When Cultures Collide
By Curlann
@annierose (21571)
Philippines
January 7, 2017 6:12am CST
It has been challenging loving a person of another country because aside from having different languages, culture also plays a big role. What seems okay for me might not be okay for him and vice versa. Because of that, communication is vital for without it, a relationship between two different cultures is impossible.
This day, the wall between us and mom was finally mended. I talked to my mom and to my boyfriend. This morning, the three of us reached an agreement to avoid any problems again in the future.
I want also to give thanks to all mylotters who were with me during those painful days. Thank you very much!
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
8 Jan 17
So so happy you worked things out and you are a wonderful caring person to not be hurtful or angry with your mom- best to keep things as good as you can. What country is he from?
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
11 Jan 17
My boyfriend is from Korea. We have pretty much different cultures.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
12 Jan 17
@annierose Yes, you do and those cultures are important to both peoples so it can be difficult but you can work through it!
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
13 Jan 17
@MarymargII Thank you very much for your support. 
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
7 Jan 17
@JudyEv Thank you very much Judy! Yes, I am hoping for the same thing. I am glad that my boyfriend has been open minded as well when it comes to our cultural differences.
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@JudyEv (342105)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Jan 17
@annierose It is a great benefit if one of the two conflicting persons can be open minded and willing to wait while the other person gradually comes round to some sort of compromise.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
7 Jan 17
@JudyEv It is really such a relief. Both my boyfriend and my mom don't know how to speak English much but, I appreciate how they were still able to communicate and understand each other despite the language difficulties.
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@allknowing (137772)
• India
9 Jan 17
We have a few in our family with different religions and cultures.. Initially we all wondered how this will pan out but we see their marriages are intact.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
9 Jan 17
@allknowing I am glad that despite the differences, the relationship is still intact. I think it also depends on the person, do you think so?
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@allknowing (137772)
• India
9 Jan 17
@annierose If one of them gives in no matter which partner things become easy and that is how. I think these things can be managed. We have 5 such marriages and all are doing fine.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
8 Jan 17
@LadyDuck Thank you. I am happy now and is trying to be a better daughter for my mom.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
8 Jan 17
@LadyDuck It was difficult but when an e-mail was sent to me scheduling me for a skype interview abroad, I decided that my mother should know it. That became the reason I got the courage to talk to her.
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@LadyDuck (472114)
• Switzerland
8 Jan 17
@annierose Congratulations, you did the right thing.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
so, it is my understanding that your boyfriend is from another country, a foreigner? please correct me, my dear friend, if i am wrong
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
30 Jan 17
@ridingbet I super agree with you. Thank you for wishing me well.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Jan 17
@annierose well, as long as there is love between the 2 of you, then love can move mountains. hope you will have a better relationship with your family as well
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
7 Jan 17
Glad that everything is sorted out. Hope this lasts long.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
7 Jan 17
@allen0187 Thank you allen! I am hoping for the same thing. We already know what we did wrong and try to compromise to be careful next time so as not to hurt other's feelings.
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
9 Jan 17
It is a difficult thing, but could be made easier with all realizing their place in the relationship.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
10 Jan 17
@PatZAnthony I agree. Difficult but not impossible to do. 
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
8 Jan 17
@neersha I agree. It does really happen but I think that a bigger adjustment is needed if a relationship happens between people raised in different countries.
@Gita17112016 (3611)
• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Jan 17
Glad the communications has improved. Good luck in the future.
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@diosabella (4789)
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8 Jan 17
Its really tough to have a relationship with someone with different culture. When the family of the someone is traditional or your own family is, its gonna be a big factor in the relationship. You're very lucky to find someone open-minded and that could meet you in the middle. good luck!
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
8 Jan 17
@diosabella Thank you. Yes, it is something very challenging. In the Filipino culture, it is not only the woman whom the man should please but also her family. It is not the culture of my bf's country. For our relationship to work out, we really do some adjustments.
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