~Oh HECK NO-You Are Not Living Here!~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
January 12, 2017 10:02am CST
Another one of my husband's family members just called him saying their going to be evicted. They asked my husband if they could stay with us for a bit. My husband said HECK NO! 
He told her he just got rid of one family member from our house and he is NOT allowing anyone else to stay with us...at least not for a very LONG time!
They would have been leaning on us for food and money. NOT happening, we are not rich! We have to help our own family now and be in peace.
Sorry if this sounds rude to those who don't know what we just went through but...we have helped plenty and we are done for a bit.
He told her he just got rid of one family member from our house and he is NOT allowing anyone else to stay with us...at least not for a very LONG time!
They would have been leaning on us for food and money. NOT happening, we are not rich! We have to help our own family now and be in peace.
Sorry if this sounds rude to those who don't know what we just went through but...we have helped plenty and we are done for a bit.44 people like this
46 responses
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
12 Jan 17
It does not sound rude at all. You have a family to think about, and you need to do what is best for your immediate family before trying to help out extended family. Besides, if they are on the verge of getting evicted, then it does not sound like it would be a good decision for you to bring them into your home depending upon the reason for the impending eviction.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
12 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies If they don't pay their bills, then why would you want to have them in your home? Unless you are independently wealthy and have a bunch of money to spare, why would you want to bring more people into your home to support? It would be different if it was a temporary situation, such as they were waiting for Unemployment or some other income to start to be able to pay their bills, but that does not sound like the case here.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 17
@purplealabaster Thank you for understanding. =) Yeah they are being evicted because they didn't pay their bills. From what I have heard her husband didn't want to work.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
12 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies Then, they have no excuse. They have nerve to ask you for help.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
12 Jan 17
Glad he gave the big NO this time :)
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
12 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies plus you have a new addition soon :)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 17
@infatuatedbby Exactly, we don't need anymore stress!
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@much2say (55616)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Jan 17
No no no - no more of that!! You've been generous and kind to help others in the recent past, but now it's gotta be all about your own family . . . like you said, to be in peace! It's not being rude at all . . . you gotta do what you gotta do to take care of your own family - that comes first. I am so glad your husband put his foot down on this one!! 
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@much2say (55616)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies You definitely have enough on your plate - the least amount of stress the better. And yes, with another little one on the way, you'll want and need to focus on the little one as well as family.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 17
@much2say Yeah I'm glad he said no as well. I can't take anymore and very soon I will be having another little one. We have enough going on in our lives-we don't need more stress.
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@Tina30219 (81934)
• Onaway, Michigan
12 Jan 17
Heck no you guys need your own time.If they need to either go to a shelter or find someone else to stay with.
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@Tina30219 (81934)
• Onaway, Michigan
12 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies That's for sure.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 17
@marlina Thank you. I think so too. We need calm and peace in our lives for a while now. We will always help when we can-but not in that way right now.
@moffittjc (121604)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Jan 17
Kudos to your husband for putting his foot down on this one! Your family has been through enough! It's time that you got a little break from visiting relatives. Geez, does everybody think you guys are Hotel Freebie or something?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 17
@moffittjc I know I am so grateful he said NO this time! We have always helped people and everyone knows it. We hate saying no but seriously we have had enough for a while. We have always said yes so it didn't go over well this time but my husband had to put his own family first this time and I am so glad he did!
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@moffittjc (121604)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies And it was right for him to say no this time. You just had a heck of a time with the previous family member, and you just moved, and you're pregnant. You guys need time to yourselves now, and need a break from playing host to everyone else.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 17
@moffittjc I absolutely agree! We have a lot going on by ourselves-we don't need anymore.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 17
@pahahk627 That is what happened-they didn't pay their bills because the husband doesn't want to work.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 17
@yukimori Yeah I agree, I'm glad he said no this time!
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@yukimori (10145)
• United States
14 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies Me, too. I know it's not my place, but I'm glad he's putting all of you ahead of everyone else's needs.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 17
@DWDavis I completely agree! We cannot have permanent people living with us and us supporting them.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50262)
• United States
14 Jan 17
I completely understand. Years back we took in some family members.......Never Again
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 17
@Tampa_girl7 Yeah we have learned our lesson. We just can't do it, it was too much.
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
13 Jan 17
Glad that he did not hesitate to say NO. Enough is enough. It Nissan time for some family time. You learned from the last one. Now it is time to move on.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 17
@Happy2beme Me too! I could not handle it again. We need our own time for a while.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
13 Jan 17
Yeah. What he did is correct... Thats what my husband never do.. He allow anyone of his family to stay with us even for long time...
Sometimes Im unable to finish my family members work, but hiw can I manage with some more here... Annoying...
Im really glad your husband said no...
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Jan 17
@amandajay My husband and I are both usually the first ones to help others but there has to be a limit to it.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
14 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies yeah... We should have our freedom , also how can we cherish others always
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@shaynas (5487)
• India
13 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies sometimes saying no directly is much better than taking the pain for months
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 17
@Jam4321 Yeah we have had enough with people living with us for a while. We need a break.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
13 Jan 17
I've allowed people to stay in the past, and even if you like them it can cause a lot of stress. Different routines, different ways of doing things.. and you really just want space and privacy! Especially if you just got someone out, you need time for yourself for awhile.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 17
@katsmeow1213 Yeah it is never an easy thing at all. We need time to relax for a while as our own little family.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Jan 17
@dodo19 Thank you, it was rough and we definitely need a break.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
13 Jan 17
Well it is good to know your huband said'NO'
A time comes when one's family comes First.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Jan 17
@silvermist Yeah I'm glad he said no this time.
@Marilynda1225 (82796)
• United States
13 Jan 17
I don't think you need any more people living with you and no it doesn't sound rude at all for your husband to put his foot down and say NO!!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Jan 17
@Marilynda1225 Yeah I don't think anymore people is necessary. We need a break from others.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 17
@cacay1 Yes we have enough going on- we don't need anymore stress right now.
