Oh snap. I fell in love today.

@TheHorse (220275)
Walnut Creek, California
January 19, 2017 9:18pm CST
I fell in love today. It's true. I picked up a 10-year-old client to take him to play hoops, and there, helping answer the door, was a 3-year-old boy I'd never met before. I engaged him, asking his name, and how old he was, and he told me he was three. I held up three fingers as my client's mom told me he was their latest foster child. The little guy followed me around, and asked me if I wanted to see his Thomas the Train, upstairs. I said yes. I admired his Thomas the Train as my kid client changed into his hoops/skateboard clothes, and then sang "The Wheels on the Bus" with him on my client's guitar, which I tuned for my kid client. After I "witnessed" his Thomas the Train, and let him "play" the guitar, he decided I was his best buddy, and continued to follow me around as my client got ready to go to the park. As we were leaving, the little one said, "Bye, Daddy," and I almost lost it. My kid client was good today, and made a couple of age-appropriate fiends at the skateboard park while I talked to the mom of one of his new friends. When I got back to my kid client's house, the 3-year-old found me and wanted to show me the remote control for the TV. I thanked him and helped him "put it back, so it wouldn't get lost." It was he who escorted me to the door and said "Goodbye, Daddy." The kid is part Native American, and tribal stuff is going to come into play. He's been with his foster family a week and seems comfortable there. My client's mom doesnt know if he'll remain with them or have to move on. To my client, after skating and hoops, I said, "I hope you get to keep your new little brother. He seems really sweet." The little guy looks like a male version of my former kid client in Oakland (the one in the picture), who I knew from birth and who is now probably eight or nine. I just wanted to gobble him up and bring him home. I hope they get to "keep" him.
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@LadyDuck (472078)
• Switzerland
20 Jan 17
It breaks my heart to know that those poor young boys stay with a family only a short time and then they are moved around like a "postal parcel". The photo of the little guy is lovely, I can imagine the one you saw yesterday looks like him, I understand you are in love.
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@LadyDuck (472078)
• Switzerland
30 May 17
@TheHorse She is lovely, she does not look like a little Eskimo, she is probably a "Mestizo" a mix of Spanish and Indian ancestors.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
@LadyDuck To ME, she looked like a little Eskimo. She was a wonderful kid--happy and smart. I hope she's still doing well. Aren't most Mexicans a mix of Spanish and Indian blood?
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
The photo is of a little girl I worked with. She is Mexican, though she looks like a little Eskimo to me. She fell asleep on my lap during Disney on Ice. That's some serious love right there.
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@JudyEv (342179)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Jan 17
No wonder you fell for him so badly. What a cute little kid he must have been. It's not the child in the photo is it as I think I've seen that one before.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Jan 17
No, but he looks like her. She was about 1 3/4 when I took this.
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@JudyEv (342179)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Jan 17
@TheHorse I didn't realise this was a little girl. She is cute too. Do you still have any contact with her?
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Jan 17
@JudyEv No, I've lost touch with her and her family. She was a "spatial rotations queen." When she toddled into my office, we usually did puzzles together while we "talked."
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@DaddyEvil (137617)
• United States
20 Jan 17
Oh, no, pony! It is never good, nor quick when white laws interfere with the Native Americans living among us! In this boy's case, the ICWA has jurisdictional preference over white courts, which means he is under tribal care. Without knowing any more than you just mentioned, I can predict what will most likely end up being the outcome of that case.... His foster parents will not get to keep him (although, if one or both of your client's parents are from the little boy's tribe, then they MIGHT be able to keep him) if they are both white. The Native American Tribes dislike whites interfering in tribal business. They can actually be quite fanatical about bringing their people back into the tribe's jurisdiction. Not only that, but the U.S, Government also sides with the tribal spokesman in these cases as the tribal rights are equal to the child's rights. It is not a matter of what is best for an Indian child, but what is best for his tribe, as well! SMH!
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@DaddyEvil (137617)
• United States
22 Jan 17
@TheHorse Well, honestly, IDK exactly what they will decide. I've seen it go both ways, but more often than not, the tribes win in cases like this.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
@DaddyEvil So far, the family still has him. He gives me a hug every time I come over to see his older brother.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Jan 17
I hope the tribal folks don't mess up what's best for the kid.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 17
maybe time for you to adopt?
