Relationship Advice.
By Ms. Lucky
@Keyia120 (1175)
United States
March 20, 2017 12:04pm CST
I am married to the love of my life and he is protecting our Country. I love him with all my heart but there are times when we tend to bump heads because he can't just leave his work at work you know. They have to bring things home and talk about it so that they can feel better. When you are with someone and you can't talk or feel some type of sympathy for your spouse you need to make sure that you know yourself more.
What I am trying to say is keep your mind and heart open for your spouse so that they can vent to you when things go wrong. I love asking my husband what is wrong and what happened at work because it makes me feel good and he knows that he can vent to me without any hesitation or judgment. I know that he is at the end of his rope and if he can't vent to me then he wouldn't be able to vent to anyone which would lead to arguments later in the Future.
If you are married to a military man or woman remember that their work is different from an average Joe so you have to be ready and more aware of what is going on. You should make sure that you are ready to talk and lend your shoulder to them more than once or twice a day. You need to talk to someone to so make sure that you have a friend on hand and in many ways, this keeps your marriage strong and or relationship if you are not yet married.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
20 Mar 17
I completely agree.. This is how every relationship should be
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@Keyia120 (1175)
• United States
20 Mar 17
True and I see a lot of times especially with Military Spouses they tend to complain about their own and they don't sit down to talk or help them so they go and get it from someone else or they tend to argue all the time because they are not understanding each other. My husband and I took a minute to understand each other. I mean we are like 9 years apart when it comes to age but we have been through a lot. We have been together now for ten years and married for about five now with two wonderful boys and two female Labs lol. I have to share a photo one day. Thanks for commenting and I hope that you have a great day.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
21 Mar 17
@Keyia120 wow..that sounds great...
Stay happy always
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Mar 17
This is great advice for any relationship. If you put your spouse down all the time or argue constantly-when are you being open enough to really listen to them? Also, if when they do open up and you use that towards them in an argument later on they will close off and not feel like they can talk.
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@Marvadaum (3)
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25 Jun 17
Being in a relationship means accepting the other person's lifestyle. While I do agree you have to accept a few, worrying things, you said it yourself he just can't leave his job. I do not think you're wrong at all but what I would like you to consider is: How far would you be willing to go to maintain your relationship? Do the pros outweigh the cons so much that you'd rather stay with him? From what I gathered from your text they more than do. So it's your choice and you have to endure the consequences. Should things change in the future you can always reconsider this question. To love someone else we must first love ourselves.
