew is a shining success story. Hugs to you and enjoy your adult only Christmas dinner!
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@SunnyShores (201)
• Boone, North Carolina
25 Dec 16
Having a great connection with your son like that is fantastic and a reflection on some solid parenting.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 Dec 16
@SunnyShores Yes it is, and I do.
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@SunnyShores (201)
• Boone, North Carolina
27 Dec 16
@just4him Relish the moments - it's like gathering fresh rose blooms in winter
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@snowy22315 (180502)
• United States
26 Dec 16
Yes, I sometimes thinks it takes becoming a parent, for kids to realize how hard it can be at times. I hope my son is one someday. He can't handle a lot of stress though...I think it would be hard for him on top of working full time.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 16
You might find he's more resilient than you know.
