How will you react if somebody butts in your discussion?

@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
March 13, 2017 3:41am CST
I believe this site pays its members with active participation and interaction. I agree to that a hundred percent. But what if you read a comment of somebody that you are not communicating with, and says “yes, right” or “cool!” and that commenter just inserts his/her comment in order to get in to the interaction? Would you ignore, or would you interact with this person too?
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35 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
13 Mar 17
For me, the more the merrier Maybe a user is shy as they have just started. Maybe they feel intimidated by the huge numbers that some Lotters have and are afraid to say more. I acknowledge everything on my posts and have got into longer conversations later with those who only left a short comment or a smiley first time round.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
14 Mar 17
@ridingbet Yes in time they get themselves known and make friends and then get more involved in exchaning responses and comments and joining in the fun.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
indeed, then when they feel comfortable, they can be more active and interact well to others, and still, because of being so comfortable now, they may tend to butt in others' discussions with the hope of being acknowledged by the author of the discussion.
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14 Mar 17
@mysdianait very true .
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@jstory07 (139354)
• Roseburg, Oregon
13 Mar 17
I would interact with that person to. They agreed with what was said.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
but what if the comment is only LOL, and the topic discussed is a serious matter? it is either the one who commented the LOL did not read the discussion but just butts in to interact.
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@LadyDuck (470761)
• Switzerland
13 Mar 17
@ridingbet Delete it, it is even against the guidelines.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 Mar 17
@LadyDuck right my friend. It is just to fish out comments to interact.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
I just interact, perhaps they are not butting in but only wants to join in the conversation cause it's relevant to them.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
13 Mar 17
Perhaps they are shy
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
but what if the remark is not, in any way, related to the discussion? just butting in?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
@mysdianait right, ma'am. they are so timid and shy (what synonyms yet?)
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@LadyDuck (470761)
• Switzerland
13 Mar 17
I am upset when I see this kind of comments that bring nothing to the discussions. I ignore them, or even delete them.
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@LadyDuck (470761)
• Switzerland
16 Mar 17
@ridingbet I have deleted several in the past few days.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 Mar 17
Me too that is why I made this discussion is because of a comment that I saw.butting in.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
@LadyDuck yes, and the bank does not decrease with the deletion, right?
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@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
13 Mar 17
I'd probably ignore them. It's not compulsory to interact with everyone.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
true. it is not a like for a like, comment for a comment, because precisely it is a violation and we have the power of volition.
@thelme55 (76843)
• Germany
13 Mar 17
I would interact and ask more questions regarding what is cool in the discussion.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Mar 17
@thelme55 true. there is this one person who keeps on butting in my discussions, and i have to ignore his comments now.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
that is nice, my friend. but if in one of your discussions and i, who for example, is unknown to you, would just butt in your discussion and mention impertinent things not related to your post, how would you feel? (like i just want my presence be acknowledged?)
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@thelme55 (76843)
• Germany
20 Mar 17
@ridingbet I would be annoyed and delete her or his comment if I can. That makes him or her angry of course but I don't care.
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@vandana7 (100123)
• India
13 Mar 17
I would interact if I have time. :) More the merrier ..kinda..
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@vandana7 (100123)
• India
18 Mar 17
@ridingbet .. We have had quite a few merry sessions to know that it is that way. But then, preferences vary. If you do not want it to stray from relevance, you could always avoid the box or folks who tend to stray. :)
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
thanks, but would it still be merrier if the comment is just for the sake of butting in and irrelevant to the discussion?
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• United States
13 Mar 17
If all they said was "yes", "right", or "cool", I'd most likely ignore it. That kind of answer, regardless of the circumstance, is against guidelines here. I might even report it, but in this circumstance I'd be more inclined to ignore it.
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• United States
13 Mar 17
@ridingbet I assume they believe they are above the guidelines? Or they didn't bother to read the guidelines, most likely.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 Mar 17
@ScribbledAdNauseum most probably my friend. They ignore the guidelines and policies of the site
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
and i still wonder why many do that violation, then show their disgust if their discussions are deleted
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Mar 17
I would give them the benefit of the doubt and interact with them as courteously as I would any of my other responders.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
you are indeed a very nice and respectable woman, my friend
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
Awkward, awkward, awkward.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
do you have one commenter who suits the discussion? i have one in my previous discussions.
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
13 Mar 17
I think it's ok and may put extra money in our bank.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 Mar 17
That is true my friend. Maybe that is the reason why others butt in to add more money to their bank especially if their comments are replied.
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@AutumnSnow (4583)
13 Mar 17
Yes I would interact with them.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
thanks for your input, ma'am.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
13 Mar 17
ha ha, it always happen, here in mylot or even in our personal activity. There's are lot of people who just butt in as if they were welcome in the discussion. But in here... just ignore it, maybe they just need more activity, we say that in Tagalog "dala ng matinding pangangailangan" (in need most)
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
hahaha! i agree with you kabsat. yes, i think about that too. also, i think it is their personal goal to reach a certain amount in a month so they just butt in every discussion,right?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
19 Mar 17
@ilocosboy yes it is true, if your main goal here is to earn.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
@ridingbet yeah, anyway its a win-win solution for us, they earn and we earn he he.
