my wife doesn't understand my needs.

seems your wife love you so much. she want to stay with you more time.

You sound too selfish to be married. So yes, you have needs but what about hers? Her needs are that she wants to cuddle. Make time for each other then. Otherwise, don't be married.

Well my suggestion is to make one night where you can do what you want to relax but in the same respect give her one night to go and relax and spend that night having quality time with the kids. For us that works great. My guy and son go to scouts one night a week and I like to relax while I have the house to myself. Then on the next night I take my son to another activity and he gets to kick back at home. The other five nights are normal family nights. Just learn to balance everyones needs.

Can you make an agreement with your wife to cuddle with her (while watching a movie or her favorite tv show) for such and such amount of time on certain nights... And the other nights are YOUR nights to do whatever?

she probably craves adult attention.. i know i do after being with the kids for too long!

grrr...I just typed up a reponse & it got eaten. Anyways...what I was saying was I dont believe you meant to sound harsh. I totally understand what you are saying by reading your other comments. I suggest in a NON Jerkylike way...tell your wife that you need a bit to unwind after work. Explain that you & her will have your time together in a bit or later. Hug her & kiss her once & tell her you just need to chill a bit. she should be ok...it took me and my man a while to get that worked out but we are great now! Good luck.

She needs more than just the kids to be with. If she is a stay at home mom she is probably straved at the end of the day for adult onversation and contact. I understand that you need to wind down, but maybe if you all had a agree where you get sometime to yourself, then it is time for you and her you both could be happier.

wow..that's pretty harsh. honestly, it sounds to me like you dont even want to be with her, so what are you still doing in the relationship? what's wrong with wanting to cuddle? im sure its not like she wants to do it 24/7. she's your WIFE! she's not only your kid's mother. there's no reason why you can't do your "guy stuff" and also spend time with her when you're done doing your "guy stuff."

Ouch. I'd be very hurt by your comments if I was your wife. I believe in giving my man his space, but I also want him to cuddle me (And other things ;)..) often. No, I don't believe the kids replace the affection a husband should be giving his wife either. I'm sure you can find time while your watching tv late at night to cuddle with your wife.

That's awfully insensitive. What's your deal? Do you ever do things that she wants or care about her needs? From your post, I wouldn't think so.

Firstly i would like to remind u something that ur not a bachealor..ur married have a family and some responsibilities.Its understood that u sometimes wish to b and do guy like stuff...but insted of discussing ur personal problem in public dont u think u should talk to the right person about this..i mean ur wife.Noone can help u as much as she can.With love try to make her understand ur feelings ..and also try to understand her feelings for u.Ask her to occupy her mind with something more creative..keep herself busy ...besides kids.Mayb that wil hepl solve urs as well as her problem.

I would like to say, though it is your opinion, you are not a guy anymore, your are now pronounced as man and you have to abide by some of the duties and responsibilities that of your wife and the family and also the children. so you want it o not.. sometimes you have to do it for the sake of them.So buddy do not feel that way. you try to ind out some time in between of these to do all your guy staff that you are referring to.

I think there may be a communiction problem here! Sure you need time to do 'guy stuff', but she also needs to have time to be in contact with you. You say she has kids to be with, what the heck? Aren't they your kids too? She married you not the kids. They are to be caretaken, not equal at this time. Instead of complaining, try talking, let her know that you need some space, but remember she has needs too.

why did you marry her? we all need our own space and its healthy to do so-but be careful you are not shutting her out or she may start to live her own life too....

I can understand that you want to have your guy time but you hvae to compromise with your spouse, if you are newly married, then expect that you should spend more time with your wife and new family because marrying her means marrying her kids too, whether you like it or not, you knew what you were getting into and if you did not well then I guess you are not very smart person to have gotten into the situation you are in. Anyway, I would just tell her that you want to have one night or one full day with having time to yourself, even if it means, you go to your best friends house and just hang out there....She gets to have the same though as well, like if she wants to go shopping or to the spa for the day without the kids, you should step up and help out by spending time with the kids. Welcome to marriage buddy!

Hi. I understand a guy wanting to be by himself. But, why don't you want to be with her? Men are from Mars..... Women like to cuddle. Maybe you should set some time aside for cuddling. Take care.