Is landing money to someone to gamble good or bad favor?[UPDATED]
@Pletvarec (162)
Macedonia
January 9, 2017 4:13am CST
I have a friend with gambling habbit. Lately he is loosing money and he is getting into financial problems. He thinks that he can get himself out of debts with gambling and he is notbseeing that gambling put himbthere in first place. Yesterday he ask me to give him some money and he says it for other stuff but I know he is going to gamble with them..
I really dont know what to say to him..
Update:
Thank you guys for sharing your experience with me! My friend came to me at work today and thanks to @Dolphim55 I told gim that I'll go with him and pay the electricity bill for him. Told him that this will happen only once and that he should get his life together.
I noticed the dissapointment in his eyes when he heard me that Im not going to give him cash but pay his bill but Ive also noticed that he got the message and realized how deep he is.
Thank you again I think I did the right thing and I feel very good about it!
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13 responses
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
9 Jan 17
I would tell him I do not have that amount to lend but I would give him a much smaller amount and make it clear that Im giving it and not lending. Next time he tries to borrow or ask it would be much easier to refuse him, tell him " I gave you what little I had last time "
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
9 Jan 17
@Pletvarec it's proven, I had done it several times without destroying friendship, that is if you have a little to spare, it would also open a venue to council him later on the evils of vice, without offending your friend..
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@Pletvarec (162)
• Macedonia
9 Jan 17
Thanks for your opinion.. I like your idea
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
9 Jan 17
If you don't know that the money is used for gambling then it is Ok, but if you know then it is a big NO NO... But how close are you?
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@Pletvarec (162)
• Macedonia
9 Jan 17
I know him since kids and I know that he is not going to pay the bills instead go in the nearest casino and gamble to get enough money so he can pay everything he oves and everyone knows how that will end..
My problem is that I want to help him but instead I will just make him go to the casino and loose even more..
@owlwings (43913)
• Cambridge, England
9 Jan 17
A flat 'NO!' is the only legitimate response. You won't cure him of the habit but there is no need to support it. He will probably hate you for saying 'no' (and may try to spin you all sorts of sob stories) but you don't really want a 'friend' like that, do you?
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@Pletvarec (162)
• Macedonia
9 Jan 17
Yes If I give him the money I actually suport his habit..
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 17
I would say that lending him money would only help him feed his gambling addiction and worsen his financial problems. So nope, definitely not a favor.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
9 Jan 17
i'd never do that.people with a gambling addiction will happily make both people broke.
then you're as screwed as they are.
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@allknowing (132989)
• India
10 Jan 17
Lending money to someone to gamble is wrong.
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@Dolphin55 (31)
• Hastings, England
9 Jan 17
I think its ok to help, if he says the money is for food then buy him food don't give him the money. Same with bills, pay them directly with him there. Don't give him the money were he can use it for gambling. If he is that much of a good friend explain that you are bailing him out and it won't be a regular occurrence. Try and help him get the help he needs. Suggest gambleaware and other places that offer free gambling councilling
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@Pletvarec (162)
• Macedonia
9 Jan 17
Thanks I think thats what Im going to do. He said its for electricity bill because they will cut him off Ill go and pay his bill..
Thank didnt though of that
@Dolphin55 (31)
• Hastings, England
9 Jan 17
@Pletvarec glad to help. It's such a hard situation. It's easy for people to judge and say don't help but it is an addiction and sometimes people are to afriad to ask for help and don't know how to help themselves
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