Sad Liberation
By Four Walls
@FourWalls (69610)
United States
January 17, 2017 11:19pm CST
I lost some family members yesterday. Not through death, but through an argument. Without going into the gory details, some family members have accused me of stealing from my aunt. Never mind I have documented proof that she gave me money, I'm still guilty in their eyes. They will never see or hear from me again.
It's sad to lose contact with family members, especially that way. But, in all honesty, life is a hard road, and the last thing you need to do to yourself is to burden yourself with people who hate you -- even if they are family members.
I'm not enjoying the liberation, but I know it's the only way.
And for those people who claim "you can't pick your family," you're wrong. You can't pick who you're related to by birth, but you can dang sure pick the people who love you and whom you love.
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@GardenGerty (161240)
• United States
22 Jan 17
When my older sister lived with me I made very certain I could not be accused of "exploitation". I felt that was going on at her daughter's house. Not intentionally, she participated in the situation by having them use her benefits card and giving people the pin numbers rather than go out herself to get things. I know it was not really intentional on the part of my niece and her daughter, and would not have accused them. I just refused to fall into that situation myself. People do talk. You are not guilty, but no one will believe you.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
18 Jan 17
Sorry that they have wrongly accused you of this deed. I have had people accuse me of crap and when they realize that they were wrong, they usually don't apologize. They are too embarrassed.
Many are the members of my family that I do not associate with for one reason or another. My choice. I will act cordially when I see them out and about, but they will have to approach me, I do not approach them. I do not have them over for social events.
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@allknowing (138459)
• India
18 Jan 17
Plainly speaking I do not feel any love for those who are my family. I am bonded just because and that's it. I have more feelings for those who have been in my life and have managed to create an emotional bond. I do not want to disturb the hornet's nest by proclaiming that i do not love them but keep them guessing.
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@yukimori (10149)
• United States
18 Jan 17
Huge hugs. That's a tough one to deal with.
You're absolutely right--you can't choose who you're related to by DNA, but you can choose to surround yourself with people who are positive presences in your life. What I don't understand is why so many are willing to accept awful treatment from people just because they're related. Family should treat you better than a random stranger on the street would.
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@Letranknight2015 (52186)
• Philippines
18 Jan 17
Well, I've been lucky enough to have some good siblings. But I guess I owe it to my mother who likes to keep the peace.
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@teamfreak16 (43418)
• Denver, Colorado
18 Jan 17
I haven't spoken to my family in about ten years. Should have done it years before that.
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