Which way would you like to pursue your dreams?

In which cases you ended up doing number 2 options?

You opted for number 3 approach but you could not fulfill your dreams this way. But I don't think that sweet and nice people like you would have opted for 1 or 2 either.

@dpk262006 No, I would have never insisted and I did not want to fight with my parents to do what I had in my mind. After all it turner out not too bad for me, because I met my husband the first day I was employed.

@LadyDuck Yes, some of us cannot defy our parents and this is what you did. Nonetheless, it turned out to be blessing in disguise for you, as you were happily married and you have been living a comfortable life.

Yes, you are right that a sane person would choose option 3 because it does not harm others and if you achieve your goals through this option, this gives you a kind of satisfaction. I agree with you that things are not always smooth but the end result could be satisfactory. I have seen very few who opt for 1 or 2 to succeed. Those who choose number 2 to succeed are really nasty and I am sure are not appreciated by people around them and in society.

@much2say Yes, you are right that the one who achieves his goals through No.2 method, may feel lonely, when he reaches at the top because he had used others to achieve his goals. Yes, you pointed out correctly that if there is only one post for promotion, only one guy could be promoted. And understandably, the best one gets promoted.

@dpk262006 Number 2 is not cool for sure. The person may have achieved their goal . . . but it's possible that person will be very, very lonely at the top. The reason I said 1 is because sometimes it is not the person's fault that they must run alone - that is the way the situation is. If only 1 person can get promoted, then only that one is chosen - all the rest will stay behind, for that particular moment anyway.

@allknowing You showed patience, determination, courage and you worked hard with honesty so as to achieve your goals. Hats off to you.

It means that you are a practical example of point No.3 above.

@dpk262006 You can say that. That was my dream and I did not disturb anyone else's apple cart to achieve that.

Which other option did you use to achieve your goals, besides the three listed in the discussion? I think one should feel satisfied if s/he has achieved his goals. To me either goals were not fully achieved or were achieved very late, therefore, you did not feel happy.

@dpk262006 lol. well, I've always worked with people to achieve my goals. There's no need to do either 2 or 3, both are extremes. find a common ground and push forward has helped me very well. And no, the goals were fully achieved and timely achieved.. it just didn't bring me the happiness i think it should. I find myself wanting MORE. I don't think one would feel satisfied just by the act of achieving something you set out to do. in fact, that's an illusion of one who have yet to achieve the goal. Once you have achieved the goal, you will find an odd sense of "anti-climax". you were happier working towards the goal than achieved it and go "well, is that it????"

Welcome to mylot family. Yes, you are very right that integrity in Life is very important and we follow certain principles, we will surely succeed in our life.

@dpk262006 yes exactly

@optimisticbeauty Thanks for agreeing.

@besweet Yes, you are very right that if we choose our own path and even if we fail to achieve our goals, we cannot blame anyone else. Blaming others for our failures is not appropriate.

Yes, it is your personal choice, which way you want to go.

@dpk262006 I think that people who make their own choices can only blame themselves if they don't achieve their goals eventually. When we base our choices on other people's wants, it is more possible to blame them later which is unfair.

I understand that you have settled peacefully and there's much to achieve in terms of goals now.

I also feel that number 3 is the better option among three. If we keep patience and show honesty, we will win in the long run.

Yes, you are right that there would comparitively be very less number of people who choose paths mentioned in options 1 and 2 for attaining success. Following option No. 3 will make some of the people successful because honesty and hard work always pay.