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14 Mar 17
@ridingbet you should welcome all types of comments BUT irrelevant comments should be discouraged in good way to other mylotters.let them know,so they can improve did i use but*???hahhha. joke apart,good topic
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
won't you get disturbed when you see a comment irrelevant to the discussion?
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
14 Mar 17
I would definitely interact with that person as well.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
19 Mar 17
@ridingbet well, I'll try to get the person to reply to the topic being discussed.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Mar 17
@allen0187 thanks, and good luck as well.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
that is good, but even if the comment is so out of hand?
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@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
5 Apr 17
Usually I would just ignore most of these. I think sometimes I do not like the emoji's at all.
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@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
6 Apr 17
@ridingbet I don't like them -SOMETIMES... lol I have to be in the mood for them I guess.. lol
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
really, you don't like emojis? how than if i place an emoji in my comment for you, but of course there is a statement?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
@minx267 okay then. i will refrain from using them in my comments for you. would this be okay as an emoticon? :)
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Mar 17
I would ignore him if he didn't mention my name. He could be meaning it for the other person anyway.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Mar 17
@ridingbet caught in the act pala. hahaha
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Mar 17
@SIMPLYD yes, ah! and i am disappointed because my name is dragged. hahaha!
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 17
but my username is mentioned my lady and that's what makes me irk.
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@DaddyEvil (137249)
• United States
8 Aug 17
Well, I have been known to insert myself into ongoing discussions... you may remember how we met, Ingrid? (grinning at you!) I actually tried to talk to one person who kept butting into discussions but wouldn't reply to me. I finally ask him to quit talking in my discussions all together.
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@DaddyEvil (137249)
• United States
9 Aug 17
@ridingbet Yes, I met @Lucky15 at the same time that I met you. (I actually wasn't going to say anything but thought she was a teen who needed help with her pc. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't have butted into the conversation between you and Reine like that.) And yes, I am talking about Hay-soos. (That is as close as I can get to the Spanish pronunciation of his given name.) I did try to talk to him when he first started talking in our discussions but he ignored everything I said to him. I have no clue why. After about a week or so of him leaving nonsensical comments I started deleting his comments when/as I could.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
8 Aug 17
yes, i remember 'how we met', and raine was also there, if i am not mistaken. well, the user whom i was referring to in this discussion had his account deleted now. maybe that user is the same person as whom you mentioned here in your comment?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
10 Aug 17
@DaddyEvil hahaha! yes indeed, his comments were all nonsense, and he just kept on butting the discussions of others, just so to earn. he reacts but does not interact.
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@akalinus (43142)
• United States
13 Mar 17
I don't understand. Are you saying that only people you pick should answer your discussions? You can't pick and choose on a discussion forum. Am I wrong for interacting since I don't know you?
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@akalinus (43142)
• United States
14 Mar 17
@ridingbet I thought you were saying that we should not butt in. You said not to answer if you were not communicating. I answer a lot of people I don't know and have gotten to know some of them better. How am I supposed know if someone does want me to answer? This is a discussion forum which means that if we answer, we are not butting in. I welcome everyone who wants to comment.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
14 Mar 17
I am asking a question here ma'am and any comment is welcome here. Sure I don't know you but if you interact with others through this discussion,we may shed some light here and get to know each other better. If you think it is wrong to interact because we do not know each other, it is your own prerogative and I am not creating animosities here. Thank you.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 Mar 17
@akalinus in my opinion we can butt in as long as it is within the confines of the discussion.
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• Midland, Michigan
18 Mar 17
First, if it's done by someone I'm not familiar with i might look at their profile first and see whether they respond in that manner all the time or here and there. Also, how long they've been with the site or how active they've been in the last year may let you know what they may or may not know. I do know that mylot was run a bit differently in the past before it was closed around 2013, so for some that were here many years back but returned more recently they many not know what's expected of them on this newer mylot. Each of us here may handle the same types of comments in completely different ways.
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• Midland, Michigan
19 Mar 17
@ridingbet Then they are still in the learning process. If they aren't allowed to 'butt' in then they'll never know how to do things correctly. When they see longer comments might provide more fodder for their own comments to become discussion it may spur them to change accordingly. If they continue in that mode, you do have the choice to delete their response as Anna said.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Mar 17
@MarshaMusselman that is true, i agree with you. but isn't it too long to be in a learning process if it takes 3 or more discussions of butting in in order to join a group? there is one here who butts in even though the person's presence;nay! existence, is no longer recognized. this person butts in and her/his comments are most often neglected by other commenters.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
19 Mar 17
but the one who butted in is new to the site, and her/his interaction has not even reached a hundred.
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