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• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 17
@TheHorse well you might have to change your priorities, so I know it would take some thought, but..... at the same time.....
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Jan 17
I've thought of that. But I'm so dang busy right now, I don't know if I could be a full time dad.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
21 Jan 17
@Jessicalynnt One never knows.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
20 Jan 17
What a sweet, smart, little kid @TheHorse . I can see why your heart would pound a little faster.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Jan 17
I wonder if he'll still be there when I visit my client next week.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
@nanette64 It's a few months later now and he's still there. He has little glasses now, and gives me a hug every time I come over.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
22 Jan 17
@TheHorse I sure hope so. If not, maybe you can find out where he is.
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@diosabella (4789)
21 Jan 17
WOW! Such a sweet kid. I hope he end up in a very nice family.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Jan 17
Me too. Every kid deserves it.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
@diosabella The one in the picture is a little girl I worked with in Oakland. She was one of my all-time favorites. The little guy in San Ramon is just as adorable.
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22 Jan 17
@TheHorse Anyone will fall in love with that little guy.
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@vandana7 (100604)
• India
7 Apr 17
They sure know how to pull the strings of our hearts, don't they. Princess for example...brings her clothing and asks me to help her wear it....kinda privilege...her bro did that for a real long time...nobody else got to make him wear those darned shoes but me...and even if I was asleep, he would wake me, get me to tie his shoes and then leave. It was like saying you are my family...what have we adults done to our worlds..:( God made us beautiful..and like one family...we are hell bent on destroying god's world, isn't it? Sad..
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
I enjoy doing those little things, like tying shoes. It is sad that many people want to divide and conquer, rather than nurture.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jan 17
Aw that's so cute. I hope they do get to keep him and I hope you will get to see him more. He seems to like you. =)
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Jan 17
I'll post about it next week. I hope.
@silvermist (19702)
• India
20 Jan 17
@TheHorse That was quite an experience.I too hope they get to keep him and so you can meet him more.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
21 Jan 17
I hope the kid finds stability, wherever it is. He seems really loving.
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
22 Jan 17
Such a cutie. They grow up fast
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Jan 17
I hope this one is still good at spatial rotations. I haven't seen her in years.
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
20 Jan 17
Yes, tribal stuff will certainly come into play. Let's all hope he gets to live a happy and healthy life, wherever he is.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
So far, he is still with the family I work with.
@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
20 Jan 17
You almost lost it? You did well. I would have been a blubbering wreck!!
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@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
23 Jan 17
@TheHorse I haven't a clue how you can do that sort of job. It can't be easy but you have my utmost respect for being able to do it despite how it affects you personally.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
@WorDazza I give and receive a lot of love. That's OK with me.
@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
21 Jan 17
I've shed a tear or two over the years while driving home from working with kids like him. A child deserves stability.
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@just4him (317238)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Jan 17
He sounds adorable, and the kid in the picture is too.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 17
Happily, he's still with the family. I don't know if they've adopted him, or if he's in "foster" care.
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@teamfreak16 (43418)
• Denver, Colorado
20 Jan 17
You seem to connect well with little kids.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Jan 17
I just do my best to join them in their worlds, whether it's being excited about Thomas the Train or building something out of stacky blocks.
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@FourWalls (69033)
• United States
20 Jan 17
That has to rip your heart out. You may be the first male who showed him love and affection. God bless you and the foster parents.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Jan 17
I admire them for doing what they do. They have three adopted kids, one natural kid, and now this little guy. He's absolutely adorable.
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• Eugene, Oregon
20 Jan 17
It would be hard to meet and help these kids and then lose touch and wonder if they are growing up well and have what they need to survive. Is the tribal part generally positive?
@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Jan 17
I honestly don't know. It was framed by the foster mom as something that could get in the way of them keeping the child.
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• Yonkers, New York
20 Jan 17
This is by far the sweetest thing I've read all month. My heart literally melted. I wanted to keep reading lol I wish children remained this innocent forever.
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@TheHorse (220275)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Jan 17
Aw, thanks. I wish people remained open to love and support forever.
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