People piss me off....
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
Banks, Oregon
April 27, 2017 11:18pm CST
So for whatever reason i have remained friends with one of my exes, well from time to time he messages me and we chat. Well recently he shared with me that his boyfriend had found his Nephew that was separated from his family 20 years ago when he was a baby.
I was super happy for him, but i immediatley saw red flags when he decided to bring the 20 year old out to live with him moving him from California to Oregon, well my prediction was right, now he is angry this 20 year old kid can't find a job, and he calls him fat and lazy, and he says how dare he talk bad about his dad.
HELLO!!! The dad who had nothing to do with him for 20 years? the dad who never went to find him? the dad who is trying to be a father now? bullshit i am sorry i side with my ex's nephew here, he is taken to a new state has lived here a month it is very hard to find a job, give the damn kid a break.
But my ex is already having all in his family block him, and send him hate messages, it reminds me my ex was a bully, and apparently he is a bully to his own family he looks down on all of them.
I genuinley feel sorry for this kid and i want to tell him to run for his life and forget about them all.....
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
28 Apr 17
That is mean for the kid. It takes awhile to adapt to a new living situation and at 20 if he doesn't have experience it could be hard to find a job immediately. There is always one side of the story anyway.
Good luck for the kid!
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
I am praying the kid escapes his mentally abusive family, i thank god i did not stay with this ex i have not wrote about him on here yet, he was my longest relationship but also perhaps the one that effected me the most..... someday i will be brave enough to write the full true story it could be a whole book though not just a post.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
28 Apr 17
@chrissbergstrom Oh wow - I am glad you two are not together because of his attitude. I do not know why he contacted you to let you know and vent to you?
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
@infatuatedbby He is kind of infatuated with all of his exes he keeps contact with all of the one that have not ran for the hills, i think he doesnt want me as a enemy as i know so much bad things about him.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Apr 17
I kept friendly with one of my exes. His deal not mine. THis dad sounds like my grandson's.What a low life. If this poor kid you speak of has any mental issues he could end up having some intense happening like we see in the news. He needs somebody.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
He is just the uncle, but he is basically trying to turn the kids own dad and siblings against him which is fricking ridiculous, i hope the kid has someone to take his side in all this.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Apr 17
@chrissbergstrom ......Sounds like a very mean and negative individual. I hope the kid has someone that treats him right too.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
@celticeagle I hope so to Tony seems to control the whole family
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
It's sad how some families will gang up and kick one family member down, it's mental abuse.
@carexing25 (1822)
• Philippines
28 Apr 17
at that age, it is really hard to find a job, it takes effort, money and so much of your time.. I'm 27 and still can't find the right job for me..
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
I am 30 and can't find a job for me
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
28 Apr 17
Sounds like he never grew up or changed then if he was a bully then and still is. Definitely not easy to find a job in general nevermind once you move somewhere new. Hope the poor kid gets away
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
28 Apr 17
@chrissbergstrom yikes. Dont worry you dont have to.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
He was a nightmare, i have so many horror stories about him i could share on here i might eventually but my own family dont know some of it so it feels weird if i share it on here, plus my brother will read it i know and it's not exactly stuff i talk about to him about.
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
i feel so sad for the nephew of my ex, i think the only time i remain friends with this ex is i kind of fear him, he was so controling and manipulative.....
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@sissy15 (12290)
• United States
29 Apr 17
That's sad. There's a reason they are exes. I mean sometimes exes can be friends but a lot of the time you are just constantly reminded of what jerks they are. That kid was better off where he was, but he probably wanted to know his other family. My boyfriend doesn't see his older kids and is trying to reconnect with them but sometimes you have to realize there are reasons why someone doesn't see their kids. My boyfriend had issues and he takes responsibility for it and is slowly building up a relationship with his kids but it's a process, at one point the step dad wanted to talk to us and I was terrified they wanted us to take his son who was having trouble but nothing ever happened with that thankfully, because it's a big responsibility and with my boyfriend still trying to build a relationship with him it would have been difficult, but what your ex is doing sounds genuinely crappy. You need to give a kid longer than a month to get his stuff together. It's a new place and it takes a bit to adjust to that big of a change.
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@sissy15 (12290)
• United States
29 Apr 17
@chrissbergstrom Yeah, people do make mistakes, especially in our teens and twenties. That tends to be when we make the most mistakes. Poor kid, I see people who are just trying to make up for their mistakes and they try so hard to make things as right as they are able, meanwhile, others throw away their second chance to make things right with their family. It doesn't make sense to me. My boyfriend would love to have that chance to be there for his kids. I mean when you get the chance to be there for someone that you haven't been there for, you need to actually try.
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
29 Apr 17
What makes the situation even worse is this kid's so called best friend has turned his back on him and is telling my ex all of this bad stuff, i tried to tell him are you going to trust this kids friend or your own nephew, and even if its true kids make mistakes he is blood, he has not did anything bad to you how can you treat him like he is sarbage you can just thro away.
@snowy22315 (180821)
• United States
29 Apr 17
I would tell your ex off..and tell him he is no kind of father how dare he criticize his son.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
29 Apr 17
It's his nephew and i am trying not to get involved to much i said how i felt though he can take the advice or ignore it which i am sure he will
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
29 Apr 17
That's sad that the kid is being put through this.. but at 20 he can make his own choices. He doesn't have to stay, I'm sure he has family back home he can go back to, and they might send him money to help him get back home.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
29 Apr 17
@chrissbergstrom We always think everything we do is for the better.. but we make mistakes and have to learn from them. Unfortunately in this situation the kid has learned his father is a jerk and he was better off without him all his life!
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
29 Apr 17
What is sad is i think he thought moving from california was for the better so if he goes back it may be a bad situation there i worry about the kids mental health
@Juliaacv (50993)
• Canada
29 Apr 17
@chrissbergstrom The nephew probably just needs some friendly advise and to have someone believe in him to instill some positive self confidence.
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
29 Apr 17
Yes i want to tell him that he needs to bring him back it is the right thing to do even if they have differences the kid belongs with people who will help him and if tony doesnt want to help him he needs to bring him somewhere that someone will
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
29 Apr 17
Exactly he needs people who care and can help him better his life
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
@TheInvisibleMan so very true
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@TheInvisibleMan (17597)
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28 Apr 17
@chrissbergstrom Unfortunately the world is inhabited by people like that. 
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@texasmo10 (19)
• Granbury, Texas
29 Apr 17
That's terrible, nobody deserves to have a mentally abusive family members. Especially someone who wasn't a part of their life for 20 years!!
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Apr 17
then tell him. obviously they are too dysfunctional for him to get any peace in life
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
I did tell him then i deleted him
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@marguicha (223107)
• Chile
28 Apr 17
You cannot do much for the boy but you can save yourself from trouble. Don´t mind him.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
29 Apr 17
Well he doesnt have any money nor did he drive out here, so someone from his former home would have to come get him or send him money for a train
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@teamfreak16 (43418)
• Denver, Colorado
28 Apr 17
Wow. Not a good situation at all.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
29 Apr 17
not at all i hope the kid can get away from this situation
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
28 Apr 17
Oh that's sad. I kind of wondered though, the kid moving so soon after having been found.... I hope it works out for the best, and probably all for the best you're not with that ex- any more.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
28 Apr 17
yes the kid should have never moved without knowing the family very well
