Being polite and kind in Rhode Island

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People are often startled by it up here, whereas it's the norm down where I'm from in North Carolina. When I lived in RI before, I was frequently asked if I was being sarcastic when I was simply being polite. Having added a quantity of white hairs upon my haidbone, now people seem to figure I'm a bit addled and aren't so quick to be defensive. The thing is, being polite and kind costs nothing. I was raised, by example, to be polite. Heck, when you're a minister's kid, it's a requirement! Kindness was something I made a constant practice of in response to people being unkind to me. I never want anyone to feel less than around me. Therefore, I make sure I really focus on whomever I'm talking with. I look them in the eyes. I smile. I take care to listen and respond appropriately. Now I'm not perfect, so I do have my impatient moments, but they are not as frequent as they were when I was younger. I smile at strangers. I compliment people's attire. I hold doors for folks. I have even been known to hold a leash or two while a pet parent ran in for coffee. Being polite costs nothing. You don't lose face by saying, "Please," "Thank you," or "Pardon me." And the coolest thing about being polite and kind? It's contagious.