My Boyfriend Doesn't Believe in God

I share the same sentiments as you. I don't know if I could change him but I hope although he doesn't believe in God, that he sees me as a blessing.

@flapiz Good luck.

@HAPPSINGH Do you believe in God?

We actually had the “issues”. He’s very logical and rational. And sometimes he would ask me things about my God and I feel confronted and uncomfortable. I guess it’s because my theological knowledge is not that great and I can’t answer his questions and I feel really upset. I did tell him that I don’t like it when he questions my beliefs when I’m respecting his disbelief and that his questions sometimes feel like a mockery. And he did apologise saying he didn’t mean it that way.

I always tell him that religion is not a bad thing. If it makes one a good person, who cares if he believes something you don’t find rational? If religion makes me help others. Why not? I guess he was only focused about the extremes of religiousity and the wars and the bloodshed it brought about. He didn’t look at the other side of religion where people are helping and respecting each other.

@flapiz It is hard when we don't know all the answers, especially when it comes to religion. But that is why we have faith, that we trust God is going to do what he says he will do, and that he loves us unconditionally no matter what. But I don't think we're meant to know all the answers; we are mere mortals after all, and some of the questions people have about religion are best answered by God himself. I find it hard that many people don't believe in God, or a spiritual realm. If there was no God or spiritual realm, how do we explain love? How do we explain our instinctive desire to do what is morally right? How do we explain how or why we care for people, or have sympathy or empathy for them? I think these are things that were given to us by an almighty God. Without our emotional thoughts and feelings, we would be nothing more than animals wondering around this planet.

Hey LK! I had this discussion again with my boyfriend and I saw your old response. I do feel worried that he’s too critical about God and he’s saying I shouldn’t brain wash our future kids about Catholicism. I feel sad cause I want to raise my kids Catholic.

@Letranknight2015 He’s open to teaching them all forms of religion but not so much about raising my kids as Catholic. He’s saying there’s nothing wrong with believing in God but there’s something wrong with blind belief. But isn’t blind belief called faith?

@flapiz Oh, when we die and we face him, i doubt he will have any words to say.. No, you teach your kids about GOD and let them decide. You're going to be the mother btw.

I hope so too. Religion aside he's a very nice and caring man.

@flapiz everyone stands for his/her own belief

I was hoping to date a believer too. But I cannot dismiss someone who is nice and kind just because he does not believe in God. He’s got a pure heart and I think he’d make an awesome life partner. Our hearts can’t really choose who to fall for. And although it will be tough we’d have to wonder if it was predestined by God. I believe he writes our love stories.

@Ladanger I really pray that he does. God is a big part in my life. I don’t know how a marriage without him would be like.

@flapiz if he makes you happy then stay with him. You never know maybe he will start to believe in God

@Janet357 Well I’m not sure. His mum was Catholic but I guess never instilled it to him as a child.

Well if he ever doesn’t I just wish he wouldn’t stop me from introducing God to my kids. He’s saying he’s okay with it but he thinks religion is brain washing. It upsets me.

@flapiz oh my. But why does he not believe in God?

@flapiz It is a problem that might always cause friction. Much better when there is agreement on important matters in life.

Hi Bird! I actually like how you say "love unconditionally". I should really stop trying to change my boyfriend. And yes you have a point being different could have some postitives too.

@besweet I know and although I really want to think about it deeply, I just started this relationship and I don't want to cut it short. I will make my choice when I've sorted my other stuff.

Well I do accept him. But I'm not sure my family would and it worries me so much.

@flapiz I understand, my family would feel the same. Relationships are not easy, they need effort from both sides. You can listen to everyone's opinion, but at the end of the day it's your choice to make.

Well I know it's up to me because I am the one who is in a relationship with him not my family. But I still do really care about what my family would think. I do want them to like my boyfriend after all.

Well he does respect my beliefs but we do have times when he asks me things and I am left with no answer and it really makes me feel uncomfortable.

@shaynas Well I did tell him and he did stop. Maybe we could have that talk some other time when I actually can answer his question.

@flapiz You can clearly let him no you are uncomfortable when he talks like that, i am sure he will stop :)

I'm going to touch his life so he will believe in him someday.

I understand hat he's allowed his opinion. I work in health care after all I am very much trained in accepting differences. Still feeling a bit disappointed about it but I can't tell my heart not to feel for him.