Need some kind direction and in put...
By Yvonne
@codacoda2 (1)
January 28, 2017 7:23pm CST
My husband 87 year old father has been sick. We all agree he can not live alone. Two siblings live out of town. My husband and I would like to sell his home. Pay off his debts and move him closer. The other sibling are only thing about them selves. One of his sisters has been getting money from her father and we have a feeling so has his bother. Mind you his sister is 49 and brother 56. His dad keeps telling us he is worried about his bills. We are trying to get him away from her so she can not continue taking from him. His other sister only wants to know what in bank account. I just can't understand all the greed from these people. My father in law would live comfortably if they stop draining his bank account and credit cards. His sibling hate me right now cause I found out about thing leaving his house and his sister taking from his dad. Now they really don't want his dad moving because they won't be able to continue what they have been doing. Yes, this has put a strain in my marriage. My husband feels over whelmed hearing them and then trying to do what's right for his dad. If anyone has gone though this I would really like some in put. His sisters just want put him a nursing home and split the house in two rentals. Not to help their dad but for them selves. It makes me so mad. There response is they deserve it!
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
29 Jan 17
I can't believe these guys, taking advantage of their father like that. I'm sorry that this situation has put a strain in your relationship with your husband. In my opinion, it is ok that you let his sister and brother be mad at you and continue with your plan. Do not mind them and put your father in law's welfare in a higher priority.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
29 Jan 17
so if you sell his home what becomes of that money? Do you have a home you are selling? or just moving to be closer to him? Is he in charge of his own money?
Money can become the focus for people, with my dads sister, she lives with my grandmother she is been put in charge way before my grandmother became unable to take care of herself. She makes all the decisions with any property and the money.
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@snowy22315 (180509)
• United States
29 Jan 17
I think you have some good suggestions on this down below..Good Luck!
@allknowing (136145)
• India
29 Jan 17
You and your husband should be in this together and you need to consult a lawyer seeking his/her guidance how to go about this.
@Friendlypink (3805)
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29 Jan 17
This is heart breaking. I would do everything and sacrifice everything for my parent. The elder is already 87 and sick. He may only have a few time here with us. They need to make up and be thankful for everything their dad have done for them. I just cant imagine why they are after money and would like to put him in the care of others. Sigh
