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Cancer. No matter what form it comes in its hell. The news one receives when they first find out about this incurable abomination is devastating. To some it is unfathomable. There are many things a newly diagnosed cancer patient needs in the upcoming battle for their life. A file folder better yet a binder and a three hole punch is important to have. It will come in handy for the Incomprehensible amount of information you will be handed. By the end of week one the amount of paper with information you will never read handed to you is astonishing. I sometimes wonder how many trees have been sacrificed for this practice. and that is just one dr.s office. I wish I was kidding. Unfortunately I do not joke about this. You will be handed information about statistics, medication, support groups, types of cancer, how when and if it comes back and so on. No one person can remember or keep track of the information. I dare admit its impossible A scheduling book or a phone with a large amount of storage space. This is needed to keep all of the never ending appointments, comfort groups, surgery's and so on that you will never be able to keep straight without one. At the beginning you will have at least three appointments per week. This is all difficult to keep track of in your head. do not try, do not have someone else try. Get an appointment book or folder. From this moment on you will now have more time on your hands than you know what to do with. You will be at appointments, or waiting for answers or just waiting for the next day. It is my recommendation to start a hobby at this time. Im not talking about wood working or gardening, although this may also be good for your time at home. Im talking about writing, or sewing, possibly cross stitch, crochet or knitting. Something small that you can take with you everywhere you go. If you are not into these hobbies im sure you will find something. Or go out and get a laptop or kindle. These will come in handy and easy for you to busy not just your hands but your mind as well. The most important thing a newly diagnosed cancer patient needs is a very good support system. Someone who will be with you in your battle no matter what comes with it. Why am I writing this. Well for a couple of reasons actually. One I needed to somehow get these things out of my mind and off my chest. It can cause a person to go mad if you never speak of what is going through your mind. And two Its because for someone I love. I am that support system. Three days ago the hair loss everyone fears through chemo treatments became inevitable. Three days ago I watched a love one come out of her bathroom fighting back tears as she held the first clump of hair and let it fall to the ground. As much as I wanted to cry with her and hold her I knew this would only make matters worse for her so I had to fight back my natural instinct and just be strong for her. I made her laugh by joking around about the situation telling her how easy and care free it would now be to style her hair. I did everything in my power to make her laugh before walking out the door and away from her for the day. After I left her home I drove straight to her best friends house. I explained that our loved one had just started to loose her hair and both of us knew what we were going to do. Her best friend and I both had been growing our hair out for years we both have hair going down to our rear ends. For the first time in my thirty two years of living I had a thought that was completely in sink with someone else. we drove to the salon down the road together put our hair in high pony tails and shaved our heads together. We put our hair in a bag and drove it to the cancer treatment center here in our home town and donated our hair in our loved ones name. We went back to her house and then took a straight razor to our heads. Im gonna tell ya after having long hair for so long its a huge change. not only because we went from having long hair to no hair at all. Im talking about the weather change. even in 80 degree weather its now cold. That night we took our loved one out to dinner. we were all wearing bandannas and while we waited for our food her and I revealed our newly shaven heads to our loved one. My point or moral of this long and overly exasperating story is Life is way to short. It can change in an instant. Make the most out of your life and others no matter what it takes. Be there for someone you love, or be there for a stranger. It does not matter if you have known them for your whole life or only known them for a moment. What does matter however is that you made a good impact on someones life and they will always remember that time when.... Brightest Blessings to you all.