Friends please provide your valuable advices..

@syeow1 (5137)
India
January 13, 2017 9:35am CST
Friends I met with break up after 8 years of relation before 2 years and may be you know ending a relationship is hard, whether it was your decision or the other person’s decision. You may be dealing with painful emotions .Now she is married may Allah keep her always happy.after that I met with a friend on Facebook and I share my break up story with her and we become good friends I see a good friend in her but not a partner even I did not tell anything by which she realise I am in her love .Even I did not meet with her till now even we both are from same area.and I really did not want to fall in love before marriage because I still miss my gf..But before two days she proposed me and I rejected that by saying we are good friends and I did not want to loose you.because I want to marry their where my parents say I did not want to see tears in my parents eyes anymore because they cry a lot when I get sperated with my gf.Now she called on my phone and she told me why you stop to use Facebook and why you rejects me.i told her again that I did not want to make any sort of relation before marriage and I will marry where my parents say.but she start crying and she tell it's OK we will be good friends as we are since two years but I want now to maintain distance from eye please advice me what should I do.
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@LadyDuck (472435)
• Switzerland
14 Jan 17
I can understand that you do not want to fall in love, but there is no reason not to maintain a friendship if you like.
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@LadyDuck (472435)
• Switzerland
14 Jan 17
@syeow1 I know, may be she will understand.
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@syeow1 (5137)
• India
14 Jan 17
It's OK till she remains my friend but I afraid if she take this relationship more serious ly.i know what happens when someone you love goes away it is difficult to fill that wounds easily.
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@syeow1 (5137)
• India
14 Jan 17
@LadyDuck hope so..
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@mohit459 (12565)
• Haldwani, India
20 Jan 17
You should accept her love... And told your parents about it they will understand!!!! At least try once..... Don't break someone's heart..
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@syeow1 (5137)
• India
20 Jan 17
It's not possible to accept that girls love whom you did not know.for whom you don't have any feeling.its not love it's just her attraction ..
@syeow1 (5137)
• India
20 Jan 17
@mohit459 yeh dear I make her.and tell her that don't see your future with me..
@mohit459 (12565)
• Haldwani, India
20 Jan 17
@syeow1 ya but at least listen to her what she wants to express..... Don't just ignore.... Ignoring is not a solution....
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• Preston, England
14 Jan 17
talk to her, tell her how you feel and why, and that while you are not saying you won't marry her you feel you need more time to really thnk things through as it is such a big step in both your lives - good luck.
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• Preston, England
15 Jan 17
@syeow1 hopefully she understands - perhaps one day you will both be ready to say yes - good luck
@syeow1 (5137)
• India
14 Jan 17
I already told her that I did not want to marry her..
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@GrannyGee (3517)
• Louisburg, North Carolina
14 Jan 17
Follow your Heart, @syowi. If you don't feel feelings for her as you say ... you would only be hurting ou both if you went on to get married. When your Heart truly says it's right ... only then you will be doing what's good for you. I hope you can talk to her ... and she understand you only want a friendship but, marriage isn't best for you both. I wish for you all to be good in your life, and she understand.
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@syeow1 (5137)
• India
14 Jan 17
Thanks for your wish.may Allah bless you..
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@shaynas (5487)
• India
13 Jan 17
And why do u feel your parents will object if u decide to marry her?
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@syeow1 (5137)
• India
13 Jan 17
Actually I did not want to fall in love again...It hurts a lot..
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@shaynas (5487)
• India
13 Jan 17
@syeow1 you should give it 1 more chance, may be it's not painful this time :)
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@shaynas (5487)
• India
13 Jan 17
@ragikutty Yeah, dt's what i meant too!
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• New Delhi, India
15 Jan 17
Syowi....While everybody has been a little considerate in helping you, please let me be a little direct.... Making our lives complicated or easy is in our own hands.....This is not about love if I look at it and not about your previous girlfriend or the current sweet girl who has approached you....It's all about you.... Move on from the past and look at the current who could be your future....You've havnt Let Go yet..... Just Let Go and grow..... Always remember, make a person your life partner who loves you rather than whom you love.....Life becomes real dream come true then.... Keep shining and sharing....Happiness to you always.... :)
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
14 Jan 17
From what I understand you only like this girl, because if you really love her, you will not care if you are going to get hurt again or if you are going to hurt your parents. I might be wrong..
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@bluelion (625)
• Philippines
13 Jan 17
Yes, break up is really painful especially that you still love her. It's an 8-year relationship and it is really not easy to forget. But how much harder it is, you must move on. You are not meant for each other. And she is already married. If you really love her, set her free. Let her be happy with her present life, Now you met a girl who can love you truly, but you rejected her. I suggest that you give her chance. Maybe she is the one that God wants you to have. Open your heart. You can be friends at first. Invite her to the mall, or somewhere else, eat together. She will help you to forget your ex-gf. I believe there will come a time, that you will also appreciate her and will eventually fall in love with her. Since her love for you is genuine. Give her chance. Call her back and meet her.
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