Does technology hurt communication and even relationships?

@TheHorse (218608)
Walnut Creek, California
March 3, 2017 8:53pm CST
I am supposed to get together with my band mates this evening and practice. But I have no idea what time. Maybe it's half an hour ago. I Facebooked our band leader, as that's her favorite means of communication. I haven't heard from her. I recently got an email from someone I thought had totally "blown me off." It turns out she doesn't check her Facebook that often. "You should have emailed me!" When I call my friend Michael, the one who records my music videos (he's also a band mate), I sometimes don't hear back from him for hours. "Oh you should have Facebooked me." Do you ever get confused by all the means of communication we have? I worry that they have the potential to destroy relationships.
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@allknowing (136150)
• India
4 Mar 17
the best is to check all sources since they are all open for communication. I do that.
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@allknowing (136150)
• India
5 Mar 17
@TheHorse We have much too much of everything these days, if you ask me.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
I do too. It's when I want to communicate with someone and know that I'll hear back soon that I get frustrated.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Mar 17
@allknowing I agree.
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@JudyEv (339658)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Mar 17
If I thought someone was deliberately not communicating with me, I'd stop 'hassling' them. If they're thinking the same thing then the line of communication just falls apart. I suppose just have to cover all bases and then you'll be accused of over-kill.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
Those are some of the mental gymnastics I go through.
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@JudyEv (339658)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Mar 17
@TheHorse And then we have one of Vince's brothers who isn't fussed about emails. His opinion is 'why can't people just ring up and be done with it?' which is fair enough but we have to remember not to email him too often.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Mar 17
es I agree sometimes I get annoyed that my son does not check his email every day as I cannot always get him o n hi cell phone as its turned off so frustrating
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
I never know which means of communication to use.
@much2say (55584)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Mar 17
I'd say calling (like the "old fashioned" way) would be best and direct, but I'd prefer a text . And I will flat out tell people texting me is the best way to get a hold of me since I don't always pick up the phone. Yah, I can see how communication could be messed up and how people could be upset if things are missed. But people have to realize what the best way of communicating is. I say phone first, leave a message if necessary, then text to get the person directly . . . email or FB for non-urgent messages or as a back up to the urgent ones. Man, that's a lot of work just to get a hold of someone .
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
It is. I don't mind emails if it's non-urgent. We all have our favorite times to "chill and catch up on emails."
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@paigea (36317)
• Canada
4 Mar 17
I don't know what to use often either. I don't do Facebook, so that leaves me out of the loop for a lot of things. For subbing, I have to check the on line job board and the work e-mail. Some teachers e=mail my personal e-mail. Some phone and leave a message and some text. To get assignments I have to stay on top of all of those! The convenience of technology?
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
Yep. Where I sub, I told them email or phone (both is best) are fine. Don't bother texting, as I won't read it.
@paigea (36317)
• Canada
4 Mar 17
@TheHorse I sub all over a large school division. I can't get everyone on the same page. lol
@Mike197602 (15505)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 17
I'm pretty sure there are statistics available for the amount of marriages FB is "responsible" for ruining due to people getting in contact with exes etc. Thing is technology is there for us to use as we wish...if things are going wrong it's our fault as technology is just a thing not a thinking person. If someone prefers FB to communicate we should use FB or tell the person we prefer another way and see if a compromise can be reached. Personally I prefer text and email...I get texts instantly but my dad tends to email which I don't check daily. He now knows that and still emails but realises there will be a delay. Whatever tech we use communication is key and that means communicating our wishes for how we want to be communicated with...lots of communication...is key to communicating effectively
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
A good (female) friend of mine just lost her husband to a Facebook hottie. No comment.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
@Mike197602 There's truth in what you say, but I still see us as pawns of the designers of all of this unnecessary technology.
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@Mike197602 (15505)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 17
@TheHorse the husband chose to use technology to facilitate cheating. The issue isn't with the tech it's how society chooses to use it in my opinion. Just like the nuclear thing...make power or make bombs to kill people....I don't actually like nuclear power though so maybe that's a crap analogy.
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@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Mar 17
With the wide choice of communication technology, it should not be difficult to get in touch with anybody. It all depend on arrangement and timing between parties. If we had compare how people communicate decades ago, it is more convenient and faster to send messages, notices, documents, videos, even items by virtue of wired and wireless communication today. Relationships should not suffer from it. If ever it does, I really can't blame the way we communicate, rather it is the lack of it that made it so. It is a long way from snail mail and carrier pigeons with what we have today. Lets make the best of it.
