Do you have somebody in your life who is critical of everything you do?
By Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
Canada
42 responses
@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
2 Jan 17
@DianneN I really like that! but then hey, you're simply perfect
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jan 17
Yes I do-my husband's aunt. I handle criticism okay if it's done in a loving manner. It depends who says it and how they say it. Aunt Mary is just rude, hateful and mean so I don't handle it well from her at all.
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@LadyDuck (472087)
• Switzerland
2 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe My father was a sweetheart, my Mom has always been bossy.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
@LadyDuck I know a few people who have moms like that.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
That is tough. I am glad my mom was not like that.
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@rina110383 (24492)
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2 Jan 17
I handle criticism by giving counter criticism to the person who said it.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
That is what I am more going to start to do. Nobody is perfect.
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@allknowing (137822)
• India
2 Jan 17
More than criticism it is indifference that I cannot tolerate. No one is bothered about what goes on in anyone's life could be quite suffocating.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
2 Jan 17
Once one who is so indifferent except for mind the business and life of everyone else nearly got me to call him a name I cannot repeat here but boy was I furious but then I thought hey he is not worth it, just not worth it and that made me behave and come back to being the normal me. But even now I can still feel that little temptation to call him that unmentionable word.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 yes sometimes it is hard to controll yourself when you just want to let it all out. lol
@Juliaacv (51419)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
I think that one-on-one private criticism I can tolerate, but I work with a couple of people who like to publicly criticize me, and it drives me crazy!! I try to turn a deaf ear to them but every once in a while I'll speak up, and its never ends well for them when I do that.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
I do not like when it happens in a workplace like that. Sometimes you just got to speak up and I am glad you do.
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@Juliaacv (51419)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe More often then not I just ignore it, and use the "kill them with kindess" theory, which drives them both crazy, but every so often I get to that point where I need to shut them up and it never takes a lot of my part, but it gets the job done for a few days.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
@Juliaacv kill them with kindness does drive people like that crazy lol
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@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
2 Jan 17
I don't handle criticism well, but I have learned to ignore most of it. I've developed filters that let me listen for anything in the criticism I might find helpful, while dumping the rest into my "hater's gonna hate" file.
My wife has been instrumental in this. She's been over trained in the corporate world to always look for a better way or a different solution, even when what is already in place works just fine. Unfortunately, she cannot turn this off when she comes home. I used to take it to heart when she was always "offering alternatives" as she calls it to everything I suggested. Now, if it's about something I really don't care much about one way or the other, I just give in and do it her way, which usually winds up not being the better way after all. If it is something I do care much about, I tell her we're going to do it my way, period, and it usually turns out for the best.
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@JamesHxstatic (29413)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Jan 17
I don't handle it well either, but am lucky to get little of it. I can be quite critical at times and have to be aware of it. The thing that you can depend on is that the criticism will continue and maybe even intensify. I wish you well with handling that.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
@msiduri yes and not always easy to do so.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
Yes it is best just to ignore it and walk away
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
2 Jan 17
My older sister is like that her whole life. She absolutely drives me insane. We are both almost in our 60's I should be used to her by now.
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
2 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe Mostly I ignore the mean things she says, but every now and then when I have had enough I let her have it. Then she pouts like she is the wronged
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
@fishtiger58 lol that is usually the way. They can criticize but they don't like to be told.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
Some people are just like that and I don't even think they realize how annoying they are or not hurtful it can be sometimes.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
That's the way i get too. I just get silent.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
2 Jan 17
I'm the critical one I think. I just get annoyed easily, and don't find it easy to keep my feelings to myself. They tend to get worse if I bottle them, so I have to say something.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
2 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe Most likely.. so the problem is not really with you, it's with them!
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
2 Jan 17
It all depends. If I am tired too tired I am more likely to fly off the handle otherwise I take it alright but I donĀ“t take it too good all the time.
If the person is nag nag well that gets me going if they get me seeing red like this afternoon well for about ten minutes.
Now I am okay. I can understand how you feel though.
No one is perfect but I know a few that believe they are.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
2 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe
Its all so personal really because they could be nagging about something really personal and that for me is more frustrating so I usually take to singing out loud when they are not around.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
2 Jan 17
I ignore it or I say something they're not 'perfect' at and hush them up. I hope everything okay
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
2 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe I don't like people that are judgmental when no one is perfect
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
@infatuatedbby me either. Best to avoid them I guess.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
2 Jan 17
Well, I don't do criticism ever. And I don't believe there is such a thing as "constructive criticism". I think that's just a guise for someone to have a go..
example as below:
If someone says "I think you're YZX and you really should be/do XYZ".. I just kinda tell them where they can stick their thoughts. Because, I can say exactly the same about them.
Now, if someone says "I realize you're trying to solve X problem, how about you try Y approach, it might work?"
This type of helpful suggestion is way more constructive, and I can listen to it all day.
At the end of the day, if the person's feedback/criticism/suggestion is not conducive to me solving an actual issue, then what good is it?
And like some of us say "well, if you ain't part of a solution, then you're part of the problem!" huhu!
All in all, is something that's coming out of a person's mouth going to help you right now, or later on? if not, ignore it, and move on..
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
2 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe well lol, it's not meant to be advice.
It's merely a breakdown of how I triage feedbacks/criticisms, either it's useful or not. It doesn't work for everyone and every scenario. I guess we all got our own way of dealing with these, am sure you got your own groove. :D
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Jan 17
I never thought of it that way before. Thanks that is some great advice.
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
2 Jan 17
I don't like being criticised. I will avoid being criticised. If I do something wrong, I will make sure to have it fixed.
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
2 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe I know and me too... I always try my best, well, most of the time I try my best, but then for us it is like our best, but for some people, it's not.
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@jyoti3 (116)
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4 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe yes i love when i do this with my husband :)
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