Marriage in mind... what's ur suggestions?
By Sambit Sukla
@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
Bangalore, India
February 21, 2017 2:53am CST
I am planning to get married by this year.. I am quite old enough to settle down now.. actually I love my single life.. no headache and all...
what do you suggest, should I remain single?
and if I get married what are things I should do before getting married?
I am asking for honest and logical opinion from you.. please dont pull my legs 
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10 responses
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
21 Feb 17
Why do you want to get married? Have you met someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? If not....don't get married.....being old enough is not a reason to get married. I've been married 41 years....I was a mere 19 year old.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
21 Feb 17
thing is different here in india Morley... here social structure is entirely differrnt than the west..
So even if I could not get someone people arrange someone for me... I was able to stop it so far.. now the pressure is growing too much..
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@avi256 (8489)
• Pune, India
21 Feb 17
@ichchhe_mrityu I understand, after a certain age, more than the guy or girl itself , the others are more worried about marriage.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
21 Feb 17
@avi256 yes you will understand my condition as you are from India.. Luckily I am not in my hometown but still in office colleagues/friends asks almost every day when I am getting married!!! 
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
21 Feb 17
Hm. If you like your single life,- why are you getting married? I mean no offense but you sound a little hesitant about marriage. I don't blame you - it is a big life changing event. There is nothing bad with staying single. And there is nothing bad with getting married. It just depends on what you want from life.... if you aren't sure I would say - stay single for now
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
23 Feb 17
@ichchhe_mrityu Oh wow. I did not realize there was a stigma attached with being single in India. It is interesting how cultures differ. I commend you to follow your instincts when everyone around you wants something other
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
23 Feb 17
@FayeHazel Yes cultural differences are huge.. actually it's mostly with previous generation.. but we are in big trouble.. whether to follow our instincts or respect parents or relatives idea about life.. you know.. kind of generation gap issue..
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
22 Feb 17
I wrote in some other comment that satying single in India is a problem.. society, relatives, parents think it as a crime.. u can be corrupted person our society will easily accept that telling that everyone does that... but as I am not doing the same thing (marriage) as everyone does so I get the pressure from all... I am the only bachelor in my freinds group... Anyway, lets see what happens...
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Go on, start a new chapter in your life
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 17
@ichchhe_mrityu just be really prepared, mentally and financially. Instead of living as one person, soon it will be for two. And after that, more to come as your children are born. Also, people tend to show their true colors after they got married. Marriage takes two to work. Your partner should be ready to.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
21 Feb 17
notlilie, there were couple of questions... what are the things should I do before starting that difficult chapter..
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
22 Feb 17
@prinzcy thank you.. financially I am fine if evrything goes as usual.. ( dont know the future of IT industty and job security)... mental preparation is the one which I needed most.. because i feel to stay single..
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@allknowing (136446)
• India
21 Feb 17
You are pulling our leg asking such a question
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
21 Feb 17
not at all.. i am really asking for opinion..
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@avi256 (8489)
• Pune, India
21 Feb 17
After all the pomp and the celebration, getting married is stepping towards getting responsible.
It takes some tough time for transition from happy single life to married life, but if you like your partner, everything will be worth it.
Do plan your finances.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
21 Feb 17
thanks for your advice.. last part is the most important specially when you take responsibilities of others..
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@creativedesigner (199)
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22 Feb 17
It will be good and happy one if you treat your spouse as a friend and an equal. Marriage should not be a burden. Treat her with love and respect, just as you would want to be treated, and am sure ull be one happy guy.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
22 Feb 17
thanks priya.. no doubt on that.. i believe in gender equality.. and if I get married definitely I will try my best from my side.. rests depend on her..
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@flpoolbum (2978)
• United States
22 Feb 17
I don't know how old you are, but don't rush into anything and don't let anyone try to rush you into marriage or anything else. Enjoy your life now, on your terms. Do things that you want to do. If you do get married, don't be rushed into having children. My niece and her husband have good jobs and spent several years traveling on their vacations. After seeing pictures of a trip on Facebook, I messaged her to tell her to enjoy traveling, I wished that I had done the same when I was her age. She was thankful for the support. Apparently, most people were complaining, telling them that they needed to settle down.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
22 Feb 17
thank you.. I am almost 35.. as per our society I have already exceeded the age limit.. my friends are already married and having kids.. Hope I can win the battle between taying single and getting married..
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@AranciataRoss (322)
• United States
21 Feb 17
I married two years ago. If "I'm old enough" is the only reason, stay single.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
21 Feb 17
Your comment is confidence-boosting one ...
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