@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
I'm going to invent a device where you put in a number and the thing rings on the other end. The other person picks it up, and you talk! It will Be for use in homes and offices. No typing, no massive increases in auto accidents, no mis-communication. I'll even make it so you can leave a "voice message" if the other person is not there! What should I call it?
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Mar 17
@TheHorse a basic mobile phone has all those features, its been there for decades now, where have you been?
@LadyDuck (471390)
• Switzerland
4 Mar 17
Well, when I want to communicate with someone, I get my phone and place a call. For me is the only sure way, with all the others system you never know if your friends have read the messages, no matter where you posted them.
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@LadyDuck (471390)
• Switzerland
4 Mar 17
@TheHorse I do not login into Facebook every day, I check my emails every day, but may be not every hour, so if someone wants to communicate with me, the best is to call me.
@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
With Facebook, sometimes I get notifications that someone has messaged me. Other times I don't. I've found messages that were two years old that I never responded to.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 17
That along with text messages. I rarely look at my phone but today people walk along the street with their faces buried in their phones not taking any notice about what is going on around them. Walking out into the road. It is about time this all stopped. People should be charged with negligence when this happens. One of our doctors was so engrossed in her phone the other day someone just swiped it from her hands and ran off. In some ways new technology has been helpful but in many other ways it has been a pain in the rear!
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 17
@TheHorse It is just so crazy and dangerous to others If you had hit him on your bike I am sure you would have to foot the bills! It is so frustrating.
@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
One teen literally walked right in front of me on the bike path. I screeched to a halt (the brakes on my old Trek 820 are still good). I don't know if he was serching for Pikachu or texting his buddies about Minecraft. He never broke stride.
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
5 Mar 17
echnology can either make or break relationships, Sigh
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Mar 17
I think it's sad that it has such a big effect on our lives. I wonder how many relationships have been damaged by technology misunderstandings, not to mention making it easier to "cheat." Oh, wait. My Hot Asian Bride is texting. I can't let my Hot Russian Bride know.
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
5 Mar 17
@TheHorse hahah, yes. Friendship has been broken, family. Not to mention phones are like getting cheaper :))
@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
4 Mar 17
Why can't people just answer the phone, I mean it's a phone, I don't want to facebook or text you at all ever. My son's rarely answer the phone but they will answer a text. I hate that. So my answer is yes I think technology does hamper relationships.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
All of my friends, relations, and band mates use technology differently. My 94-year-old Auntie pick up the dang phone. My brother calls me back later (usually when I told him I'd be out). One band leader liked group Facebook posts. Another friend has email, Facebook and a cell phone, but only uses each at random times. I refuse to text.
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
4 Mar 17
@TheHorse texting is the worst of it all in my opinion hate that.
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
26 Apr 17
Whatever happened to the old fashioned phone call?
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Apr 17
You actually have to TALK to the person when you do that. Texting imparts information without necessitating social interaction.
4 Mar 17
Unfortunately yes, and I have several examples to believe in it.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
Can you share some?
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4 Mar 17
@TheHorse Sure! The girlfriend of one of my friends tired of his lack of attention and ended their relationship.
@pammooratan (4668)
• India
4 Mar 17
I prefer calling still.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
I do too. It doesn't have to be a long call if you're just scheduling something.
• India
4 Mar 17
@TheHorse Right.
@vandana7 (100266)
• India
26 Apr 17
More likely that I will be checking myLot than emails...kinda...I get a lot of jokes and forwards in email...sometimes mails get lost kinda.
• Austin, Texas
5 Mar 17
No. I never get confused. The people I want to talk to face to face, I talk to face to face. The people I want to talk to online via Facebook or myLot or wherever, that's how I talk to them. The people I communicate with via eMail are used to me reaching them that way. I rarely talk on the phone.
@Tampa_girl7 (50216)
• United States
5 Mar 17
I prefer an old fashioned telephone call or hand written letter or maybe someone actually dropping by the house in person.
• United States
5 Mar 17
Here is what I think, people rely on social media for communication.I have family friends that don't want to talk by phone, only fb. Few want to text, or email, but do not want to talk by phone..
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
6 Mar 17
two sides to a coin, helps with some things hurts others. Isolates people, while allowing friendships well beyond our borders.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Apr 17
Very true. I'd certainly prefer phone calls or live interactions with people I know well.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
4 Mar 17
I've watch a couple in a restaurant. They both sat down....they both pulled out their device and proceeded to type and read. Not one word was spoken...at the time I thought it was bizarre...since then. I've observed the same thing over and over again.
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@TheHorse (218608)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
Yep. The first time one of my students told me she pretends to text so as to avoid eye contact while crossing campus, I laughed. Now, almost all of my students tell me they do that. I watch couples do what you describe all of the time. I wonder if they text each other while sitting there.