Is "adolescence" the most difficult time?
By Margarita
@Meramar (2695)
January 6, 2017 4:39am CST
Adolescence, the period when a person stops to be a child and turns slowly to an adult. Sometimes, it seems to be complicated to deal with your children when they pass through this period between the age of 14 and 18. They don't want to be treated as a child anymore, but they still don't catch the sense of an adult. It's the moment when they try to find themselves and their place in the world. One of the changes we may see during that time is, they have to go on their own to buy their clothes because mom has no idea what young people are wearing! 
How do you deal with this period of the adolescence as a mother or father? Do you find it difficult to overcome?
How do you deal with this period of the adolescence as a mother or father? Do you find it difficult to overcome?9 people like this
9 responses
@jyotiu28jul (403)
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11 Jan 17
Yeah adolescence is actually difficult to tackle. My son is still two so long long to go.
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@jyotiu28jul (403)
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11 Jan 17
@Meramar yeah enjoying... He troubles us so much.. But you know these troubles are magical. We love them.
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@Meramar (2695)
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11 Jan 17
@jyotiu28jul Once you live those troubles, I am sure you could not imagine your life now without those troubles and your son!
@pumpkinjam (8767)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 17
I'm sure it can be difficult. My eldest is soon to be 17 and, in all honesty, I've had no problem with him at all. Not looking forward to the teen years with my youngest, though!
It is a time when a child is growing up, wanting (needing) independence but not quite mature enough for a lot of things. It's all about balancing freedom and responsibility. They need to start to find their place but they also still need guidance. And I suppose it is hard for both the child and the parent when lines are blurry or seen differently.
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@pumpkinjam (8767)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 17
@Meramar I agree. I believe the same of any age group, and that the way a child is handles as a toddler will help determine what they'll be like as a teenager.
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@Meramar (2695)
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7 Jan 17
@pumpkinjam ... what they will be like as a teenager and after as an adult, too!
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
6 Jan 17
I think it is a difficult time for parents as well as children. Children wanted freedom and have their own likes and dislikes. But parents think their decisions are good but children won't accept this. I have a 15 years old son and I too felt odd at times. His father also ordering him to do this and that and I understand how it irritated him. (keeping hair style etc).
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@Meramar (2695)
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6 Jan 17
The matter is that we had a certain education, maybe a stricter one, but it seems all changed now. Meanwhile we grew up without technology, and just with a ball or a bycicle running outside, nowadays rules and fashion changed. Our freedom was riding bycicle without any protection. Now, you have to wear protectione on your head, knees and ellbows. During my childhood, I went in the car behind my parents without fastenbelt and without the special seat for children. Now, you have to use all this. The freedom nowadays is the access to everything through smartphones, Internet, WhatsApp.... So also we as parents have to change the education we give to our children. We can't give them same one as we received. I suppose that's also my husband looks amazed when our son keeps hair styling... 
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
6 Jan 17
It's could be a difficult time and can be an exciting time at the same time. You cannot treat them like a child anymore. They start to think more mature.
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@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
7 Jan 17
As a middle school teacher I have lots of experience dealing with kids just as they begin to enter adolescence. A lot of parents, especially young single mothers, have no clue in the world how to deal with it when their children, especially their sons, enter adolescence, and they come to us, the teachers, for help.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
6 Jan 17
I'm having that dilemma right now. My son is 12 now and in two months time he will turn 13 and he's acting like most teenage boys do and I don't know how to deal with that.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
6 Jan 17
As far as I am concerned it was the most exciting time for me. my children never gave me problems, I have 2 teens right now and my eldest is already an adult.
my children never gave me problems, I have 2 teens right now and my eldest is already an adult.1 person likes this
@Meramar (2695)
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6 Jan 17
That's great! I also have two teens and this period can be really funny. It also depends a bit of how you deal with it and, of course, of the teens behaviour. The biggest problem I actually have is that mom has no idea from their point of view. So, it's time of conversations and let them taking some decisions on their own.
I also have two teens and this period can be really funny. It also depends a bit of how you deal with it and, of course, of the teens behaviour. The biggest problem I actually have is that mom has no idea from their point of view. So, it's time of conversations and let them taking some decisions on their own.1 person likes this
