Do You Read the Comments of a Discussion Before Posting your Own?

March 14, 2017 9:46am CST
I don't. I'm not sure at first why my approach is like this until I found out that if I read the comments down before I post my comment its so similar with absolutely every one else that I'm stumped what else to comment. I find it hard to say something else when I'm already set what to say. And I end up just liking the article because I don't want to butt in to a conversation with the same comment that is running through my head.
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@JudyEv (340019)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Mar 17
I comment first for all the reasons you give. :)
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15 Mar 17
Blows my mind that one time. So learned the lesson and not going to do it ever!
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
14 Mar 17
I always read other comments afterwards.
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14 Mar 17
Yes. Better that way. Atleast I won't run out of things to say later on.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
14 Mar 17
@diosabella What others say will not affect my comment, so it reading them first seems superfluous.
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14 Mar 17
@Asylum I got excited one time and read on the comment before I post mine and that is what happened.
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@allknowing (136446)
• India
15 Mar 17
It is not always that I do not read. Sometimes I do specially when the post is too long
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15 Mar 17
Right! And its getting boring after a sentence or two.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
15 Mar 17
I read the discussion and then post my comment. Today I had trouble understanding a long post, so I had to take a look at the comments. They were all different to such an extreme, that I don't think too many understood the discussion either. Whatever! Lol!
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
16 Mar 17
@diosabella Headache is right!!!!
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15 Mar 17
I see what you mean. When i get to the point that I don't understand it myself I just pass it. I don't want to comment on something I'm not too sure of myself either and when I see a lot of comments with different views it will give me a huge headache not ideas what is it all about.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
3 Apr 17
no, i do write my comments before scrolling down on others' comments.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
3 Apr 17
@diosabella why should I compare my comments to other's? I think I have my own perception of the discussion so I don't need to make a rough draft.
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3 Apr 17
@ridingbet Im sorry I didn't mean it that way.
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3 Apr 17
Its a better idea to write it down and make comparison later with others when its needed.
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
14 Mar 17
@diosabella Only sometimes. If I seem a little bit lost or confused with what the author is talking about then yes I will have a quick read through other comments hoping to get a better understanding. Otherwise I just answer straight away.
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14 Mar 17
I get you. There were times I don't get it either. The title and the content were not connected at all or misleading. When I encountered this I don't comment on anything at all.
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• United States
14 Mar 17
If the topic is interesting I may if not I don't It depends on my mood.
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• United States
14 Mar 17
@diosabella Yes but it's still nice to leave your first instinct for the comment.
14 Mar 17
Yes. It would depend on how interesting the article is. Sometimes its hard to read when your simply not interested how much more to comment on it.
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14 Mar 17
@infatuatedbby Thats what I like to do. Write it up then check out what other thinks later on. Don't wanna be speechless or feel overwhelmed.
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@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
27 Mar 17
Strictly speaking, the old guidelines (or the old ways, supposedly, as I remember it) say that one should read all responses first before responding yourself. And that you must only respond when you have something new to add to the discussion... But I found that quite... discouraging. First, if I am supposed to read everything first before joining in a discussion, then I would probably not be able to join any discussion at all. Imagine finding an interesting discussion which already has 50 or more (lengthy) responses... when will you be able to read through all that to be able to respond yourself? I would probably take days... (I am a slow reader). Second, if I have to respond only if I have something new to add then what would happen if, on the 3rd day of reading those responses, I find one response that's pretty much my answer... am I only supposed to say "I agree"? Or perhaps, not respond at all anymore? That's just depressing. In fact, the above is partly the reason why I sometimes prefer to just look at the Discussions w/ No Response. There wouldn't be any such problems there. Anyway, I suppose (or I hope) that they are less stricter now. What I just do now is either respond even without reading the other responses, or just try to scroll through and read a few of them quickly (especially if they are short responses). I would hope that is acceptable behavior. I am no superwoman after all.
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@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
27 Mar 17
@diosabella "I know that we are different people but sometimes our way of thinking are the same." Very true! Great minds think alike. So I would hope it should be ok if I respond even when someone else has alreadt given a response similar to mine. "And I actually don't like reading some of the post because its way out of the topic most of the times. How can I insert myself in a discussion without being rude?" I know what you mean. There are lots of instances when threads in the comment section has moved on to other things outside of the topic. It would be a bit awkward joining that... And about the discussion without responses... Yes, most times, I suppose, there aren't many good topics there, but who knows, you might see some gems there sometimes.
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27 Mar 17
OMG! I'm so happy that its not the case anymore. I mean it will make the discussion very limited. And I think I won't last here for days. I really hate when I'm out of things to add or say? I know that we are different people but sometimes our way of thinking are the same. Not our fault that our opinion may have likeness with someone else. And I actually don't like reading some of the post because its way out of the topic most of the times. How can I insert myself in a discussion without being rude? I just do it seldom with people I already know here. I tried checking on discussion with no comments yet like you did. But the problem was most of it was hardly a discussion. There are some who just posted a question which has been answered so many times. Or a discussion with only 2 sentences and I can't relate to it too. Its very rare for me to be the first to comment on something that is really good or that I really like. I'm really happy that they are not as strict before
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27 Mar 17
@moirai Its okay to reply the same thing just not word for word. I think they are more lax about that rule now because almost every one does it. Some's I do get some good topics. But as it is a gem its very rare.
