Break-ups

It is hard to stay friends with somebody that you once loved and was in a relationship with. I couldn't do it. Once they are gone they are gone. Friendship is not an option.

I don't get serious with a relationship, every time collision of interest occur, I just pick up the broken pieces of me and move on without looking back. In that way, I get to fast recovery and reconstruct myself in a more respectable manner somewhere along the way.

It depends on the people, and on the reasons for the break-up. It also might depend if you have children together or something else which ties you, like working in the same place. My partner and I are friends with various ex-partners. One of his moved to a different country (her home) and my partner didn't want to go with her as he would be away from all he knew. So their break-up was for reasons of practicality. I'm friends with some people for the simple fact that we were friends first and it turned out we were better as friends. I think the way we deal with a break-up also depends on who did the breaking. I left my ex because the relationship (if you could call it that) was horrible. I was free from him so all I had to deal with was learning how to be me!

If it is a serious relationship then breaking up with someone is really hard, otherwise, it won't hurt much.

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Dealing with breaking-up is actually dealing with the loss of psychological energy that you have put on that specific person. Thoughts, time, emotions all care our energy; when a person leaves takes this part of our energy and we have to deal with that loss. Staying friends does not fill our gap; it just facilitates the denial of the loss....

If you really like the person, you suffer a little (and may even cry), but then you get over it.

It depends. I am friends with all of my x except for my exhusband because hw is really such a big a. How w come you you are not friends with your x?

Break-up for sure hurts. But you need to move on sooner or later.