Letting the Perfectionist Part Go
@queenofcats (143)
January 3, 2017 11:53pm CST
I've always been a "perfectionist". For as long as I can remember I would be upset with myself because nothing was good enough.
Now, I know perfection really is an illusion. It's an unattainable one that will only cause sadness if I keep expecting perfect every single time.
I now accept imperfection as a part of life and truly see the beauty around it. The kinks in the world are always the most interesting parts of it.
My own imperfections are now liveable. I don't live in anxiety that I can't achieve my own standards. I just live. I breathe. I see the wonderful, imperfect things around me.
Sometimes, when that perfectionist part of me really wants out, I remind myself that it's okay to strive for perfection. Greatness will result.
How do you deal with inner pressure to achieve perfection?
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@reskyyandi (3608)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 17
The think to be perfect make me not confident to show myself in front of many people
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@queenofcats (143)
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4 Jan 17
It's great that your husband has you to support him through his struggles. It really is a boost of confidence when someone else reassures me that my best is enough, so I can assume it helps him too!
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32697)
• Calgary, Alberta
7 Jan 17
My dad is perfectionist. he made my childhood really stressful because of his unrealistic standards,. I do love my parents but I can't live on the same house with them because they were such perfectionist.
@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
7 Jan 17
I am not a perfectionist, but one of my employees at work (my assistant manager) is. She will spend 6 hours on a task to make it perfect, when I would be satisfied with her results after 20 minutes. I have to keep reminding her that 80% is good enough, and that she doesn't always have to strive for 100%. As much as I would love to see something be 100% perfect, you have to factor in the cost of the effort to get to that point. Sometimes, it's more cost-effective to achieve 80%, and just be satisfied with that result.
@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
4 Jan 17
I have the same problem, especially with assignments.
Once I know the topic of an assignment, I would go straight to the library to borrow all the books required, then I get on with my paper. And since I want it to be perfect I keep changing it until I am happy with it, which I don't... And then, when I run out of time, I think to myself 'What the heck' and then I hand it in... Still not happy with the result but I have to hand it in.. I am always the first to start something and always the last to hand it in just because of the perfection.
@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
4 Jan 17
@queenofcats Good on you... I think I am still the same, always try to be perfect...
@queenofcats (143)
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4 Jan 17
I was the exact same way! It got so bad that I would dread assignments and I hated to learn. Because learning is so important, I calmed down and now I finally enjoy aquiring information again.
@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 Jan 17
For the most part I'm not a perfectionist. Then one day I realized that there are some things I like just so. Where I am a perfectionist, or try to be is in my writing. I hate typos and do my best in whatever kind of writing I'm doing to be sure I've spelled the words correctly. If I don't know how to spell it, I look it up online. Sometimes I'll just give up on the spelling and put a question mark in parenthesis after the word and continue - blog writing only for that. When I'm working on a novel, I'm very picky and do my best to make certain grammar and punctuation is correct as well as my spelling.
