Pubescent Party Next Door - We all are Invited.....
By Amanda
@amandajay (23264)
New Zealand
January 17, 2017 11:47pm CST
When a Girl gets her periods for the first time in life, we call it Pubescent here and people in her family celebrate it like a wedding....
As soon as they got to know about that, they locked the girl in a cleaned room for about a week to keep her away from men. Only women can see her...
Then they go to the family astrologer and get a good date and time to make her bath.... Mostly after about a week from the menses date...
In that day they make her bath with herbal water and jesmine flowers. And take her home, after that only men allowed to see her.
Then she worship parents, she get gold jewelries from them as well as family members. Also many other presents too...
We are invited for lunch in neigbour house...for 13 years old girl's party. But Im not able to attend, husband and elder kid not at home and little one still not well...
So we decided to go in the evening and give her a gift voucher from a book shop. It will be useful for her as she is still studing...
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
20 Jan 17
Where I live its practically unheard of. I think there are few places in India where they may or may nit have such custom. It is not one of mine or in the parts where we live.
If I think to be presented before a would-be husband and his family for examination so they can rate me whether I am ti their liking or not is humiliating and degrading like put on sale in a market then being paraded around because I got my first period and announcing it to strangers in a party....UGH! I would die!
Sorry! But it is very embarrassing! I would be feeling ten times embarrassing on behalf of the poor girl. I have trouble telling my own mother in a rare chance that I need her help. Jeez!
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
20 Jan 17
Yes i got your point... Im also thinking the same. Its like they put their girl on sale after having her mensus... Its like, im ready to have kids,..
May be future people will change these customs.
But i have heard that in India also they have such customs.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
20 Jan 17
@Daljinder yes i can understand what you are trying to say. We just tought to leave the decision on my kids. If they want they will continue with these customs.. If not they will ignore...
Dowry , child marriages still in India, i have seen on internet. May be only in few parts of India. But we cant eradicate these things... Its hard... Thats what im saying...
There are some fogies, we cannot change them.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
18 Jan 17
Yes - I agree! It's nice to learn about other peoples customs and what not. 
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
18 Jan 17
@Peterwu111 Sort - of, not completely.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Jan 17
No such ceremony takes place in our community. Do you approve of this kind of ceremony?
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
20 Jan 17
@amandajay At the present time, we are fighting against a certain tradition ourselves. We realize that just because it is a tradition, it does not make it right.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
20 Jan 17
@Daljinder I may not do these things for my kids. But if my mother wants thats.. Then i will have to do that.. Thats what i was telling... Our mothers grand mothers are still here.. So they need these things still... May be afther that generation we will be able to ignore these things...
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
18 Jan 17
Its a part of tradition... How can we ignore...lol...
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@allknowing (136541)
• India
19 Jan 17
It is so opposite to what happened in our household. We were 5 girls and with the exception of mother no one was told. It was all hush, hush (lol)
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
19 Jan 17
Haha... Its the tradition of my country... No one ignores...lol
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
18 Jan 17
Wow that is very interesting to know your custom!
But when you say only men can see her after she bathe, men in her life like family members or friends?
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
18 Jan 17
Yes me too.@ScribbledAdNauseum
@amandajay And do they visit her, or stay there to look at her for awhile because she's now a women. I would feel awkward being showered for having my period, but it is nice to know of other customs. And I'd be nervous to be in a room filled with just men. Can any women occupy her like her mom?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 17
I was wondering that myself.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
18 Jan 17
From the day she got menses until she bath no men allowed to meet her. Even her father or brother or anyone...
Regarding women only close relations can see her inside the room...
After her bathing ceremony everyone in her family come to bless her. Shower her woth presents specially Gold...
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
18 Jan 17
It is interesting to learn about different customs from around the world. I never heard about this before.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
19 Jan 17
@amandajay It is great when traditions continue through the generations.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
20 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe yeah may be it will change in future... But still they believe these things
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
19 Jan 17
@happy2beme Its tradition of our country dear.. Since antient days they were keep doing these things
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 17
Wow, that is such a lovely custom! A coming of age ritual, and I assume it's meant to bless her and her future as a woman?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 17
@amandajay It's a very nice ritual then.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
18 Jan 17
Yes... You got it right... Its a blessing to save her from evil eye..
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@paigea (36317)
• Canada
23 Jan 17
@amandajay We have no ceremony for the onset of menses. Some First Nations (North American Indians) did and some families are reprising those ceremonies.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Yeah different customs in different countries... Hehe..
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
23 Jan 17
@paigea oh wow.. Really nice to.know...
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@immilind113 (607)
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18 Jan 17
@amandajay i dont think its done here....in India, these things are termed to be private and rarely even talked in public...though its changing with time...
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
18 Jan 17
@immilind113 oh i see.... yeah may be they dont celebrate like here... but im sure there must some customs regarding this in your country as well
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