Not a nice thing to hear

If they are being bullied then they should report it. Are they being offered advice or really being bullied? Newbies may write single sentence posts which are a pain in the neck. Their posts should be meaningful to others. Not something like I had toast with jam for breakfast. It is a waste of my time to read such things. If they said they made the bread themselves and explained how they did it. How good it tasted and how nice it was to smell the bread cooking then that would be a better type of post. No one should be bullied. Stand up to Bullies.

There are one or two members here who have been inclined to post just "Reported" in response to a new member's post without any attempt to explain about the Guidelines or why the post was reported. I can see that that might be construed (and justifiably so) as an attack and, perhaps, bullying. This is not the kind of response which myLot wants to see, as Alex has posted a while back (see below). As the person you quote is reporting "what they have heard", it is difficult to reply to it except to say that, yes, it has happened from time to time and it's not something which myLot in any way encourages but it is practically impossible to actively moderate responses unless they are reported It should be pointed out that most members here are very welcoming to newcomers.

There are usually two or three points of view about every disagreement. There are also times when the meaning and intent gets "lost in translation". There are also times where people ARE bullies. I have a friend who posts regularly here now that almost did not come back because another member said that her posts about her family, her crafts and her day to day life were boring and not appropriate. I am glad I could convince her to come back, though, as we all enjoy her posts. I would say if it is one person criticizing another it may be bullying. On the other hand, if several people have something to say about certain posts, the posts themselves may be faulty and the person posting should not get upset but should listen to the advice.

May be some one has faced criticism here. No idea how they complaint like that.

It's very common that people who break rules stomp off and then claim they were bullied. Mind you, there are also people who've been here a long time who still haven't grown up enough to deal with their 'issues' without ranting and blocking so it's not restricted to newbies. People who cry 'not fair' and claim to be victims are often the worst offenders.

Do you have a link where we can check that forum? We would like to know so that we can share our fair view of the issue.

Sad. I havent ever really seen anything like this at MyLoy. If anyone scolded them it was probably fot spamming or not following the guidelines. Lol

My daughter left myLot because a member "attacked" her views. My daughter is a very self-opinionated person and I can only guess that she was disagreeing with another myLot member but it turned out to be quite a big altercation that she left myLot.

You should have included a link to that forum discussion so we can study what they are actually saying.

Well that's sad to read. I think there's a difference between having a different opinion about something, bullying and attacking. I think some people think their just disagreeing but in fact their making others feel stupid because they don't agree with them... We all should be more welcoming to the new people that come to Mylot.

Unlike another, now defunct, site of which I was a member, I do not believe there is anything in the myLot guidelines preventing such discussion from happening here, on myLot itself. OK, you're not meant to mention other members unfavourably in your posts here, admittedly - but I'd hate to feel I was being discussed about my behaviour here on a third forum, or on FaceBook (worse yet!). What should you say on that forum? Ask if the aggrieved member(s) would like to give myLot another try, provided the myLot guidelines are read and understood...

What you said here in your third paragraph would be good.

Actually no.. I never felt so and I am a newbie. Although some are very straight forward here but it doesn't mean they are attacking. They have put their opinion and you satisfy them if you could that's so simple.

I think sometimes we are quick to point out people's mistakes, instead of offering an explanation why it's a mistake

I think an opinion can be given in a correct way but never to put the other person down. Somebody tried that with me and I quickly pointed out the many many faults she had in her writing. Where I come from they say "if you can´t say something good about someone better not say it at all". I stick to that. If I don´t like or understand a Post altogether I will go back to it another time and see if I can get the gist of it and if not I leave it be.

I have been here from last 6-7 years and have never been attacked or attacked someone. May be that person have faced criticism by someone and have believed that all the users do that with the newbies.

I must be living in a MyLot cave. I've never seen "old-timers" attack "rookies."

Hmmm "fresh contents which new members bring"?? What is he/she talking about? Old or new can always bring fresh contents. If he/she couldn't settle here that only means he/she has an EXTREMELY WEAK personality.

you should share your true experience.

Oh that's sad. But maybe they had a bad experience here