Do you believe in this quote?
By royanne
@royanne (372)
Philippines
April 8, 2017 9:41am CST
They say that if two lovers can stay friends, either they never were in love or they still are.
I don't believe in this quote because I am friends with my two exes. The other one I am close with. For me I think it's all about moving on that you were not meant for each other? This ex of mine was a close friend way before we got into a relationship. We were good friends who share secrets on who our crush was things like that. We started dating when we started working after graduation. Our relationship lasted more than 2 yrs and it did not end well. It actually took a while for our friendship to go back to the way it used to be but I am thankful that we are still friends.
We have a lot of common friends and it's really fun to go out with all of them and not being awkward about it.
And I am sure with myself that I am not in love with him anymore and that I only see him as a friend but I am also sure that I was in love with him before because he has a lot of good qualities in him that I liked.
I guess it never worked out and we both moved on but that doesn't mean that we were not in love before or we still are because we are still friends.
How about you guys?
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16 responses
@subhajitsil6 (961)
• Kolkata, India
8 Apr 17
Does it really happen that way? I really don't know. For me if once you are in love with someone, then you will be in love with that person for ever, if it is a true love. But don't take me otherwise, I don't mean to offend you or to say bad to you, but this is what I feel. Once in love will always be in love. As you say that you are friend with him, and you don't think that love exist in between you two guys. Don't you think that there is still possibility that perhaps a love exist between you two, and it is you who is unable to understand about it? It is possible, right?
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
@subhajitsil6 Well I can see your point. Maybe there is love but I can say for myself that I love him as a friend only. I want him in my life as a friend just like what we were before we got together. I think that what we had as friends is stronger that what we had as lovers before?
It's just that sometimes there are attitude that does not show when you are friends with someone rather than being with them. Because when we were friends we had a good time but when we were together he started being possessive and even gets jealous with our other friends and I don't like that. I guess for us it's better to be friends. :)
@royanne (372)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
@subhajitsil6 Maybe. It's not that I don't wanna see him with someone else. I want him to be happy with his life. I just want him to keep being my friend. That's all. I don't mind if he finds someone else that's okay because it's only natural. :)
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@subhajitsil6 (961)
• Kolkata, India
9 Apr 17
@royanne Then perhaps I have to say this you guys were friends and will be friends and the love which was between you guys was nothing more than deep friendship which you guys misthought to be love.
Do you know there is a relationship which is neither love nor friendship, its a sweet bonding between a couple which lies in between. And perhaps you two are sharing that bond. You won't ever want to be together, but at the same time it will pain you to leave your friend to be someone else's forever.
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@Hari101 (1123)
• Chennai, India
8 Apr 17
Well, I don't know really but I have come across by my friends telling that it is difficult for them to be friends after they break up with their partners. They say they feel awkward and feel uncomfortable in being friends and they end up not meeting them or talking with them anymore. But, yes I don't believe in the quote either. It is our personal opinion to remain friends after ending the relationship. While some feel okay and some feel it is not okay. It is good that you remain friends after all why to miss such a good person in our life right? :)
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
yes. exactly how I feel!
Well for us we didn't become friends right away though it actually took a few years to be friends and for it not to be awkward.
But I am happy that we were able to become friends just like before and not be awkward about it. When our other friends teases us about it we just laugh about those times and sometimes we even joke about it because there are no hard feelings anymore and we both moved on from the hurt and I think that's nice. :)
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@Kylie07 (83)
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9 Apr 17
@Hari101 Yeah you are right about that part too. At some point you begin to feel this way and distance grows then and then in the end you no longer have any contact just like me and my ex. After breaking up n remaining friends, we kept talking n seeing each other from time to time. He dated a couple of girls. He even introduced me to them. we even went out together but afterwards there came a time when we stopped talking and keeping in touch and then I heard he was getting married! So he moved on finally and he's happy and I'm happy about it too! I moved on as well!
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
8 Apr 17
I don't believe that quote either. My ex and I are good friends and his wife is also a good friend of mine. We have friends in common from our marriage. We did love each other long ago and it was real. It was just relatively short lived since we were so different and we struggled to make a good marriage for 19 years before he followed his heart and left.
We are both happy now, he with his high school love and me by myself taking care of my family. We are having family dinner this coming Wednesday to celebrate my birthday. I really enjoy our relationship now but the quote is wrong.
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@cabhay (443)
• India
9 Apr 17
OK...so this is kind of tricky!! It depends upon different persons and their bonding with each other. Some exes tends to remain friends with their mutual consents with no hard feelings and some tends to fall apart without any contact. It depends on how people want their relationship to be...But exes can be FRIENDS also. :)
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
It's nice to know that you do believe that exes can be friends and that wouldn't invalidate their love for each other before or even say that they are still in love with each other. I truly believe that exes can be friends and just friends. no strings attached. :)
@dhoyalahoy (1414)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
They cheated you? I believe you are worth to love.
Anyways, it's depend on the situation.I also do have a friend who's my ex. We don't chat, we're just friend on fb.
It's awkward to see the one you shared a moment with, is now with person she really loved. I am happy for them but don't have much time to greet her.
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
No, my ex didn't cheat on me. I realized that he has qualities as a boyfriend that I didn't like. He started to become possessive and it's like I don't have freedom. That's why it didn't work out.
I guess we were just too immature?
But after a few years we moved on from that and we became friends again. Good friends.
We chat sometimes and share our problems just like we were back then. And I like our friendship more than us being together.
I guess we really are meant to be friends. HAHAHAHA
@royanne (372)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
@dhoyalahoy uhm, standards? Not sure.. probably someone who I get along with? and someone who can adjust to my mood? I dunno, haven't really put much thought in that at all. AHAHAHAHA.
@dhoyalahoy (1414)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
@royanne Yes, maybe. You are designed for another man. What is your standard anyway.
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@RobbieRobbie (1)
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8 Apr 17
There's a saying" everything is fair in love and war."
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@LeaPea2417 (37379)
• Toccoa, Georgia
8 Apr 17
I am not sure. The two ex boyfriends I dated, we did not continue being friends.
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@Deepizzaguy (104160)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
16 Apr 17
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@abhinalstrikr (4111)
• India
9 Apr 17
Depends on individuals,how they handle it
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@responder (57)
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8 Apr 17
Above quotation seems fair, everything is fair in love, once you are in love, you will always be in love with that person.
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@Kylie07 (83)
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8 Apr 17
Well I used to believe in it at some point but like you, now I don't think it's true partly because of pretty much the same experience you mentioned! I was with my ex for nearly 3 years when we broke up! We did stay friends for around two years or more but then it wore off! We had been close before but we moved on once we broke up and even when we remained friends during that period we were no longer in love with each other and besides, he was already dating someone else! And now he's all happily married!
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
9 Apr 17
I agree. :)
It's nice to hear that you are both happy in your own lives. I guess we just have to look past all the hurt and save at least the friendship because at one point we did like/love that person because of what he is. Some people are meant to be just friends. :)
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@shamali_chavan (1)
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9 Apr 17
I completely agree with this quote,It sounds filmy yet its true that," Ek ladka aur ladki kabhi dost nahi reh sakte,Ye pyaar ho jata hai". lol.
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@bela360 (2006)
• Saint Lucia
10 Apr 17
I do not really believe in this because two lovers can be different things either enemies or have motives and so on. If they were still in love then they would not just be friends i guess but at the end of the day its the past lovers or exs choice or decisions.
