~I Don't Usually But~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85289)
Valdosta, Georgia
February 6, 2017 10:24pm CST
I don't usually spend any money on myself, I have children and they come first. Last time we got paid from MyLot I got the kids some things they wanted off of Wish. I told them next time it is my turn to get something for me. I need new sneakers badly and I found the cutest pair that I LOVE! So, that is what I'm getting.
I'm hoping I won't feel too guilty getting these sneakers since I got the kids something before myself... The sneakers are $15 which isn't bad since at the stores sneakers cost more than that.
Do you feel guilty when you spend on yourself?
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@Marilynda1225 (82519)
• United States
7 Feb 17
You deserve to treat yourself so don't feel guilty
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@Marilynda1225 Thank you. I rarely ever do but I need sneakers since mine have holes in them and I really love these.
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@Butchcass4 (5895)
• United States
7 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies If you have holes in your sneakers you waited too long to get a new pair. I'm certain your kids have what they need! You deserve to take care of yourself.
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@GardenGerty (160390)
• United States
8 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies Those are really cute sneakers for the rockin mom of five. You deserve them.
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@celticeagle (165620)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Feb 17
What is it about mom's that makes them feel guilty when they do something for themselves? I rarely buy anything for myself either.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 17
@celticeagle yes but we should learn to loe ourselves so we c an know how to love other s and buying needed items for self is loving oneself so we can love others this is Christs teaching not mine.
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@celticeagle (165620)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies ......I know. I think it is normal to feel this way.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@celticeagle I don't know, but I have always felt guilty spending on myself since I have had my kids.
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@much2say (55230)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Feb 17
Ohhhh - those are really cute! Well I'm glad you got something for yourself . . . you do so much for your family and others . . . you deserve to treat yourself! But I know what you mean . . . I do feel guilty when I splurge on myself . . . but it's not like I do it all the time . . . we just have to convince ourselves it's ok to be good to ourselves when we can 
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@much2say (55230)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies You know what, I just went to this "mindful parenting" workshop at school just this morning . . . and the folks running it were all about us parents taking care of ourselves first . . . that we have needs and wants and feelings too - and that's ok! 
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Feb 17
@much2say Yeah in my head I know I need things too but my heart just feels bad when I do get something.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@much2say Thanks I love them too! =) I didn't get them yet but I'm planning on it once we get paid from MyLot.
Thank you, my husband tells me the same thing. He always tells me if I need something to get it but that's hard for me!
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
7 Feb 17
They are sweet. You deserve them. I know how you feel though. I always felt guilty if I bought myself stuff. As a mom we always put ourselves last. There is no reason to feel guilty for treating ourselves but we always do.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@Happy2beme Thanks, I think their so cute! Yeah I feel guilty whenever I buy myself anything. It drives my husband crazy, he's always telling me if I need something to get it. I usually do without though instead.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@Happy2BeMe Yeah I feel the same way.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
7 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies My kids are grown and on their own and I still struggle with spending money on myself. I always figure it should go towards something else.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
7 Feb 17
Wow its really nice. You better buy them
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Feb 17
@amandajay Lol, thanks. My husband told me I should get them too. =)
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
9 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies oh great,,, he is so nice.. Hehe... Show us after getting them..
@snowy22315 (179440)
• United States
7 Feb 17
if those are the sneakers, I love them!!! I don't feel guilty because usually when I buy something it is something I need.
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@snowy22315 (179440)
• United States
7 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies They are too cute!
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@snowy22315 Yes they are-I love them too! =) Yeah these are needed as well.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@marlina Yeah I know I need new sneakers badly. Thank you. Lol, they might make me move faster!
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
7 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies I remember when I bought my first running shoes ever (a long time ago), I used to call them my "magic shoes".
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@LadyDuck Yeah the money I make here gets split up. One time it will be for the kids, the next time it will be for my husband or myself.
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@LadyDuck (470432)
• Switzerland
8 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies My husband told me that I must keep the money for myself, but I want to spend the money buying something for both of us.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
7 Feb 17
I worked for 35 years...there is no way I would feel guilty spending money. But you have to remember, I am in a totally different financial situation than you - but still spending a lousy 15 bucks on yourself should not make you feel guilty. You work hard taking care of your family.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@Abbygreenhill Yeah, we aren't well off by any means but my husband told me that I should get them and not feel guilty about it. That's just hard for me to do.
Thank you, I do my best for my family. =)
@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
7 Feb 17
When you have children, not spending anything on yourself is a very hard habit to break. Ours have left home and I still have to have my arm severely twisted by Mrs WorDazza to spend anything on myself.
I desperately need a new pair of football trainers but every week I look at them and think that I'll get another few games out of them. I'll probably still be saying that when they've fallen off my feet mid-game.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@WorDazza Yeah, every time I feel bad no matter how much I need whatever it is. I didn't get maternity clothes for myself this pregnancy-I just used comfy pants instead because I didn't want to spend so much, their expensive!
Lol, I know the feeling. My shoes are coming apart and you can see my toes at the top. Lol.
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@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
8 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies It obviously just comes with the territory of parenthood.
@JamesHxstatic (29413)
• Eugene, Oregon
7 Feb 17
Since we are retired, with an okay income, plus my very part time job, we are okay, but tend to do splurges on things we both like (dinners out and tickets to events). We take care of personal needs too, like shoes and clothing.
You deserve things too. You work hard taking care of everyone.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@JamesHxstatic That's good that your able to splurge at times. =) Thank you, I do try my best for my family.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@JudyEv Yeah, I can't help feeling guilty even though everyone else comes first here too. Yes those are the ones I want to get, thank you. =)
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
7 Feb 17
Is that you wearing the lovely sneakers, Ms. Jennifer?
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
8 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies Oh I thought it was you :) Those sneakers are lovely though.
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@GardenGerty (160390)
• United States
8 Feb 17
Yes, I do and I do not even have little kids to buy for.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Feb 17
@GardenGerty I understand, I think I will feel this way forever even after my kids are grown.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Feb 17
yes its always like that when you have kids. when i was a caregiver, i worked once for a lady that used to show me all her diamonds and expensive jewelry and say "if i had any children these i would not have. this or that would be a college education or a car, etc." lol
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@bunnybon7 Yeah that's true, with most people anyway. Well being a parent you definitely do sacrifice a lot but to me its worth it. =)
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Feb 17
Yes sometimes I feel guilty but most of the time I feel good if I bought something that I really need. I feel guilty if I overspend
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Feb 17
@averygirl72 I don't ever over spend, usually what I buy is used or very cheap-like on sale.
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@jstory07 (139308)
• Roseburg, Oregon
7 Feb 17
I raised six children and I worked forty hours a week plus extra jobs all for them. So when I had extra money I got . I did get something that I needed for myself. After all from my oldest to my youngest I raised kids for forty years.
You and your husband deserve something once in awhile. You both work hard for your money. Watching kids is a job for you are going all day long taking care of kids is no easy job.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@jstory07 You definitely worked hard for what you got! Yeah my husband and I both work hard as well, I just always end up feeling bad whenever I spend money.
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@jstory07 (139308)
• Roseburg, Oregon
7 Feb 17
@LovingMyBabies You should not because you put your children first like I did and you deserve things once in awhile to.
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@LeaPea2417 (37333)
• Toccoa, Georgia
7 Feb 17
I do feel guilty when I spend money on myself. I like those shoes in the photo, they are very nice. You deserve to treat yourself.
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@Leapea2417 Yeah, I always do too. Thank you, I love them. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85289)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 17
@Juliaacv I know, my husband said the same thing. He said you barely ever get or do anything for yourself-you deserve them.
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