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• Malaysia
24 Mar 17
I read other comments before posting my own. Is that the wrong way? I did find some difficulty when someone already wrote what I had in mind.
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• Malaysia
25 Mar 17
@diosabella I see. Maybe I should change my approach from now on. Thanks for starting this discussion.
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24 Mar 17
There is no right or wrong. I just do this because I will have difficulty later on on how to rephrase or use another word to suit what about I am to say when someone else already say it. I end up not commenting when nothing comes up.
26 Mar 17
@shaqziad1610 Your welcome. Glad to be of help!
@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
16 Mar 17
Yes, at times. It is too easy to get involved in a ton of discussions that way, so maybe it is good not to read them.
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17 Mar 17
Your right. And ideas for comments will flow more freely.
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
17 Mar 17
@diosabella When we consider all the side conversations happening that have nothing to do with the original post, sometimes it is distracting.
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18 Mar 17
@PatZAnthony Yeah. I try very hard now not to be in that kind of situation anymore. Its confusing and annoying.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
31 Mar 17
For the sake of finding out who has the same 'wavelength ' as me, I do. But that's when I'm not lazy. Lol
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
31 Mar 17
@diosabella depends on the day. Lol
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31 Mar 17
Oho! your not that lazy right? I mean not all the time.
31 Mar 17
@sol_cee Hmmm When then? Monday? Tuesday? Wednesday? Thursday? Friday? Saturday? Sunday? Everday? Every other day? The next day? Three days from now? All day? Hahaha sorry I had too many sugars.
@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
23 Mar 17
If the comments can count with fingers I surely read it while comment , but if it is too big I comment first.
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@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
23 Mar 17
@diosabella But if you read the comments you can get the whole idea and updates of the topics.
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23 Mar 17
@shshiju Probably if your interested in the discussion. But if not then its not important. And sometimes I can't simply relate even when I read the comments down.
23 Mar 17
Hmm interesting. Can be done though.
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@delhshop (769)
19 Mar 17
no i dont unless the people are followers or friends in here, other wise i do not
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19 Mar 17
But then if you don't you wont have the opportunity to widen your network.
20 Mar 17
@delhshop I mean your own network of followers and friends. If you don't read some of the comments how would you know if you would like them too? Not all can read and post a comment in your discussion. But you can if you find the person interesting.
@delhshop (769)
20 Mar 17
@diosabella what this has to do with network?
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@Mass_Sonu (1021)
• India
31 Mar 17
I'm just overawed by the discussion here! @diosabella Maybe it's all just an instinct, a habit based on mood, time & thought...
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1 Apr 17
Sometimes its does too. Depends on the topic, its how would you react to it. The instinct usually kicks in when I get desperate.
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@Mass_Sonu (1021)
• India
1 Apr 17
@diosabella Ha Ha! Yes, sometimes it does
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 17
If a discussion appeals me, I do not read what others have written, while writing my own response. I find that some of the discussions are beyond my comprehension, then only I check the responses written by others to understand the crux of the discussion.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Mar 17
@diosabella Yeah, some discussion are very complicated and difficult to understand.
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23 Mar 17
I do that too. And When I cant understand still I just liked it and move on.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
20 Mar 17
I don't really read comments before replying to any post. I have very limited time so I just reply after reading the post.
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20 Mar 17
I do that too when ever I'm in a hurry but sometimes when I have nothing to do my eyes wander down down there.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Mar 17
I just reply and if I have time or the subject is very interesting then I read to see what thoughts others have. There are so many posts and comments that I can only do what I do. I have a hard time keeping up.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Mar 17
@diosabella Exactly!
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18 Mar 17
Keeping up is so hard to do when the article is a hot topic and every one is in it.
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@Fleura (30398)
• United Kingdom
30 Mar 17
Sometimes, it depends. If there is some sort of question to answer (like 'do you know what plant this is?' for example) and it's something I know the answer to, I often check whether 30 other people have already answered it! Otherwise I tend to just ramble on in my own way.
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31 Mar 17
Aha! Thats a different situation I wasn't thinking of that when I was writing this post. Good point!
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@just4him (317067)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Mar 17
Comment anyway. It helps you with your bank, and it's nice to read that so many people feel the same way, especially when someone is going through a rough time. Typically I don't read the other comments before I comment. I will occasionally read them after I comment.
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@just4him (317067)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Mar 17
@diosabella Good to know.
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31 Mar 17
Yeah I know. But sometimes it bums me out and I'm completely lost. Sometimes I just get back to it after a few hours and comment.
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@syeow1 (5136)
• India
14 Mar 17
Yes if I get new notification I definitely check that.and respond back
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15 Mar 17
I mean if you find a new discussion of a friend or of someone else not your own discussion.
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@syeow1 (5136)
• India
15 Mar 17
@diosabella not most of time.
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