When She Loves You More Than You Love Her
By Arnik
@FREE_GUY (30)
December 30, 2016 9:34pm CST
Hey everyone
What should one do in such a heartbreaking situation, specially when that someone is not just your love partner but also your best friend?
I am in dire need of some advice here as to what should I do, should I be a scumbag or be a perfect gentleman and do the right thing...?
Can one really be so ruthless for finding his own true love that one has to hurt someone so pure and divine...?
And will that love really be a blessing at the end, when it came at the cost of hurting someone so deeply that my friend herself has been deprived of her true love herself...?
And most of all, what if later in life I realize that it was all a mistake and she herself was the one I was looking for but didn't realize and have lost her forever?
And what if after waiting for some time I find someone thinking of her as my true love and later found out that it was a mistake , and have hurt someone else too.
Why does love hurt so much?? God I feel so feminine right now, but at the end that's something I had to say.
Now let me put some information out there for you all to help me with. So I am in relationship with a girl who loves me to the fullest of her capacity and I love her too, but am not sure whether if she is the real one??
Now I am in doubt as to should I do the right thing and settle down with her or should I wait for someone who I really believe is out there somewhere but have not met yet.
Doing either makes me die out of pain and sadness and has now somewhat started to affect my everyday life too.
The girl I am in with is not just my girlfriend but also my dearest friend with whom I share my last 5 years, or rather I should say our last 5 years. For past five years it was just 'our world', but then deep down there always felt something was missing.
Please feel free to ask if you have doubts and need to know something more, to help me get some perspective here....because to me it's like a dagger in my heart or my brain. So I ask you all, please do tell what should I do?
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4 responses
@shubhu3 (36463)
• New Delhi, India
31 Dec 16
I would say stay committed and loyal to her, and spend time with her , know her more, do hobbies and recreational activities together. You will be able to know whether she is the one or not. Savor what you have. If you are in a doubt don't settle then. When you will be ready you will know.
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@shaynas (5487)
• India
31 Dec 16
Why to wait for an imaginary one, when you have already met a real one! Sometimes, its normal to be confused, but when you said yes to her, you must have felt some way for her too. You can't fake for 5 years, can you?
May be because she is with you, you taking the thing for granted. Try moving away for sometime and see how much you miss her and feel for her? I would strongly suggest to give it a chance than breaking it up.
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@rishav_jaiswal (73)
• Dhanbad, India
4 Jan 17
Brother if she loves u more than u love her den I will just u have found the queen of ur life.Just love her too to the fullest she will make u the happiest person of the world instead of waiting for another one.U will also not feel anything missing when u will start loving her with ur soul and heart.Dont think about future just focus on ur present and she is ur present.
@oracle1ac (352)
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31 Dec 16
dude am confused here, u just said it yourself that you have the best of times with this person and yet here you are asking if she is the one or not.. if i was you i will run and marry this one fast before another comes around and takes her .. there is never a perfect woman out there, all women were created for the same purpose and they all have the same capabilities it all depends on how you view the package that they come with and that my dear id all up in your head.... i will give you the same advise that my daddy gave to me,.. if you love her , marry her Now
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